Oh shit! I pressed SEND by mistake WWYD?

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Bad break up from ex. Never told him how much he hurt me. Blocked and went no contact.

Have composed various rants/outpourings/upset/anger etc when l have been down to say all the things l didn't say at the time.

This time l got distracted and the cursor went to send. Oh Hell he is going to think l am totally unhinged. It's been 4 years of no contact and now he gets pages of raw emotion.

How would you salvage this situation? I feel all my hard work of being no contact has been ruined. What an idiot having his real address in the address bar. I'm mortified. It looks as if l haven't moved on at all. I haven't much but l didn't want him to know this. What would you do?

Can you recall it?

Id block him.

And in future I’d compose my outpourings in MS Word and not in an email with his email address.

Yikes. I do feel.for you. Hopefully he may have your email.blocked and won't get it.

If he responds: "oh that was from years ago, I was clearing out my mailbox deleting stuff and must have clicked send by mistake. All water under the bridge now. Hope all's well."

If he doesn't respond, do nothing.

But why after 4 years are you still poring over these old emails?

Oh Christ OP!That is a stinker of a mistake, you poor thing.

Could you perhaps send another 2 line email afterwards something like 'Apologies, this was an extremely old email in my Drafts folder - sent in error'

Then block his email too and forget all about the whole thing

As Flanders would say, that’s a peach of a breach. I agree with the follow up saying sorry, noticed my email drafts malfunctioned, please ignore.

Block and ignore.

Don't bother offering an apology as it's just opening up a line of communication and you'll just sit there wondering if he's read it, accepted it and if he'll reply.

Think of your email as a burn letter and move on.

After I'd died a thousand deaths, I think I'd go with @Elektra1's suggestion.

Do try get past this break up though, 4 years is a long time to be still so angry.

Yup, msg as per pps re a draft malfunction.

And then, for goodness sake, either get some help or let go of it. It's been FOUR YEARS???

I'd block him. Delete all his contact numbers and block him on everything.

Unless you have the type of phone or account that lets you recall messages then that's all you can do.

I'd also go to my GP and see if there were any therapy services that would be available or suitable because it's concerning that you are still writing such messages after 4 years and sounds like you might need a little bit of support.

You poor thing! Whether you can claim it was an old email in drafts sent in error really depends on if the email says something that makes it clear that it was written recently like “I have been upset fir ; years” or something. In that case, definitely don’t lie and make it worse.

Embarrassing as it is, I think there’s nothing to be done, and perhaps use this as a spur to address why you are still feeling like this 4 years later. Not saying that in a judgemental way, lots of people take a long time to get over being badly treated. Good luck OP.

Give it another 4 years and you'll have uncringed enough to share this story in a mumsnet thread of embarrassing stories 😆

Why are you still pretending to email him
four years later.

I would do this 👆 maybe after I'd hyperventilated and died.

Firstly, be honest with yourself. You didn't send it by mistake. You sent it and are now thinking 'oh fuck'. Delete his address from your contacts & block so you don't receive any reply.

It’s been 4 years? I think you haven’t moved on so maybe this could be the catalyst to get help?

Yes I wondered that…no one sends this by mistake.

I wouldn't send any other messages.

It doesn't really matter what he thinks 🤷

So if he reads it, he thinks wow I made an impression 😂. Who cares? He did, you felt the way you felt, pretending you didn't is a bit redundant, I'm sure he already knew what a dick he'd been to you.

No-one died.

I would probably block and no doubt you'll wake up sweating about it for years to come, but never mind. His opinion ain't worth shit anyway.

If he hasn’t read the email, it still might not be too late for you to recall it.

Id do this

Oh god
I hope he does t reply with 'sorry who is this?'
I'd tell him it had been in my drafts from years ago and as I was clearing out I must have sent it by mistake. That I am happy married to a multimillion & clearing out emails while on a yacht in the med

X post! ⬆️

I guess the subconscious might have been at work or l would have made sure l wasn't writing it in an email with his actual address. It was an email l composed and did plan to send immediately after we split. I never did. Just go back to it and rewrite bits. I thought it was helping me but maybe it's become unhealthy. I really loved him and yes l'm not really over it so maybe time to do something about that instead of composing endless epistles

Yes, I suspect the same.
You did it OP, don't do it again

I have occasionally got messages from exes many years on. I just assumed they were drunk and felt a bit sorry for them. I doubt he will respond. It is a sign that you have to move on OP.