Anyone else trying not not to contact a guy part 2??

[YouAreAllMySymmetry]

Hey loves @namechangeforthis5 @Frith2013 and whoever else I can think of.

How we all doing?

I'm having a weird night; I've been drinking and guess what skill it reminded me I've developed: crying out of one eye. It means that people generally don't notice, in the car, or lying on the couch or in bed.

That's sad, isn't it.

Oh my goodness what a sleazeball.

I had it on a game online.

It's rank isn't it!

I mean, it's my business not bloody OnlyFans.

I’ve had some chancers slide into my DMs on Discord - because I joined a server. Wtf is wrong with these guys? One sent an aubergine pic when I didn’t reply. Instant block!

I’m now wondering what game it was where you had a guy trying his luck!

BTW well done on blocking the loser.

Scrabble! lol. Thank you. I actually unblocked him but then deleted his number

I had it playing chess online the other day. He was from Brazil but the Portuguese words for penis and various other words were the same !

Blocked and reported.

@Frith2013 wtaf!!

Can I please join you?

First relationship after xh, only 4 months in and apparently he can't deal with all my drama....... my life isn't particularly easy at the moment, and I do have a lot on my plate but I don't run moaning to him. He, on the other hand, has been in a foul mood all week because of work.

We live 2 hours apart and due to both having kids often just see each other every second weekend. It felt like the best of both worlds tbh, and we've just had a lovely weekend away. And then he completely blindsided me yesterday, and he doesn't know what he wants. Same old script I guess!!

So I'm trying not to talk to him and ask him wtaf is going on.

Sounds like he’s the one with the drama tbh

This is how I feel actually. 48 hours later and I feel like the blinkers are lifting a bit. This is all about him, and his inability to deal with stress. Not sure I want to be dealing with that, but we'll see. When we're together, it's absolutely brilliant. But the distance means that we are spending a lot of time apart. Which I actually quite like, as I don't want to be pressured into more than I'm willing to give.

Are there any good points to this situationship?

Everyone ok? I have to say I am well and truly ‘cured’

Not too bad @namechangeforthis5

Have been a wee bit nostalgic today which is probably because we've had some days of chatting recently, nothing major or interesting, but then I do feel it again when we don't speak.

I mean - it's normal not to text your friends every day! So it's as it should be really.

I'm so glad you're on the other side! Considering it was five years you are doing brilliantly to be past it.

Hi all, could I ask you all one more question. This has been a steep learning curve.

So yesterday I had a look on WhatsApp and he was online like all day. As if seeing I was online I know I was pathetic to check but couldn't help myself. Today he's blocked me (guessing without texting obviously). I know this is the best result and I shouldn't given a crap what he is thinking or doing but I have to wise up.

So my interpretation is that he has been waiting for me to get in touch and I haven't and now as some sort of punishment I'm blocked??

Which is fine. I have accepted he can't send a single mesaage out of courtesy but now I'm blocked??? I haven't been in touch!!

Jesus reading all the posts on here, what happened to the world, is it just me or were things much more straight forward and much less messed up when we were younger????

Glad you're doing ok, @namechangeforthis5

All quiet here. Nothing since he suddenly brought (and left) his bike here last week.

Thank you. Couldn’t have done it without all of you. You really helped me see the light.

Glad you’re ok.

@pubertyalloveragain hes just playing with you for control.

Right thanks. Well apathy is my approach on this, don't react and it'll peeter off eventually.

Thought it was a bit extreme. Seeing how it's played out has made all the interactions and cycles of this in the past as clear as day.

Taught me how wishful thinking can be a dangerous thing.

Thanks xx

No problem. You have it spot on and if this has taught me anything it’s to listen to your gut instinct.

My gut feels like it's been stuck in a food blender.

The whole thing has left me with a few messes up thoughts.

• that I am pathetic to have in any way believed anything genuine and that I can't trust my judgement
• my self esteem is on the floor
• that he thinks I am some sort of idiot, which I guess is how I feel
• that if I have allowed someone treat me like that I can't trust myself in the future.
• I knew I could fall for him so I thought I was keeping it at bay but he has really cut me up.
• That I wasn't even worthy of a message
• Of course the temptation (which I know is not apathy) is to go completely mental at him, for hurting me and getting off Scott free

Abd in addition to all of that he has a girlfriend!! And he kissed me and so he is so slimy, how did even entertain him for a second.

Please don’t feel that you can’t trust your judgment. I read over your original post and you admitted at the start you had misgivings about the whole thing- our gut instincts are generally there to help us make the right decision. It’s a painful lesson but you have now learned not to ignore your instincts in future.

I have also been on the receiving end of manipulative people like this who play mind games. Not only me but mutual friends, lovely, intelligent people who are trusting and take people at face value. Not everyone you meet will be toxic manipulators like this but sadly some are.

Take some time to grieve and heal. And keep reading around to help yourself avoid these types in future.

I too like @TheMagicDeckchair hafe been on the receiving end of people treating me badly and taking advantage of my people pleasing nature. This guy I knew he was bad news but he manipulated my mind into thinking he was ok. Even now I’m questioning it but he’s had enough from me. Try not to beat yourself up lovely

@namechangeforthis5 are you doing OK now, are things going alright for you?

Yes I’m doing good thank you for asking. X