Does he carry your bags?

[may2724]

Observing couples out and about, I see men carrying bags for their partners and I see men hands free while their partners are carrying heavy bags, backpacks etc

What is the dynamic in your relationship?

Does it start when the couple have babies together?

Or is it just something some men are trained to do?

I insist on carrying my own bags.
I’m independent and don’t want to fall apart if ever he’s not here

DH is happy to act as pack horse. I let him. 😂

I’ve actually just hauled my case onto the train and up onto the luggage rack. Use it or lose it

My DH is much stronger than me and always takes the heavy bags and he brings in his mum's bags when she visits. We work outside and take a picnic lunch in two baskets and he always insists on carrying them. I'm certainly capable of carrying them myself but still appreciate it very much. He says it makes sense as he's the stronger one.

My older brother is very different. He's much bigger and stronger than his wife but he lets her carry everything. I've seen him stroll ahead, hands free, while she's laden and in those cases it's me who takes some of the bags from her.

It very much depends on the situation. If he needs his hands free to check things out then I take the bags and vice versa. If we are out on a hike with only one day sack we take it in turns to have it on our back. If our (adult) son is with us he always offers to take the bags.

You need to carry heavy stuff in preparation for old age. Those saying ‘he’s stronger than me’ wise up.

I see this all the time - tiny slim women pushing a buggy containing a toddler , a 4 year old on the side and the buggy laden down with shopping bags. While a man walks beside her holding his mobile phone and nothing else 😡😡

It happens so often, they can’t all be women who are champion weight lifters accompanied by men who have a back injury .

I do a physical job, get a lot of exercise and do plenty of lifting.

Not sure anyone is saying they never carry heavy stuff.

I’m fit and strong enough to carry a bag. I can open a door for myself and I don’t need to sit down on the tube. It doesn’t bother me as I’m able to cope all by myself.

Always carry my own handbag. DP will take shopping or holiday cases etc. I normally prefer to have my own backpack as it’s got my water/headphones/tissues etc in and I’d rather not have to ask for everything all the time.

It varies for various reasons. We’re both capable and usually even the load but that varies as needs be.

My ex used to do this. He would also open.and shut car door for me. I loved it. Happy days

My husband has always automatically carried any bags I have, apart from my handbag.

I'm quite capable of carrying my own bags and would find it quite odd if a man insisted on carrying my suitcase as well as his. I'm not some helpless woman after all.

Shopping is a different matter entirely.

My dh is very good about carrying bags when we are shopping etc though I am at the use it or lose it stage of life so I do take my share.

However, in another life, I used to work at an off licence. The young couples on holiday would come in and buy plenty and the blokes in their Docs would head off outside to wait. The girls dressed to the nines in their teeter totters would be laden down with beer, spirits, mixers, bubbles to navigate a heavy door, steps and uneven paving on a hillside. I wouldn’t be having it. I would be at the door calling the blokes in and telling them to a) mind their manners and b) mind my OHS, thank you.

Obviously we each carry our own suitcase if we're going away. I can't think of any other situation where there would be bags to carry. The food shop goes from the trolley to the car. We don't buy anything else in a physical shop.

I didn't carry my DC schoolbags so it's an absolute no-no that I'll carry my DGC!

We both carry the bags.

In my previous relationship I carried all the bags. In my current relationship, I went to pick up a small suitcase today (full of my things so expected to carry it) and he said “absolutely not. If you have to carry something you can carry this bag” and handed me the smallest lightest bag I’ve ever seen 😊.

He carries everything bar my handbag. Despite my many protests. If there is litrally too many he will let me carry something light.

DP carries the bags, took a while to get used to after being married to someone who wouldn't have thought of it and made me do all the piggy backing and carrying of kids.

We share the load. Even on day hikes we each carry a small backpack. He does however do all the “high” stuff - changing lightbulbs, clipping our tall privet, getting things from the top cupboard as he’s 6ft3 and I’m 5ft6.

My exh never offered and I never expected him to carry things.
Current partner doesn't like me carrying heavy stuff.
I often carry heavy stuff when he's not around, and see it as keeping my strength up, but it is nice having someone looking out for you. He also offers me a scarf/jacket if I look cold, gives me a hand if any climbing is required, and is considerate in various other ways my ex would never have thought of.
We don't have children together. Maybe he learnt it off his dad as a child?

I carry my own handbag but dh carries everything else he does the same for the kids to he will happily carry there coats bags etc