Found viagra in husbands wallet

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He says it’s for me for us to try and kickstart us having sex again. We’ve not really talked about that for a few months and it’s been a rocky time in our marriage the last few years.

There were two tablets bought at the beginning of April, he said he didn’t want to discuss as he felt embarrassed. Not sure why he didn’t put in the cupboard or his side table. The wallet??

He assures me he loves me, there’s no one else and he wouldn’t dream of having an affair. He was really upset last night, woke me up at 2am to ask me if I believed him as he couldn’t cope if I didn’t. He went on about how much he has messed stuff up between us when he wanted to try and improve things. He said he’d struggle to sleep if I didn’t say I believed him. As I was tired I said I did.

I’m still not convinced though…he’s a recovering alcoholic and I used to get flat out denials and then I’d find bottles of vodka. He says this is why he woke me up as he knows it doesn’t look good.

I’m feeling pretty confused…wwyd Mumsnet?

Crumbs.

Does he need viagra? I guess it would depend if it was still in the box or if it was a battered looking blister pack? I don’t know.

It’s a strange place to keep it, anyone could find it - it’s the sort of drug you keep in your bedside drawer isn’t it?

He’s lying. And desperate to cover it up. Sorry OP. But he’s lying.

I'm not sure what I'd do in your position but I would firstly assume they were in his wallet because he was intending to take them to a meet. The cynical me says it would have been a meet with a prostitute.

There is only one reason it’s in his wallet. He’s knows ‘it doesn’t look good’ because it’s not.

Sounds like he’s protesting too much to me. And I agree, unless you have a relationship where you shag anywhere and everywhere, why wouldn’t the viagra be somewhere obvious like a bedside table? Why in his wallet?

Alcoholics are adept liars. Trust your gut.

I'm sorry OP but it looks very suspicious. As you say, surely he'd have kept them close at hand in the bedroom if they were to use with you? The fact he used to lie about his drinking shows he has form. I wouldn't believe him l'm afraid.

I think I believe your husband,you did mention your marriage is having a rocky time atm.He probably didn't feel comfortable with telling you for that reason,he hid it in a place where he thought you wouldn't look.I don't think his cheating,it's lack of communication.

So many different things going on. If he's a recovering alcoholic he might of lost so much self belief that he didn't want to discuss the fact that he sexually he might need a boost, its common for men who drink regularly to need it. He might of kept it in his wallet as brought on impulse then not had opportunity/guts to discuss things with you. He feels like he's let you down so much in the past and might be trying to improve things.

If my ex who also had a drink problem had viagra in wallet I would 100% believe him as I know how shit things got for us both.
If my dh had viagra in wallet I would question it as he's alot more open and relaxed around sex, we often use viagra. Only thing that would bother me is ex would lie about random shit and dh doesn't lie.
Regardless of outcome are you happy in this relationship because if the answer is no then theirs no point beating yourself up over it.

You do not buy "two tablets" and keep them in your wallet.

It is total lies.

Depends where they are bought. Official script from the dr maybe now. But dhs father used to travel to Asia somewhere and buy up boxes and boxes and then sell them at the local pub $10 a tablet. He made a fortune.

Where is he saying he bought them from OP? Can you buy viagra in such small quantities? I would have thought pharmacies/online sellers would be in larger packs than just two tablets? Or is he saying he 'bought them off a mate' or something?

Oh! Like ecstasy tablets or something! 😂

Seriously, my STBXH did this. I did not even bother to question him. It is a no brainer. He just disgusted me from that point.

Its for prostitutes and "getting your moneys worth"
Yuk.

For information, you can buy them in packs of two.

I've seen them from an online pharmacy in a box of 2 tablets.

Yeah definitely,they sell it at the pharmacy in packs of two where I live.

Waking you up at 2am to badger you into forgiving him while you are too sleepy to have a proper discussion is not good.
At best it is manipulative. If he does that kind of thing often I’d say it is abusive.

Prostitute, yeah, that's why he was so earnest in stating that he would never dream of an affair.
Some men compartmentalise. To them, having an affair means redirecting time, effort and feelings away from the wife, which equals bad (in their eyes). Paying a prostitute for sex is 'just sex'.

You can buy them over the counter at a pharmacy. They come in a normal medication type box.

AFAIK they're not sold in twos, with no packaging other than a blister strip.

Ha cross post with everyone saying they can in fact be bought in two-packs! I stand corrected (pun intended)

It could well be genuine - last year after the stresses of divorce and being with someone new, I needed a little pick me up (not Viagra but similar). I did not advertise the fact, it was a bit embarrassing so keeping it a secret is not an issue IMO. Also, I would keep one in my pocket at all times, so if I was round hers, I could just pop one in on way or when round. Being next to my bed is no good unless I am in bed, and even then someone else would see me!!

So putting aside the alcohol issues and other behaviours, what he has done is very realistic and similar to many other men I guess.

You simply do not keep medication to use with your wife for sex in your wallet.

... a new girlfriend yes.

I think it's time for couples counseling

Actually,you can buy them in packs of two over the counter from boots and Lloyds pharmacy that I know for sure.