Husband went to brothel says he’s innocent

[Hesatwat]

Husband has admitted he went to a brothel while on a lads holiday and that he didn’t realise it was a brothel and he just sat on the slot machines gambling. Said brothel doesn’t advertise slot machines but after scouring comments online say there are a couple in there. He is outrightly denying doing anything. He’s never cheated before. Says him and his mate just went to gamble. Says there were no women in that room. I want to believe he’s telling the truth but honestly how dumb can I be to stay with him now? Just to add he didn’t tell me I found out he had taken a taxi to the exact location of brothels with nothing else in the vicinity. Anyone else dealt with similar? What would you do? He is quite convincingly denying everything

Thanks, us women were all waiting for a brothel loving bro to explain things to us.

He's adding insult to injury to you by thinking you're so unintelligent that you'd actually believe him! You've got far more brains in your finger nail than he'll ever have in his entire body! That's a massive verbal face slap to you from him!

Get yourself checked for STD's etc. asap and if he's ''given you anything'' kick him out fast and never have him back. His gigantic ego and sex obsession might actually be putting you at physical risk.

I can't understand how he can claim there's only brothels in the area but he didn't know it's a brothel!

What sort of place is it if there's only brothels? No corner shop or vet' surgery? No beauty salon or computer repair place?

He's an arse!

Dump him!

My husband went to the brothel area of Amsterdam with his friends, but is absolutely adamant he couldn’t bring himself to touch one of them, let along sleep with one. He’s never been a liar or a sneak, so I fully believe him. All his mates did though. You have to put into context how truthful he is generally. X

Ah. So you lack morals and you don't care if women are exploited for men's entertainment, then.

I would be disgusted if my husband said "he couldn't bring himself to touch one of them" -- how dare he be judgmental of the women in that situation.

The only possible explanation that doesn’t involve proper cheating is that they went to the red light district to ogle the ladies, ended up playing on the slot machines, and he didn’t actually cheat. But he knew where he was going.

The gambling habit starting up again is serious. I’d almost be more worried about that than potential cheating. He could ruin your family financially. If you can’t trust him, I think you know what you need to do.

Naive

I’ve seen you’ve already decided what to do. You’re doing the right thing. Just wanted to say I’m sorry you are going through this OP, how hurtful. Stay strong, you deserve better. I hope you have friends and family to support you.

Not nieve at all. I know my husband well and plus this was before we were together. You are just very suspicious.

Even visiting a brothel in my book is enough to warrant dumping.

How about being a grown up with big boy pants on and just saying “no I don’t go to brothels” to your mate or your bunch of friends.

It’s so lame saying “everyone else was going so I tagged along but nothing happened, honest”.

As if!!!

Fools and fuckers.

No woman wants to sell her body. Listen to former prostitutes speak. They are so screwed up and have nearly always been abused as a child. Men who visit these women are beyond disgusting.

You are wrong. Not that it's any of your business, but I am not a brothel loving bro, nor was I there as a user/customer. Also, I doubt you speak for all women.

I think I'd be more inclined to possibly believe him if there was a group of them wandering about and just rolled into somewhere that they thought was a casino but to get a taxi there when there were casinos near the hotel? Yeah right!
Also, like a previous poster said, if it was a brothel then where did he get the three hours worth of coins from for the slot machines?!!!
I think he's lying. Sorry.

What sort of a moron does he think you are?! How insulting. Three hours of playing slots in an isolated brothel? Is he seriously that thick?

Poor little poppet didn’t notice the prostitutes and they obviously didn’t want want to disturb his gambling so left him in peace while they rested and caught up on their paperwork.

He sounds a bit thick tbh.

You interpreted that wrong. He wasn’t demeaning about them as women. He was disgusted his friends could and just couldn’t do that to them himself. So calm down. He was single and in his 30’s. He’s now 54yrs and we’ve been married for 14yrs. As he said.. he just couldn’t do it.

If I accidentally wandered into a brothel I think that I would probably quite quickly wander back out.

I mean, also.....if there were "loads of girls there", surely men would be in and out, ifkwim...why would there be slot machines in a brothel? That's not the "slot" vile men go in there for is it...It's not like they'd be stood there, waiting around for a girl to be free.

Anyway....Smell that OP?? The whole story stinks of bullshit.

Yes, they all say that...

I’d dump him for pissing 400 euros up the wall on ‘slot machines’. Don’t get me started on his cock and bull story about going out of his way to a brothel because….. slot machines. That’s some serious BS.

Did you actually read the post ?!

In what capacity were you there, out of interest?

He withdrew money in advance of his visit to the brothel with his mate where they paid women for dances and full sex. It’s that simple.

Sounds like he's gambling on you believing his half arsed story.

Playing slot machines