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Sumspring · 2024-05-27T12:37:19+00:00

How many couples are there out there who do oral sex? Does your male partner goes down on you? Do you perform oral sex on them? My husband and I have never done it. I was wondering if we are unusual not to. Do most couples do it? When I see a sex scene in a film, the man often goes down on the woman first. Does this represent sex in most relationships? I just have no idea, because I don't ask my friends about this.

casolly · 27/05/2024 20:40

No. It leaves a bad taste in the mouth.

Choochoo21 · 27/05/2024 20:42

I do and many of my friends do but I know lots of men and women who don’t do it.

The issue only comes if one of you does it and the other one doesn’t.

If you and your partner are both happy not giving/receiving then it doesn’t matter what anyone else does or doesn’t do.

Waffle78 · 27/05/2024 20:45

I have done it but not every partner wanted to. Found out about 10 years ago. It can cause oral cancer if partner has HPV. So not done it since.

PopcornPop · 27/05/2024 20:49

Fernand · 27/05/2024 20:39

What culture doesn’t like doing oral?? Is it giving and/or receiving?

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I never said they don't I said that's all I can wonder if it's that because it's not an age thing but I've only dated men from a certain culture and 90% of them didn't do it / said they never would that's all they had in common so it's a guess 🤷‍♀️

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 27/05/2024 20:51

Well it is personal and private, but it's fairly anonymous on here sooooo...

@Sumspring I have always enjoyed receiving oral, and most men I have shagged have been happy to give it. (I had shagged around 12-13 men before I met DH.)

DH has always been happy to give me oral. (And he is VERY good at it.) I give it him too. I am surprised to see so many women who don't do it. (Not giving OR receiving!)

I know this won't go down well with some posters, but here goes... I won't ever give oral sex to any man with a foreskin. DH doesn't have one (he had it removed himself - by choice - 3 years before I met him, which is unusual in the UK/with British men. He just wanted to do it.) I had never been with a man without a foreskin before, and after being with him I would never go back.

I had given oral to some of the men I shagged (who had a foreskin,) before I met DH, and honestly, they all stunk. Either a bit, or a reasonable amount, or a lot. But they all had weird, funky, musty-smelling dicks. DH has never had that. So I either got unlucky with those men, or dicks with foreskins stink more!

If me and DH split and I did have another man, I couldn't get intimate with a man with a foreskin.

JMO. Don't come at me!

nb; I do wonder if some of the women who won't do it, won't do it because the man's dick and foreskin stinks? 😬

Katbum · 27/05/2024 20:51

This is a sore point for my husband and I. He loves oral, giving and receiving. While I have enjoyed both in past relationships, I’m at a stage now where I’m just not really into it. I don’t want to do something I don’t feel like for the sake of it, but it does bother him as it’s an important aspect of sex for my OH. What with that and my low breastfeeding libido, we’re not having the best sex life right now.

Katbum · 27/05/2024 20:53

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 27/05/2024 20:51

Well it is personal and private, but it's fairly anonymous on here sooooo...

@Sumspring I have always enjoyed receiving oral, and most men I have shagged have been happy to give it. (I had shagged around 12-13 men before I met DH.)

DH has always been happy to give me oral. (And he is VERY good at it.) I give it him too. I am surprised to see so many women who don't do it. (Not giving OR receiving!)

I know this won't go down well with some posters, but here goes... I won't ever give oral sex to any man with a foreskin. DH doesn't have one (he had it removed himself - by choice - 3 years before I met him, which is unusual in the UK/with British men. He just wanted to do it.) I had never been with a man without a foreskin before, and after being with him I would never go back.

I had given oral to some of the men I shagged (who had a foreskin,) before I met DH, and honestly, they all stunk. Either a bit, or a reasonable amount, or a lot. But they all had weird, funky, musty-smelling dicks. DH has never had that. So I either got unlucky with those men, or dicks with foreskins stink more!

If me and DH split and I did have another man, I couldn't get intimate with a man with a foreskin.

JMO. Don't come at me!

nb; I do wonder if some of the women who won't do it, won't do it because the man's dick and foreskin stinks? 😬

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It’s not that common for men to have no foreskin in the UK. The men I’ve blown have not had stinky dicks, because they wash.

Rosebel · 27/05/2024 20:56

I do but my DH doesn't, purely because I don't like it but am happy to give him oral.

ConsiderabloiRicherthanYow · 27/05/2024 21:06

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 27/05/2024 20:51

Well it is personal and private, but it's fairly anonymous on here sooooo...

@Sumspring I have always enjoyed receiving oral, and most men I have shagged have been happy to give it. (I had shagged around 12-13 men before I met DH.)

DH has always been happy to give me oral. (And he is VERY good at it.) I give it him too. I am surprised to see so many women who don't do it. (Not giving OR receiving!)

I know this won't go down well with some posters, but here goes... I won't ever give oral sex to any man with a foreskin. DH doesn't have one (he had it removed himself - by choice - 3 years before I met him, which is unusual in the UK/with British men. He just wanted to do it.) I had never been with a man without a foreskin before, and after being with him I would never go back.

I had given oral to some of the men I shagged (who had a foreskin,) before I met DH, and honestly, they all stunk. Either a bit, or a reasonable amount, or a lot. But they all had weird, funky, musty-smelling dicks. DH has never had that. So I either got unlucky with those men, or dicks with foreskins stink more!

If me and DH split and I did have another man, I couldn't get intimate with a man with a foreskin.

JMO. Don't come at me!

nb; I do wonder if some of the women who won't do it, won't do it because the man's dick and foreskin stinks? 😬

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Mutilating a penis is disgusting. Besides the morality/abuse aspect of doing so without the recipient's consent, having a scarred penis from an accident, that cannot be helped, but deliberately disfiguring it is heinous.

Greeneyegirl · 27/05/2024 21:08

Interesting! It's a normal part of sex for us. I couldn't imagine it not featuring

Vius · 27/05/2024 21:09

Fernand · 27/05/2024 20:39

What culture doesn’t like doing oral?? Is it giving and/or receiving?

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They cover this phenomena in The Sopranos.

youngones1 · 27/05/2024 21:13

I think giving and receiving oral sex is normal for a healthy relationship.

eatdrinkandbemerry · 27/05/2024 21:17

I'm bi and i much prefer giving to a lady than a guy.
I like receiving off either 🤷‍♀️

Laiste · 27/05/2024 21:18

Yes!!
All the time, both ways, i love it, he loves it.

Lots of 69. Occasionally we'll skip the actual sex and both come just doing that.

Yes i can orgasm with just PIV. 100% success rate if i'm on top.

Together 19 years 😃

PumpkinsAndCoconuts · 27/05/2024 21:29

Crushed23 · 27/05/2024 14:49

I can’t get ‘there’ any other way, so it’s a non-negotiable for me. Most guys I’ve been with absolutely love going down on a woman so I’ve never had to ask/negotiate it.

It’s similar for me.

but I wouldn’t want to compare my sex life to other people’s. There’s so much variety and it simply comes down to personal preferences and needs.

TealDog · 27/05/2024 21:33

We do but I know people who don’t. It’s personal preference, I don’t think one or the other is unusual as long as everyone is happy.

yumyumyumy · 27/05/2024 21:33

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 27/05/2024 20:51

Well it is personal and private, but it's fairly anonymous on here sooooo...

@Sumspring I have always enjoyed receiving oral, and most men I have shagged have been happy to give it. (I had shagged around 12-13 men before I met DH.)

DH has always been happy to give me oral. (And he is VERY good at it.) I give it him too. I am surprised to see so many women who don't do it. (Not giving OR receiving!)

I know this won't go down well with some posters, but here goes... I won't ever give oral sex to any man with a foreskin. DH doesn't have one (he had it removed himself - by choice - 3 years before I met him, which is unusual in the UK/with British men. He just wanted to do it.) I had never been with a man without a foreskin before, and after being with him I would never go back.

I had given oral to some of the men I shagged (who had a foreskin,) before I met DH, and honestly, they all stunk. Either a bit, or a reasonable amount, or a lot. But they all had weird, funky, musty-smelling dicks. DH has never had that. So I either got unlucky with those men, or dicks with foreskins stink more!

If me and DH split and I did have another man, I couldn't get intimate with a man with a foreskin.

JMO. Don't come at me!

nb; I do wonder if some of the women who won't do it, won't do it because the man's dick and foreskin stinks? 😬

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It's not really a thing in the uk for men to be circumcised. I think you just gave blow jobs to dirty men. Dicks don't stink if they are washed properly.

Xtraincome · 27/05/2024 21:35

AlwaysGrateful · 27/05/2024 13:54

We used to do it a lot as part of our intimate time but now with kids we just get down and done within minutes before a kid walks in 😂😂😂

This!

Although I do enjoy giving DH a BJ as I can get him there quickly if I am not down for anything sexy myself. However, when I am receiving I like the long passionate game thar DH is fab at. looks off into distance recalling a time where the kids were confined to cots so couldn't just barge in at any moment

FunLurker · 27/05/2024 21:40

I give especially if he's in shower/shed. I receive but have to be in right mood. DH mid 60's me late 40's. Been together 15 years.

Didimum · 27/05/2024 21:40

RainbowZebraWarrior · 27/05/2024 19:53

It's got nowt to do with being a prude. The OP hasn't been back and I'm fairly sure stuff like this is posted as wank fodder on a regular basis by people online. The only other post by the OP is a similar one from 2 days ago again asking again in much naivety about sex acts.

I'm sure either way, the OP has got what they wanted.

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People can still post about sex on whatever related board they want to.

PansyPolly · 27/05/2024 21:43

FunLurker · 27/05/2024 21:40

I give especially if he's in shower/shed. I receive but have to be in right mood. DH mid 60's me late 40's. Been together 15 years.

In the shed?

Inastatus · 27/05/2024 21:46

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 27/05/2024 20:51

Well it is personal and private, but it's fairly anonymous on here sooooo...

@Sumspring I have always enjoyed receiving oral, and most men I have shagged have been happy to give it. (I had shagged around 12-13 men before I met DH.)

DH has always been happy to give me oral. (And he is VERY good at it.) I give it him too. I am surprised to see so many women who don't do it. (Not giving OR receiving!)

I know this won't go down well with some posters, but here goes... I won't ever give oral sex to any man with a foreskin. DH doesn't have one (he had it removed himself - by choice - 3 years before I met him, which is unusual in the UK/with British men. He just wanted to do it.) I had never been with a man without a foreskin before, and after being with him I would never go back.

I had given oral to some of the men I shagged (who had a foreskin,) before I met DH, and honestly, they all stunk. Either a bit, or a reasonable amount, or a lot. But they all had weird, funky, musty-smelling dicks. DH has never had that. So I either got unlucky with those men, or dicks with foreskins stink more!

If me and DH split and I did have another man, I couldn't get intimate with a man with a foreskin.

JMO. Don't come at me!

nb; I do wonder if some of the women who won't do it, won't do it because the man's dick and foreskin stinks? 😬

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@LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway - yep, think you’ve just been unlucky with getting with skanky blokes.

Candles3 · 27/05/2024 21:58

Used to… boyfriends and my now-DH. Now I’m a bit older oral has gone the way of things I just cannot be bothered with anymore - similar to wearing heels, going camping or always striving to be a stone lighter…

In all honesty I never loved receiving either, just doesn’t really do it for me. Feel a bit sorry for DH as I’m sure he’d love to see it return to the bedroom…but OH WELL. 😂

Mumwithbaggage · 27/05/2024 22:00

Way back when it was a normal thing to do. After 41 years together, it really doesn't appeal 😂. I'm sure dh feels the same. Our bits aren't what they were back in the 80s!!

LikeWhoUsesTypewritersAnyway · 27/05/2024 22:09

Mumwithbaggage · 27/05/2024 22:00

Way back when it was a normal thing to do. After 41 years together, it really doesn't appeal 😂. I'm sure dh feels the same. Our bits aren't what they were back in the 80s!!

Yeah I can't imagine why anyone would want to do oral sex after being together 41 years. That would put you in yours 60s probably. Oral sex in your 60s or older??? Just no!!!!!!!!!!!! 😆