Partner is questioning our relationship because of celebrity free pass

[Rockiepride]

Last night, my partner and I were sharing a bottle of wine and watching TV.

Megan Fox appeared and he mentioned how beautiful she was, I agreed and jokes that he absolutely has a free pass for her.

He immediately asked who my free pass would be and I again joked Brad Pitt.

He then started questioning if I was being serious and how I can’t love him if I’m happy that he would sleep with her or I would with Brad Pitt (insane I know!) I stuck to my comments and said yes absolutely, thinking this was all a bit of a laugh.

This morning he has said that he doesn’t think I can be serious about him or the relationship if my view is that it’s ok to sleep with a celebrity. He said that he would never want to sleep with anyone over me, that it hurts him to think I can’t say the same, and that he needs to question whether or not we have the same morals as he’s so upset I would say such a thing.

Am I the one who is in the wrong here? I thought a celebrity free pass was a bit of a common thing (and totally unrealistic, so therefore a bit of a joke). I’ve been surprised as his reaction to this.

ExH's was Debbie Harry early 80s version (he's old). I don't blame him, either.

I read this thread thinking

"Sweetheart he is about to go hit on Isabella Rossilini, I'm just sorry we ain't got popcorn"

Not only that, how many times do women post on here because their partner has said something shitty and he's responded with, "I was only joking"? And how many other posters come on to say that's not a joke, jokes are funny?

@GreyCarpet Exactly!! Such double standards the amount of posters who are saying he needs to lighten up and he's acting irrational and ridiculous.

"I was only joking" is never acceptable when someone's actually upset, regardless of gender.

Did you manage to speak to your DP about this and give him some reassurance. Though I believe he someone opened the door for the conversation about being attractive to Megan Fox, you took it to the next level I presume because you felt comfortable in your relationship to do so? maybe he doesn’t feel secure in your relationship and maybe this brought up underlying insecurities. For me I def would not like my dp to discuss who he’d like to shag, famous or not if it’s not me.

Corrections … somewhat opened the door!

These kind of things really depends on the dynamic of your relationship and to be honest I don't see the point of them given that they are not meant seriously just some kind of inside joke (because it is assumed that Megan or Brad would not give either of the couple the time of day).

If you are not on the same wavelength then they end up being some stupid kind of test that someone is going to fail and that is what happened here.

How old is he? 5? Big bloody kid!

He sounds incredibly tedious and very hard work.

Do you think he was trying to make you jealous by commenting on Megan fox? That backfired if so 😆. He's acting really childish. I'd have the ick for sure