Anyone else trying not not to contact a guy part 2??

[YouAreAllMySymmetry]

Hey loves @namechangeforthis5 @Frith2013 and whoever else I can think of.

How we all doing?

I'm having a weird night; I've been drinking and guess what skill it reminded me I've developed: crying out of one eye. It means that people generally don't notice, in the car, or lying on the couch or in bed.

That's sad, isn't it.

@LizaMinnellisFurCoat thats really good.

Wobbling!

She popped in yesterday dropping some stuff off and we had a hug. She could see I was upset. Did a couple of messages and Yang was it. Then she messaged this morning saying I looked good on my run (she passed me as we live in neighbouring villages) although she didn’t beep like she sometimes does.

couple of questions back and forth but left it at that. She did say yesterday if I was on my own watching football she may watch with me (hates football) but have not said anything yet.

probably need to meet and have it out with her. Is she just on a friend vibe or she finding it hard And missing me in which case things may change.

She's enjoying saying that stuff to you to mess with you're head. Did she end it?

Just checking in to say I am still doing well. I listened to some of the absolute crap he comes out with at work today - his life revolves around fags, booze and football - and he’s still relying on his parents for loads of stuff at the age of 40 - and I just had a lightbulb moment where I thought ‘what the hell were you thinking to even go near him!’

Hopefully that’s it for me now….

That’s great @Teenagekicksmyass

Yes, due to being confused between me & ex.

I honestly dont help though. I messaged her to say I was sat with a couple of her friends watching football so she popped down. Quite quickly she was stroking my leg. Saw the game, walked her home, had a kiss. I asked if she wanted to do something Sat night (told you I cant help myself)! She said yes.

Then woke up this morning with a text telling me she hardly slept thinking about me!

I know this is bad but I didnt/dont want it to end, so am available.

Ok I would be very careful if I were you. She's clearly enjoying this dynamic. She's says she confused about an ex but then she also loves having you around at her beck and call. I do understand you're probably emotionally attached to her but at what cost to you?

She's messing with you're head. She needs to decide simple as that. She's manipulating you I have to be honest.

Well I am surprised. Just looked at WhatsApp to find a missed video call from him. Drunk I reckon and he’ll regret it tomorrow

Should I text him saying did you mean to do that or ignore?

Jeez it's a tough one. Will you regret it if you do? Do you want to start the cycle again??

Yes and no so I guess that is my answer. He’s going to say he doesn’t remember anyway which will make me feel shit so no. He could’ve just clicked on it by accident I guess but I’d put my money on drunk. The amount of times I’d go to effort to get away to talk to him or call him back and he’d never do the same for me. Thank you for being there @Kat888

Haven’t messaged and won’t

He's done it so you will message him! And he'll reply and say sorry it was a pocket dial / mis-dial
Then he won't say anything else and again you'll be the one left feeling crap for messaging him!
Our situations are quite similar and I know what it's like ! We have to stay strong

I haven't been in contact for...well I actually can't remember how many days really. But today is the first day I've struggled a bit. God damn.

He's testing you. He's reminding you about him. He's trying to pull you in without showing he is. He's missing the attention and the rush he gets when he gets you to react. It's a tactic.

@WannaBeSuzieGlass he is really not used to me staying away this long. At the beginning he used to ignore me then send a Snapchat of something stupid like a picture of food and I would say why have you sent me that when you have ignored my last messages. We do need to stay strong and I think we do have similar situations if I remember so thank you 🙏🏻
@CosFuckThatGuy whats happening? How you feeling?

@PrincessMee thank you. Yes I reckon as well. Like I say he’s not used to it being this long and he’s gone mad before for me calling him at stupid o clock when his wife could see. I’m not reacting.

Going no contact with a guy who I have a long history with , it's turned very toxic and I just need to
Let it go .. it's been 6 weeks it's been hard but I can't go back

@namechangeforthis5 dunno really. We're just not in touch any more and it feels very final, and it's mostly better, but some days it just hurts and sticks in my throat.

Yeah I get that as well. It does get easier but sometimes it hits you. I had to do this with my lifelong best friend as she started being very toxic to me and it felt the same.

Yeah, I've had it before with a friend and it does come and go for quite a long time.

I just regret ever letting it cross the line because I think we'd have kept the friendship otherwise, and I valued it. Or maybe I'm fooling myself that's what it was built around.

Yeah I can understand why you are thinking over that but it’s happened and it’s not your fault at all.

Yeah, like we message Thurs and Fri, I tell her I am dropping my son off at pub in her village for his job, does she need anything (as had a long tough day and daughter not feeling great), she says no but will pop down as needs a drink.

Have a couple, then go for a walk, she kisses me a few times, very tactile. Go back to pub, chat with some friends for a bit then I drop her home and come home myself. Then a message just now saying she doesn't think she wants to go out tonight...

It's like she only wants you on her terms when it suits her. Honestly you deserve better, she's hot and cold and like I've said before she enjoys it. Ultimately its up to you but you really deserve far better than this.

Silence is the loudest noise of all.