Sex - How long has it been?

[Notgettinany]

Name change if you have to, I have. Truthfully, how long is it since you have had sex?

I am coming up to two years (and I am married!). Can anyone beat that?

[LilRedWG]

Too long is the answer - all my fault too

[Joash]

FAR TOO LONG - four days!!!!

[landj]

Theres just too much good stuff on telly in the evenings to have an early night. Not that we dont want too, still lots of hugs and affection. Normally about once a month. Just so messy as well.

[princessmel]

1 day .

[lilymolly]

about 3 months and thats through my choice, just not interested at all never

[lovecat]

Not since June last year, in Cork. Not thru my choice. For reasons best known to himself, DH always gets frisky away from home. We're going to Butlins in May. With the ILs. It should be interesting....

[namechangealso]

mumblechum... am answering your question and wondering why I am really.... I am probably just beating myself up by answering..... but hey ho!

You asked about those that are talking about years.. are we still in a relationship?

Yes, still married but do wonder how or why sometimes....

[Mumcentreplus]

48 hrs...and I'm going to change that 2nite...my hubby is disgusted with me!...liar

[sussies]

7 years, not through my choice ... its his choice. I used to get really upset about it, but now I realise since it has been that long it is not likely to change and we will probably always be like this, it is hard as you feel worthless in a way. I would leave him, truly I would, but I know that ds would not cope without his dad (a/s).

[sussies]

sorry I ment ds has asd

[gracepaley]

3 months, and am climbing walls.

[saggers]

3 years

[Nymphadora]

I did 6 years before I met my bf, since then almost daily , though not always intercourse (is that TMI for a sat night?)

[MsPontipine]

Single - by choice . . . . It's not my first choice!!

(Sorry - stolen from Graham Norton)

[multitasker]

Last weekend. Think dh and I are content with a bit at the weekend but really not that likely through the week - he does have to be up hideously early.

Do people really have sex during the week ??

[tdotb]

yes mumblechum - married for 14 years

[sadsituation]

Name changing too.

Since September, very happily married except for this, youngest dc nearly two and not my choice. Very sad about it all and hoping things will improve - trying to make myself more attractive and less invisible but it's very humiliating. I can't believe my sex life can be over at 40 and dh seems to think things will be ok eventually but the longer it goes on, the more difficult it is......sad and angry about it which doesn't help!

[namechangealso]

sadsituation..... one word of advice...you need to address it - don't do what I did a few years down the line which was to bury my head in the sand and hope it got better. It didn't. It doesn't go away and your sex life shouldn't be over at 40. I was sad and angry too and am still sad and angry many many years down the line and that is no way to be.

You can concentrate on being a good wife and mother but this will come back and bite you on the bum in a few years and you will feel worse about it.

Sorry to sound so doom and gloom - I am the happiest, chirpiest, friendliest person in RL but nobody knows what I hide underneath.

[allegrageller]

about a week, and I'm gagging for it.

Constantly seem to have too much to do with the 2 kids and loony working hours. Find myself gagging at 11 am on a Saturday but both kids are right there in our faces so no chance!!

Sad thing is I didn't have any sex drive either well bfing and it has come back with a VENGEANCE. DH and I have had issues as I don't fancy him as much as I used to either and have been developing crushes on really inappropriate people.

[cappy1]

Does breasfeeding affect your sex drive? I didn't know that...

[nottonitejosefine]

Namechangealso - DH and I have not "done it" since our main holiday last May/June.

We do have lots of cuddles (out of the bedroom) and kisses - although they are not the lingering kisses I would like.

DH has not said to me, but rather me to him that we need to find more time for each other and yes he wholeheartedly agrees but it never seems to happen.

We have started to go out a bit more, for a nice meal and a few drinks, which makes us feel more like a couple (well me anyway) and I hoped this would lead to more things, so far this has yet to materialise.

At least I know reading other peoples posts that I am not on my own and I am whether he does or not going to make a lot more effort.

By the way, we have been married for nearly 21 years and have been together for nearly 26. I am in my early 40's and do have or try to have a younger outlook on life. (Our DS's are 11 and 8).

What happened with your situation - are you still with your DH?

[kaz33]

Last friday and saturday - so about 7 days.

But we do need to work at make it more often, DH gets very grumpy if he doesn't get sex.

[Nemoandthefishes]

we do at least once a week..usually 2/3 times on average..last time was thurs night/fri morning time

[evenhope]

Feb 2007 and prior to that June 2006 when DD was conceived.

(Married almost 25 years)

[gonaenodaethat]

Sex therapy anyone?

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