Anyone else trying not not to contact a guy part 2??

[YouAreAllMySymmetry]

Hey loves @namechangeforthis5 @Frith2013 and whoever else I can think of.

How we all doing?

I'm having a weird night; I've been drinking and guess what skill it reminded me I've developed: crying out of one eye. It means that people generally don't notice, in the car, or lying on the couch or in bed.

That's sad, isn't it.

I would leave it. If he ignores you, you will feel worse.. if it's starts back up again you will feel worse in the long run. Short term pain for long term gain!!

I feel worse than ever today although am going away very soon and hoping it's going to be the answer to all my problems! Should be a distraction at least.

Why do I miss him. What is wrong with me

You know what I'm going to say!

I'm sure plenty of other people will wish him happy birthday.

He'll be fine.

Do what is best for you.

Obviously I'm in no position to comment as mine has reappeared after 2 weeks, we had terrible sex then he's "busy" for another 2 weeks...

Feel like a proper prat this morning again but too guilty to just get rid of him.

The excuses yesterday were amazing and so sort of fluent.

Why was the sex awful @Frith2013 ? 🙈

This! 😄. Why was it terrible?

The problem is I don’t know what’s best for me. I want to feel I can message him and not care

Yeah me too. We all need to get a grip!! I need to not care. I do care though.

So do I. Omg 😧 wtf is wrong with me lol

I feel the same as you guys. Why do I still care about this man, if I'm honest he's not exactly a catch! And my husband is a really good husband. Yet I fantasise about this other man. Grr.

Well this no contact worked for 2 days last week. That was it.

she had agreed to be with me as support on a social thing Thurs which ended up being just 15 mins. I was prepared to drop her home but she suggested go for a drink. I then explained she was wrong in what she thought I wanted and how I as thinking (I am loads more into her than she to me, she only wants a relaxed relationship). I said I honestly didn’t know if that would work but not sure friends will work as I feel strongly. I said while I am am more expressive she gives me time and when she looks at me has this love struck grin so o know she likes me too.

anyway, some messages Friday. Then she is at a bbq sat and asks if I want to join her there (would have with proper invite). Then as I was close by she said she would
pop into pub to say hi. But stayed 5 mins.

sunday I suggested a walk, we did, 6 miles and then lunch at mine. Lots of messages Monday. We are off on a pre arranged day out weds. But really need to give that ultimatum of we try relationship her way or no contact as I can’t move on.

Exactly how I feel.

I’m going to have to put my big girl pants on and stop being a victim. I’ll be recovering for a bit and need peace in my life and my DH provides that not my TO

I mean he has never wished me happy birthday unless I’ve given him a hint it is

My guy ignored my 40th last year even though we were talking then. This year he messaged me & refriended me on my bday - we were in no contact so obviously he was missing his ego boost!
I feel like he uses me, he's unhappily single and likes the attention. We have gone 12 weeks without texting now though, so we'll see if he comes back - I'm determined to hold strong even though I miss him.

We’ve got this. If it wasn’t for this thread and the love of my family I wouldn’t have lasted four weeks. The thread distracts me and reminds me long enough that I do have my family and then the moment passes

And you’re all bloody amazing!

Glad I found this thread! So good to talk about this stuff, my best friend knows but she's fed up of hearing his name now I think!

Hope you've stayed strong, I caved and sent a little text about something we have in common but regret it. Why bother. It's not like I'm even bothered about him any more, at all.

I have but I just want to give in. Tbh I’m feeling fed up all round. There’s a woman at work who’s done her best to try and get me into trouble since she started but is nice as pie to everyone else and I’m having surgery in a few days so I think I’m just looking for a distraction which isn’t really fair on him if you think about it

@namechangeforthis5 I came to the same conclusion. I was just using my guy as a distraction from all the other crap going on in my life. It wasn't his fault my life was shit and I held him up on a pedestal as the only fun thing in it. I didn't burden him with any of my shit, or tell him about the pedestal, haha, but it was so much fun just to have that distraction whenever he messaged.

Hope all goes well with your surgery 😊

Ha ha. Well my life isn’t shit as such. I have a lovely family and friends it’s just the mundane crap like work and the stupid shitty way this woman makes me feel. As weird as it sounds I’m looking forward to this op as it’s an excuse for a week on the sofa. I wouldn’t choose it but there it is so I want to enjoy the rest. Not wallow into my phone.

I know why l want to be in contact with mine..

He gave me a bit of excitement I'm unable to get anywhere else in my life. But equally he makes me feel shit and messes with my head

Not a good trade off really.

Currently managing to stay strong. Over a week since last contact.

i have come out of a 8year situationship, i struggled for over 2 to 3 years coming to terms with who he is/was have a child together who he has no contact or interest in, at the grand age of 33 i have come to realise that some people will never change and nothing good lasts forever, men are from mars unless u find the good ones and lets admit we don't want the good ones lol so ive discovered i dont want one at all no matter how fit or bigeth diketh they have lol. not worth the small talk, the stress and the heartache which does come with the fun eventually.

@NeedToAskPlease thats exactly my situation and partly if I’m focusing on him I’m not focusing on this woman at work