Anyone else trying not not to contact a guy part 2??

[YouAreAllMySymmetry]

Hey loves @namechangeforthis5 @Frith2013 and whoever else I can think of.

How we all doing?

I'm having a weird night; I've been drinking and guess what skill it reminded me I've developed: crying out of one eye. It means that people generally don't notice, in the car, or lying on the couch or in bed.

That's sad, isn't it.

Omg. How do you feel about that?

I think he expects me to contact him now, to say "Oh, don't worry about the bike, you can keep it".

I was really unnerved by it.

I told my son (well, I went into his room to see that he was alive and not murdered by the mystery person) and he said the guy is a prat.

Well, he's got a nice 5 mile walk home now, with no bike.

He's a real manipulative dickbag.

Yeah he’s a dick

@Frith2013 sounds like he is trying to test the waters possibly.

He's sooo manipulative. He did it for a reaction. Ignore

How we doing @namechangeforthis5 and @Frith2013

@YouAreAllMySymmetry fine, thank you. Bizarrely, just drove past my "proper" ex - the man I lived with before bike man.

@YouAreAllMySymmetry thanks for asking. Not great really. I don’t think the friends thing will work. How about you?
How was that @Frith2013 ?

I'm ok. I actually think the friends thing will be ok for us. We're sort of back to where we were before The Weirdness, maybe not as much but that's where we are, and maybe that's what it has to be.

Sorry you're struggling @namechangeforthis5

You know where we are if you want to talk. I know how all-encompassing it can feel, and sometimes talking about it is just as hard as keeping it all in.

@Frith2013 I think you're doing brilliantly. I take it you've managed not to give in to his stupid bike provocation?

@YouAreAllMySymmetry thank you so much. I think I feel a bit stupid but need to not get in the needy stage with him as it’s an unhealthy behaviour. He used to call me ‘slut’ as a kind of pet name and when I said I wasn’t one and I didn’t like it he said of course you’re not I’m just joking but it does make me think maybe that’s what I am. Anyway he’s said that at the end of a text with x after it. Like he just thinks I’m playing with him. This is not going to work. It’s not me is it? I do really appreciate your support as well as the others. I’m glad you’re ok and back in the friend zone with each other.
@Frith2013 you are doing brilliantly

I'm so sorry but...he called you what now???

I'll come back later, busy with the teenager, but you have to know how unhealthy that sounds. Where's the respect??

He’s always called it me. Think he thinks it’s a cute pet name 😂
I don’t like it and he made me feel like I was being sensitive really. I haven’t texted him since. His message was ‘ok slut x’. Am I being sensitive?

@namechangeforthis5 - my proper ex (not bike man) used to call me Stepmum. I did say that I used to actually be a step mother, years ago and that I hated when he called me that.

It was absolutely horrific seeing my proper ex. It was awful last time I drove past him as well. I said, "FUCKINGHELLNOTAGAIN" to my empty car. I think he saw me this time, but he showed no change of expression. I forgot what a silly, bouncy walk he does. I didn't cry this time.

Bike man - I absolutely do not give a shit. He struck in the days after my ex left and I can only think I had taken leave of my senses.

No you're not being sensitive. Calling you a vile misogynistic name, then playing then 'woman is too sensitive' card when you objected.

He's not a good guy...

@namechangeforthis5 I went off on a tangent but obviously, calling you "Slut" is disgusting and he is horrible.

@Frith2013 that’s amazing how far you’ve come. Gosh I don’t know what’s wrong with me. I always knew slut was wrong but he made me think he meant it in a sort of sexy pet name way. Like I said I told him I didn’t like it and he just said it like obviously I don’t think that. He used to say I was frigid if I didn’t send pics to him as well. He’s like a bad teenage boy. I’ve actually replied now saying who is. But I’m wondering whether I should tell him to fuck off now. What is actually wrong with me 😢😢

He's not a bad teenage boy.

You should absolutely tell him to fuck off.

Honestly, you can imagine me sitting at my dining room table with my laptop and a huge mug of tea and I'm really shocked on your behalf.

Slut? Frigid? Demanding you send pictures to him? Who on earth does he think he is.

There is nothing wrong with you.

In fact how can you be a slut and frigid at the same time?

Frigid was ages ago when we used to do that kind of thing. I’m really ashamed of that now and genuinely thought we could be friends. He said he wanted to be friends and it was really good we could be. I even thought about meeting him for coffee but he’s just shown me he hasn’t changed at all. I’m such an idiot. The ‘who is’ message hasn’t gone through yet.

I’m quite disgusted and disappointed in myself

Ok I’ve sent another message saying sorry but I don’t think this is a good idea

He's negging you and it's abusive.

I can't believe you messaged him saying sorry. He's done some sort of weird number on you, love.

Has he?