Husband went to brothel says he’s innocent

[Hesatwat]

Husband has admitted he went to a brothel while on a lads holiday and that he didn’t realise it was a brothel and he just sat on the slot machines gambling. Said brothel doesn’t advertise slot machines but after scouring comments online say there are a couple in there. He is outrightly denying doing anything. He’s never cheated before. Says him and his mate just went to gamble. Says there were no women in that room. I want to believe he’s telling the truth but honestly how dumb can I be to stay with him now? Just to add he didn’t tell me I found out he had taken a taxi to the exact location of brothels with nothing else in the vicinity. Anyone else dealt with similar? What would you do? He is quite convincingly denying everything

Haven't read the full thread, sorry. But I have accidentally gone into a brothel abroad. Wanted a late drink, it was near the hotel, walked in.

I can tell you it was stunningly obvious even though it was a bar at the front. We stayed five minutes to glug the drinks and left. NO ONE was there for the slot machines. And the second I came home I told everyone the story, because it was shocking to me. DH would never have known if I hadn't told him, but I told him.

Yours is a dirty liar who is happy to use prostituted, probably trafficked women and cheat on you.

Nobody died. Nice one, bro. Is that your yardstick? You're out in force today, slow day is it, or just some slow thinking?

You told a woman on another thread earlier (that she asked to be shut down as a result), that it was her fault her husband grabbed her by the face and shoved her across the room in angry retaliation because she tossed a cushion at him that she was "playing the victim" and she started it so she deserved it.

Slow clap. Back in your box.

There are so many MRAs on here now. I take it as a giant compliment that we are so dangerous, talking to each other, that we have to be told off with such regularity.

Men taking time out of their busy days to admonish us.

@Hesatwat aside from the brothel incident:
He’s been gambling
He has multiple new debts
He doesnt give you regular money but has money to go on lads holidays
He's shit in all other areas

I'm sorry but his actions show he does not respect you, or care about you or your family. I would be getting shot of him asap, you and the kids will be much happier without him.

You deserve much better.

He must think you are stupid. Get a STI test.

If he had sex in exchange of money he would have kept his mouth very tight shut regarding the brothel story, the fact he's telling you is because very probably went there and played with the slot machines while some of his lads got laid. I wouldn't get mad at him but then I wouldn't date such a man either just because I find lad culture very grim and depressing so I stay away from these "lad types".

He didn't tell her though, she found out by where his taxi took him.

Is this not enough by itself?

He's gambling which is usually a downward spiral into full addiction where nothing else matters.

He has new debts - make sure he isn't getting loans out in your name. Do you rent or own house? Make sure he isn't extending the mortgage for additional funds. What about credit cards?

Bottom line - he is not giving you regular money. Money to feed the children. Money to house the children.

So not only he isn't putting the children first as a decent father but is actively depriving them. He is going to mess with their heads too. He's already fucked yours but you need to start protecting those children from a selfish, horrible man before they find themselves homeless because he's spent it all.

How has he got debts and yet he’s on holiday with money to blow at a casino and on hookers?

OP he’s a fuckwit and a shabby one with it. Why isn’t he spending that money on you? On your kids.

Hes a dick. He thinks he’s being exciting and dangerous getting his kicks going to a brothel. Oh look at us messing in a dirty area of life, we’re so cool, so down with the lads. Look at us, being cheap haha, taking a walk on the wild side.

It’s fucking pathetic. Getting cheap thrills off abused women. Abusing them further for your cheap 3 second orgasm. I hope they catch all the STDs these men and end up with untreatable gonorrhoea.

Sorry I read the opening but missed that part 😓

oh boy….

Incase you do come back @Hesatwat , I'm sorry your H is not who you thought he was when you married him.
I hope you have the strength and resources to move on as swiftly as you can. 🌻

@bonzaitree 'he was in a brother' would be a very different thread 😂😂

Are you sure it isn't a casino? Many in Eastern Europe are full blown casinos but have bottle girls and the other kind too but it doesn't make them brothels. Same with some nightclubs in Moscow, the private dance rooms have beds and these are proper nightclubs not brothels!

Well, you obviously wouldn’t. You know he’s lying and spending money on sex workers, gambling, or both. Nice.

Thankyou all for your responses. Of course I will never truly know what he did with who in there for sure without him telling me but I think the fact that going in there with no regard for how I would feel about it regardless of what he got up to is proof enough that he’s willing to risk hurting me and that’s without actually doing anything. He’s gambling and went to a brothel worst case he’s gambling and shagged someone in a brothel. Either means the end of our marriage because it’s shitty behaviour and i deserve respect. I’m never going to know and therefore I’m never going to trust him again. There is nothing else to do but leave

Sorry OP I think he is full of shit and I think deep down you know that but I do understand love can be blinding and when you want something to be true it’s easy to convince yourself it is.

I would mention you want to do a lie detector test to him and see his reaction to that.

Who gives a shit? The person who asked, presumably. I can think of legit reasons and this does seem unnecessary hostile

Not necessarily.

The fact he went to a brothel at all would be a deal breaker for.

So sorry @Hesatwat

A family male GP we had used to visit sex workers in massage parlours.

Daft twit had a wife and children.

Glad the thread has helped clarify things for you OP. He sounds like dead weight at best, an addict and cheat at worst.

Of course it was honest of him. His little wife should just accept that and know her place.

I think your username says it all 🙄