Anyone else trying not not to contact a guy part 2??

[YouAreAllMySymmetry]

Hey loves @namechangeforthis5 @Frith2013 and whoever else I can think of.

How we all doing?

I'm having a weird night; I've been drinking and guess what skill it reminded me I've developed: crying out of one eye. It means that people generally don't notice, in the car, or lying on the couch or in bed.

That's sad, isn't it.

I've tried to read back on your story but I can't find the beginning. You're so sensible. These men are like grenades. Reading how you're coping (even though I can't get the jist from the beginning) give me a sense of hope that after a year of this I'll be where you're at in the future x

You're so right. I remember when I met him first, my ears were back. Everyone commented on how attractive he was and saw the spark between us but I remember feeling there's something shifty or shady about this guy. No sitting here he doesn't feel like a real person.

My judgement has been shuck by a few things over the years, family complications etc, this was just the straw that broke the camels back. Thanks for your words. To embarrassed to talk about this in real life xx

I feel a mixture of sympathy and jealousy of his girlfriend.

Ooo, I'm incandescent with rage today.

After weeks of indifference.

Ooh is that for any reason @Frith2013 or just the usual shift in feelings you get with this?

He wrote something ever so slightly self pitying in our mutual hobby WhatsApp group.

Anything he wrote would irritate me.

I think this is progress @Frith2013. I mean really all these guys are dicks aren’t they 😅

How’s everyone doing?

I'm alright @namechangeforthis5

How's things with you?

Man, life is a little tedious without the side drama isn't it. I've started my usual cycle of deciding a new job will be what I need.

My daughter has ADHD and I think it's pretty clear I do too, and the constant change is something that keeps me awake and alive.

Was talking to someone about changing jobs recently and they said 'I'd rather have stability' and that makes me feel like I'm suffocating. Someone also told me they would never move house again, and had bought the house they intend to die in, and that made me want to run screaming from the room.

I think we understand more about my head being turned by some balding dude now 😂

I'm ok, thank you.

I've got an exciting day today (by my standards!) A day out on the train to look round somewhere.

By myself, as I haven't managed to fill the chap's space with friends yet.

@YouAreAllMySymmetry ys it definitely not about them. I really don’t need the drama anymore though. I’m concentrating on doing something for myself. We’re looking to buy a house so that’s exciting.
@Frith2013 a day out on the train sounds lovely. Did you have a nice time?

@namechangeforthis5 I did have a nice time, thank you. Then, as sometimes happens after a good day, I had a complete slump and missed the silly man.

Same @namechangeforthis5 funnily enough we ended up texting back and forth all day, but it just mostly feels drained of all the intensity it once had. It's nice really just to have a friend back without complications.

I’m glad you had a nice time @Frith2013 and you may have missed him but I’m sure it passed. I’m pleased you are back in the friend zone @YouAreAllMySymmetry
Sorry I realised after I last posted you’d asked how I was before. I am absolutely fine thank you. I barely think about him anymore other than what an idiot I was but I know what happened and it won’t happen again. I’m so grateful to this group

It's funny really isn't it. We're all sort of...cured?? Did we actually truly help each other? We must be some sort of MN rarity!

Oh, he won't ever be in my friend zone again. This makes me quite sad, after so long.

I haven't been to the joint hobby in 7 weeks. I can't see myself ever returning, I don't want to even bump into him again.

One silly thing is that, if I ever was to return, I wanted to have lost some weight and have better hair! Well, I've lost 11lbs so far and my hair is growing.

I put on loads of weight in the weeks after we split up so I am only back to the weight he would remember, which is annoying!

@Frith2013 I kind of get that but also you are already too good for him! Have you missed the joint hobby? Is there something else you would like to do?
@YouAreAllMySymmetry it is a rarity yes but I think we did! 😊
I deleted the guy’s number and haven’t been tempted to add it back. Did unblock him but then deleted it.

Well done with the blocking, @namechangeforthis5

I always looked like an Amazon next to him. I could pick him up easily. Once he sat on my knee and I stood up WHILST HOLDING HIM and carried him across the room!

Just asked Alexa and it is day 60 of no contact for me.

I hate to say this but it is like being an alcoholic - you are never really cured. It's always there and you have to be strong.

Actually Alexa is probably the most sensible thing to ask advice from 😂

Thank you. Well I didn’t block him but I did delete his number. I screenshot it but I’ve not been tempted even once to add it.

Genuinely after our last conversation I hade absolutely no feelings about talking to him at all.

@loveburnt you're dead right actually.

I was thinking about my last post and I'm actually far from cured. I guess I momentarily felt it, but I was lying to myself really.

I am coping with it and living with it, but I genuinely don't think there will be a time it'll ever not be there in some way.

It's like missing a limb. Or maybe just a digit. But some part of me anyway, is forever broken or missing.