Does he carry your bags?

[may2724]

Observing couples out and about, I see men carrying bags for their partners and I see men hands free while their partners are carrying heavy bags, backpacks etc

What is the dynamic in your relationship?

Does it start when the couple have babies together?

Or is it just something some men are trained to do?

I carry my handbag/clutch but any shopping bags, suitcases or back packs my husband carries, he always has! X

Generally DH but sometimes it might look like it's me because sometimes I take a bag so he can take a child on his shoulders and then carry on with the bag after the child has started walking again

Yes, if there’s a bag to carry, my husband will automatically carry it.

We don't usually shop together, so it rarely comes up.

If he is there DH would happily carry them and I let him because I have a right arm injury, a break from several years ago that never completely healed (a partially non-union fracture). If he isn't then I just do it myself.

It's not something that unduly bothers me. If it's a supermarket shop I just wheel the trolley up to the boot of the car.

If it's luggage around the airport then he always offers, but I like to manage my own because he is prone to forgetting them and leaving them behind somewhere. So I am quite protective of my own stuff.

I carry my partners bags simply because I want her to have her best time and be comfortable. I lift and carry stuff all day at work and it makes no difference to me to have something in my hands!

Dp usually carries mine. Not my handbag though.

He just does. I found it really weird at first. As exh didn’t and I wouldn’t have expected him to.

Dp doesn’t have kids with me or anyone else, so not started with kids. Just who he is. He always opens doors and pulls out my chair.

If he is at my house when I get home from work, he opens the door and comes gets my bags. If he is here when I leave he carries my bags out to the car.

My favourite thing he does though is, if he is wearing a hat, he always takes it off when he kisses me. No clue why I like that so much 🙄

Nope. I'm usually the bag-carrier, and if I refuse he'll instruct one of the children to do it (they are teens and fully capable but his attitude is telling).

What kind of bags -- grocery shopping? Luggage in an airport? I'm struggling to imagine many situations where multiple bags are being carried for more than a very brief period, unless you're carrying grocery shopping home on public transport or something?

Dh is the main bag carrier. Just been out and I had my personal bag and he had picnic and flasks etc. Any purchases he carries..

We share it!
I am more than capable of hurling a 25 kilo suitcase off a baggage carousel for example. We share carrying any shopping and we never ever carry our kids school bags (gives me a real ick to see parents or worse still grandparents loaded up like donkeys while the kids run on ahead).
Anything heavy (IKEA stuff for example we carry between us.

We don’t shop together and I rarely take a handbag anywhere with me (although I carry that if I do), no small kids so no baby bag or rucksack.
The only example I can think of really would be at the airport with luggage and we would both have cases.

Absolutely happy to share the labour - with his manly muscles he can carry more than me and do so more easily, despite me being a weightlifter and being way more solid than him. However I want control of my phone, wallet, keys, water bottle, child's water bottle, snacks and emergency meds so I usually carry my rucksack.

We split it. Bag each kind of thing, he always takes rhe heaviest stuff as he’s stronger than me, but if I was stronger than him, which some women are v their partners, then I’d carry the heavier stuff.

Do you never go out shopping?

I carry our bag on day trips because my husband doesn’t think to bring one but when we have got out of the cars 3 coats and 3 bottles etc are duly stuffed into mine so I carry them like the family donkey.

We carry our own or divide the items between us unless I have my granny trolley with me which I pull because it’s right for my height.

why would I want or need a man to carry my bags?

It was one of the things that pissed me off mightily about my last DP. He'd walk around a supermarket with me, I would have the basket by default, and he'd just watch as I struggled with the basket getting heavier and heavier. Most other men I've known would have just taken it off me, but he would just not notice. I'd eventually have to shove it at him and say 'can you take this?'
It was the not noticing that I was struggling that annoyed me. He'd carry stuff if I asked, but it never occurred to him to just - take it. Or even to ask if I needed help.

He carries more than me but I carry some too. I like to keep fit so it's also usually me carrying our baby in the carrier.

DH is the bag-carrier, as well as car loader and unloader (for big bags) and the carter of bags both down the stairs and up.
If I try and do it he'll say 'No, let me.' He's fitter and stronger and I have crap knees.

This ^ at our house.

Same as woodpecker here. I plan for the day so have a rucksack with water, first aid, spare clothes. Then I end up carrying everyone else's stuff as well. I actually miss the pushchair as it was an easy place to put everything and push it along. DH will carry the bag if I ask him but mostly I don't.

For what, though? Groceries we get delivered, we get a vegetable box or stuff at the farmer's market. Buying clothes is a solo thing.

We don't shop together.
When going on holidays we have similar sized suitcases but he takes the heavier one (only fair as it contains his heavy sports equipment!). Generally I'd say we share the load. My DH thinks I'm capable of carrying my own bags, and I am! If something is very heavy he'll take it.

Dh carries any bags. He'll come out to the car and take any bags if he's around and I've been by myself.
I'm amused by all those clarifications of "not my handbag though.." picturing lots of men carrying their partners handbags over their shoulder for them. Dh better not even try that one!

For us, it's usually day out with the kids so big bag with spare clothes, snacks, water etc

But also weekends away are usually by train so those too