Page 26 | Top places exH sulked - can anyone top these! (semi-lighthearted!)

heliosoftroy · 2024-05-09T11:00:47+00:00

Currently going through a divorce from my super sulker ex, and often find myself thinking, with incredulity, at some of the sulks soon-to-be-exH pulled in the most inopportune moments! Top sulk moments - - On a beach in the Florida Keys. Also a beach in Miami (separate occasion) - Sitting in the 3rd row of the stalls at Hamilton on Broadway - At my birthday dinner out in a fancy restaurant - All the way on a 3hr train journey to a romantic weekend away I planned for his birthday - The first Christmas I went to stay with his family - At Peppa Pig World in the very long queue for a ride - DC's birthday party - On a cruise in the middle of the Caribbean - Looking round wedding venues... I'm sure there are more, but anyone got any crackers from sulking partners to make me feel better?!

GingerIsBest · 15/05/2024 16:14

poppymango · 15/05/2024 13:06

Ex bf and I stopped off en route to a destination wedding in Thailand, partly to break up the journey and partly to see my Dad who lives abroad and who I hadn’t seen in years.

The jet lag hit him hard and he was struggling to get up and out before 1pm. After a couple of days of us missing half the day, I asked him the night before if it was ok for me to go out early by myself so I could have a coffee/breakfast with my dad, and he could just meet us later. Yep, no problem.

Next morning my dad texts me and asks if I want to meet at a coffee shop round the corner. So I go, and send a message to my ex - let me know when you’re leaving the hotel, and I’ll tell you where we are so you can find us.

His response: “Wow”.

He didn’t speak to me for the next three days, until we’d arrived in Thailand and were with all his friends, at which point he acted like nothing had ever happened.

Other notable mentions (different exes):

Ex when I was younger sulked for a whole day because I wore a crop top to a beach party. Nearly killed us on the way home driving like a maniac because I asked him what was wrong and he was SO angry.

More recent ex sulked for nearly a week because I walked faster than him. I was late for work and had a train to catch - he didn’t need to go out but wanted to walk with me. Told me I was being selfish for walking so fast as he had a “bad ankle” (mysteriously never mentioned before or since) and anyway if I REALLY wanted to get to the station faster I would have simply crossed the road at these strategic points (which I couldn’t actually do, because traffic is. A thing and I didn’t want to die).

On several birthdays.

Various work events that he insisted on coming to even though he didn’t have to be there at all. Made sure everyone knew he would rather be anywhere else, and made everyone suffer. Actually stomped off and sat cross legged in a field until someone coaxed him to come back. No reason, just wanted to ruin it for everyone else I think.

Current bf is the total opposite and my god I’m so happy to be away from these awful narcissist manbabies!!

what blows my mind about this is that you stayed in for the first few days! NOthing more clearly demonstrates how sulking and silent treatment is an abuse tactic than this.

Stoptheworldpls · 15/05/2024 16:30

Went to a wedding with ex and 2 friends who were a couple.
Wedding was out of the area so we booked a cheap Premier Inn to dump our stuff. He sulked because we couldn't go home the same night.
Next morning we go to find some breakfast before the long drive home. He was hungry but didn't want to eat anything! We were in a city centre so you can imagine how many options there were.

We picked A Canteen. He wasn't happy but couldn't make any suggestion. He stood outside the door staring at us as we slowly ate our food.

Stoptheworldpls · 15/05/2024 16:47

Oh, another one. Now could I even forget.
This one's deep...
I missed the funeral of a relative because he stoppee about his outfit. He had a suit but didn't want people to see he had worn it to another previous funeral.
Oh
It was my birthday too.

So I got to sit at home and cry all day.

AliceMcK · 15/05/2024 17:09

Got more

ExH - sulked and threw a massive tantrum in front of all his friends and the rest of his football club because he didn’t like the jeans and shirt I’d bought him. Didn’t stop him wearing them when he went on the pull 2 nights after we broke up.

Sulked because myself and another woman, his mates then gf were chatting and comparing notes, we both agreed that English (we were both English) men were far better in bed and the nationality of our then partners who were all about pleasing themselves not their partners, obviously with the exception of our then partners (not true mine was shit) both him and his mate had massive meltdowns and sulks after hearing what we were talking about. I broke up with my ex about 9 months later, she broke up with hers because he dumped her over that conversation. Anyway about 6 months after I broke up with my ex I bumped into her, a few drinks in more note comparing about them, their sulking, shit sex etc… She apparently bumped into her ex and told him about our conversation including how I’d told her he got grief from his mates about being a knob to her, he called my ex who then called me to complain that we had been talking about how much better were were without them 🤷‍♀️

Sulked because our bosses for some apparently strange reason thought that we might want to share a suite in a 5star hotel 2 weeks after we got married. We worked together and both qualified for an incentive trip overseas to stay in 5star famous hotel, fully paid for with amazing day trips and restaurants for 4 nights. He sulked because it was a work reward and he wanted to share with one of his work mates, not his new wife.

CharlotteLightandDark · 15/05/2024 18:04

Stoptheworldpls · 15/05/2024 16:47

Oh, another one. Now could I even forget.
This one's deep...
I missed the funeral of a relative because he stoppee about his outfit. He had a suit but didn't want people to see he had worn it to another previous funeral.
Oh
It was my birthday too.

So I got to sit at home and cry all day.

Why would you not go without him?

AcrossthePond55 · 15/05/2024 18:18

Don't know why posters are 'addressing' @Johnthesensible . Chances are he's off in a corner sulking because we weren't instantly chastised after he mansplained to all of us why we were wrong.

duende · 15/05/2024 19:29

My ex was/ is the same! Always pissed off that “no one ever tells him anything”

if you’d ask and show some interest you’d know!

Also, many times I wish I had the luxury of not knowing. I didn’t. Shit would not get done/ fixed/ organised/ sorted/ paid for if I chose not to engage and not to know.

Grrrhhh

Endoftheroad12345 · 15/05/2024 21:27

Oh God I have more too

In October 2022 he got in a strop because it was my birthday and he’d forgotten (we had been together 21 years) - somehow that was my fault

This then triggered a big tantrum about how we couldn’t afford to buy me a present (we were both highly paid lawyers so this was ridiculous…) it transpired that the exercise bike he had apparently rented over the weekend, he had actually bought for $2000… we could still have afforded to buy me a nice present but he obviously felt the discretionary budget had been exhausted … on him.

I ended it 6 weeks later.

Endoftheroad12345 · 15/05/2024 21:28

oh yeah, “no one tells me anything” - no, you literally walk out of the room while I am talking

HereToday99 · 15/05/2024 21:52

I’ve learned from this thread that Christmas, Italy/Spain, and childbirth are extremely triggering for sulkers.

justasking111 · 15/05/2024 21:53

HereToday99 · 15/05/2024 21:52

I’ve learned from this thread that Christmas, Italy/Spain, and childbirth are extremely triggering for sulkers.

They can fall out, sulk in an empty room though.

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justasking111 · 15/05/2024 21:59

Mine was obviously sulking tonight I ignored for a time then said okay why are you in a bad mood this time. Said that he wasn't, then exploded saying it was because I couldn't choose between two TV programmes. My crime. I'd said I didn't mind either would do. My bad.

To make peace I said I'd watch something on my tablet with ear buds in so I didn't disturb him. Nope that wouldn't do either. I should have picked something. My bad.

The thing is if I do pick something I get a running commentary on how crap the programme is.

PyongyangKipperbang · 15/05/2024 22:09

justasking111 · 15/05/2024 21:59

Mine was obviously sulking tonight I ignored for a time then said okay why are you in a bad mood this time. Said that he wasn't, then exploded saying it was because I couldn't choose between two TV programmes. My crime. I'd said I didn't mind either would do. My bad.

To make peace I said I'd watch something on my tablet with ear buds in so I didn't disturb him. Nope that wouldn't do either. I should have picked something. My bad.

The thing is if I do pick something I get a running commentary on how crap the programme is.

Well I hope that you take something from this thread.

a) Ignore the sulking, just dont ask. Thats what they want, the attention and the chance to lose their shit and b) leave the arsehole and make a new life without the horribly oppressive presence always there casting its shadow.

Vonesk · 16/05/2024 00:12

The behaviour you have described is known as ' gaslighting'

BirthdayRainbow · 16/05/2024 00:37

aquietlifeplease · 15/05/2024 12:53

My stbxh is currently sulking because our child was talking to me about their gcse exam and nobody had told him that it was exam time and he hadn’t been told how the exams were going! Said teen pointed out that he never pays any attention to their school things and if he wanted to know he could have asked! Not spoken to either of us since last week!
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Are you staying with this awful creature? Your kids shouldn't have to leave with this.

justasking111 · 16/05/2024 00:57

Vonesk · 16/05/2024 00:12

The behaviour you have described is known as ' gaslighting'

He accuses me of gaslighting him when I won't rise to the bait. He keeps using that word recently.

To be honest he's 73 and I think going a bit bonkers. For instance we went to look at a new car for him yesterday he saw one he liked, arranged a test drive this morning alone.

Bear in mind I kept well out of the decision so that I wouldn't get any blame. He came home had put a deposit down refundable 48 hours cooling off. Then started to get cold feet. It's too much money, but he insists on diesel, it's too fancy, I stayed zipped. You'd think buying a new car would be exciting. I asked if he was excited, he said no why would he be.

Like I said going a bit around the bend he just can't make a decision these days but won't let me. It's exhausting.

Stoptheworldpls · 16/05/2024 06:12

CharlotteLightandDark · 15/05/2024 18:04

Why would you not go without him?

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Unfortunately, it was as simple as that.

Qwerty21 · 16/05/2024 09:24

justasking111 · 13/05/2024 19:17

One epic sulk recently that has bitten him on the arse. He was mid sulk when son and wife called in all excited because they'd booked a gorgeous villa in a place husband loves. They quite clearly asked if we would like to join them, husband wallowing ignored them. My son another day asked again, was ignored. I was really sad. Wanted to holiday with the grandkids a lot.

A month later they visited and DIL was talking about the holiday, saying her mum and partner were going with them. They left.

Cue a meltdown, why had they asked them instead of us. I explained that they had, twice in fact. Mutterings that he hadn't heard those conversations, you were sitting in the bloody chair in the sitting room on both occasions, blanked them on both occasions.

He's had the odd moan since about being robbed of a good holiday 🙄

I don't understand why you fight just say yes you'd love to go? You let his sulk ruin it for you too 😔

Feelsodrained · 16/05/2024 09:43

BirthdayRainbow · 16/05/2024 00:37

Are you staying with this awful creature? Your kids shouldn't have to leave with this.

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Presumably not if he’s a soon to be ex…

anonymityforthewin · 16/05/2024 13:15

I had a friend from my home country come visit me one New Year's unexpectedly. She was visiting a terminally ill relative in a nearby town but asked if she could come to us so their close family could spend the occasion together. My DD was only 2 and we didn't have new year's plans so I hastily arranged to go to a local pub, nothing special. At this point DH had been nothing but supportive and even gave suggestions of things we could do. We had a lovely night, very fun but not crazy and I was home by 1am.

Said friend wasn't staying with us because we had a small house so she called the next day to see what we were doing and wanted to spend the day together. She was happy to do whatever we were doing. DH had a full-on sulk and insisted that New Year's day was for family and that we would be going out with DD despite there being absolutely no mention of this before. I was deep in post-natal depression and struggling with motherhood (a lot of it because of him but that's a whole other post) so I just went along with it.

My poor friend, who was in a strange country to visit a dying relative, had to spend New Year's day by herself because my DH was sulking that I went out on New Year's Eve. I was so ashamed and embarrassed by the situation that I couldn't tell her so I lost touch with a really good friend because of it. I've lost touch with quite a few friends over the years because it was just easier.

Feelsodrained · 16/05/2024 16:30

anonymityforthewin · 16/05/2024 13:15

I had a friend from my home country come visit me one New Year's unexpectedly. She was visiting a terminally ill relative in a nearby town but asked if she could come to us so their close family could spend the occasion together. My DD was only 2 and we didn't have new year's plans so I hastily arranged to go to a local pub, nothing special. At this point DH had been nothing but supportive and even gave suggestions of things we could do. We had a lovely night, very fun but not crazy and I was home by 1am.

Said friend wasn't staying with us because we had a small house so she called the next day to see what we were doing and wanted to spend the day together. She was happy to do whatever we were doing. DH had a full-on sulk and insisted that New Year's day was for family and that we would be going out with DD despite there being absolutely no mention of this before. I was deep in post-natal depression and struggling with motherhood (a lot of it because of him but that's a whole other post) so I just went along with it.

My poor friend, who was in a strange country to visit a dying relative, had to spend New Year's day by herself because my DH was sulking that I went out on New Year's Eve. I was so ashamed and embarrassed by the situation that I couldn't tell her so I lost touch with a really good friend because of it. I've lost touch with quite a few friends over the years because it was just easier.

Wow he sounds like a twat. Are you still together?

anonymityforthewin · 16/05/2024 19:17

Feelsodrained · 16/05/2024 16:30

Wow he sounds like a twat. Are you still together?

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Yes, but plans are being made to leave. It took me 10 years to figure out he's probably a covert narc.

socialdilemmawhattodo · 16/05/2024 21:48

justasking111 · 15/05/2024 21:53

They can fall out, sulk in an empty room though.

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Indeed! And thank fuck that is what they are left with now - a room empty of me!

socialdilemmawhattodo · 16/05/2024 21:57

anonymityforthewin · 16/05/2024 19:17

Yes, but plans are being made to leave. It took me 10 years to figure out he's probably a covert narc.

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And your old friends might be pleased to hear from you. Worth reaching out. Even if they say no not now, at least you have tried.