Top places exH sulked - can anyone top these! (semi-lighthearted!)

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Currently going through a divorce from my super sulker ex, and often find myself thinking, with incredulity, at some of the sulks soon-to-be-exH pulled in the most inopportune moments! Top sulk moments -

• On a beach in the Florida Keys. Also a beach in Miami (separate occasion)
• Sitting in the 3rd row of the stalls at Hamilton on Broadway
• At my birthday dinner out in a fancy restaurant
• All the way on a 3hr train journey to a romantic weekend away I planned for his birthday
• The first Christmas I went to stay with his family
• At Peppa Pig World in the very long queue for a ride
• DC's birthday party
• On a cruise in the middle of the Caribbean
• Looking round wedding venues...

I'm sure there are more, but anyone got any crackers from sulking partners to make me feel better?!

I could write a book.

Sulked because jeans were too tight, they weren’t they were skinny jeans (4 day sulk)
Sulked because I never cooked his choice of meat (he preferred chicken I cooked beef) - 3 day sulk, I should have known his preference apparently.
Sulked when I was in hospital having surgery due to sepsis, he had to go to his mothers to eat, 5 day sulk.
Sulked on a flight and for the first 4 days of the holiday as I’d booked cabin luggage and we had to wait to collect it. We were going on a 14 day all inclusive but he chose to take only a cabin bag.
Sulked because I dared to order a glass of wine at dinner on the same holiday.

All of the above is my DD’s partner. She’s in a coercively controlled relationship. I could write a book on his sulks, there’s far too many to mention but I hope one day she realises there’s a different life out there that she can live without having to be afraid of offending him.

At the Trevi fountains in Rome, he made me cry! He joined me on a work trip and was miserable most of the time. I had a better time with my work mates.

Wow, reading these is an eye opener for me. I have a brother who will get angry about some tiny thing (often no one knows what it is) and will sulk for days. He recently threw a family trip to Italy into disarray because he got jealous of me over something and then just glowered wordlessly for the rest of the trip. I’ve always been completely dumbfounded by it—have never seen anyone else do anything like that. I can sulk about something for a couple hours (even that is unattractive, I know), but I’ll usually do my best to remove myself from company so I can shake off whatever was bothering me in peace. What’s always confused me about my brother is that he will show up in that state to a gathering that he didn’t have to attend. Anyway, now I’m learning that there are other men like this and that they want people to experience their sulk.

I've noticed that it's always when you pay they feel free to get the hump.

Had a huge strop when his step mother told me his "secrets" she assumed I knew because I was pregnant and he should have told me. He spent over 10 minutes shouting at her on the phone in the garden when we got home too. Never could admit his own errors.

When does wanting to be alone turn into sulking though?

I tend to go into myself after a disagreement. I am not punishing anyone, i just want to think and consider and then talk things through. Its that "I still love you but I dont really like you very much at the moment" thing. But I am talking a few hours at the absolute most and I will always say "I want to be alone for a while, I need to calm down and think". I get the feeling that some on here would consider that sulking though and am getting paranoid.

I remembered today after my sister reminded me that I have been on the wrong end of sulking, once had it done at me for 6 weeks. He was, I thought, like me in that he would got a bit quiet and reserved after a row but it all soon blew over. I was wrong, looking back it was proper sulking.

We didnt live together and it wasnt even me that had pissed him off but it was me that got the shit for it. So after a month or so, I went on a couple of dates, was getting to the end point for me by then anyway, you shouldnt really be falling out badly after only 6 months together. OMG the shit from that! Phone blew up immediately he found out, he said I was a cheat and all sorts (fucking slag being the nicest I would say). I pointed out that I had been effectively ghosted as he hadnt responded to my calls or text for two weeks so assumed we were over. It was (not so ) patiently pointed out that no we werent so I was totally out of order "cheating" on him. I said that if he thought we were still together, then I was officially dumping him. Genuine surprise that I hadnt waited for him.

Hyperindependence is a trauma response...Might be helpful to read about trauma. And of course having "unreliable" (neglectful/emotionally abusive) parents is almost certainly a contributory factor in getting ensnared later by an abusive man.

ExH - at a car museum because I stopped to breast feed our 3 week old "too many times and ruined the day out".

At my godson's christening.

Every time an invitation arrived to a social event.

When I asked him to go to the theatre with me, to see HIS CHOICE of show.

My dad sulked the whole time in Venice because he "doesn't like Italy". Walked behind my mum like a lost puppy pouting....

Oh yes!

I ended up being in hospital for 10 days before our only child was born...I was transferred to the labour ward and was feeling pretty fed up so asked him to come and see me....he then went mad at me that I'd cost him a fortune in petrol and parking and was really selfish asking him to spend time with me.....my best friend (who I am now married to) also arrived without a word and heard the whole thing.....

Oh this is my kind of post... I think soon to be ex fits the bill well...

Sulked and called me every offensive name under the sun on a group holiday (that I had paid for) to Ireland because we had nothing to do on the Sunday and I had the cheek to suggest visiting a local thrift sale/boot sale. The issue being we normally do this kind of thing at home.

Had a major meltdown at a ball I had booked and paid for because I couldn't get to my chair in time for the entrance of the mayor, then didn't talk to me or dance with me for the rest of the evening.

Had a strop because I said I was going to bingo at work one night.

Regular strops about dancing at events we go to.

oh and also had a strop at another ball when we were eating because I asked if the brownies were nut free.

there have actually been too many to even remember

Some of these are hilarious 🤣

Thank goodness you did! What wonderful things you did (and I bet YOU researched and arranged) and he did what he could to ruin it. I hope he's ruining his own life for himself now. 🌹

I was talking to DH about this thread last night as he works with a sulker and it reminded me of when my eldest brother sulked for three months because my other brother proposed to his partner.

We were out for a big picnic for her birthday and my brother took her for a short walk to a spot that meant something to them, proposed, and came back and told everyone. Everyone but eldest brother was delighted.

Eldest brother was fuming that our brother didn’t invite him to watch the proposal or tell him beforehand. Apparently he made the day - which was for his now fiancées birthday! - all about them and that was rude.

He sulked with my brother for three months for it, and with me and our sister for not backing him up

I’ve been NC for years so have forgotten most of his sulks.

Ooh some of these make my super-sulker emotionally abusive narcissistic ex-P look like an angel! 😱Here are some sulk-tasting gems from our time together:

• Two week sulk during a holiday to Florida as it was too hot and rained too much
• Sulked as my daughter was ill on holiday and it “ruined the experience” for him
• Super sulk every time his football team lost
• Sulk because my DB dared to organise my nephews christening on the day of an important match. I said don’t go, I’ll go alone but I was “not to be trusted” as there would be, shock horror, other men there.
• Every time I was late home from work (as I was obvs chatting up other men)
• Every time I walked the dog for more than half an hour (see above)
• Every time I took “too long” doing the shopping (see above)
• Every time I took too long doing ANYTHING actually…(see above)

The jewel in the crown was when he sulked for about three weeks and refused to tell me why and then blurted out that he was angry because his female colleague was pregnant. Yep you’ve guessed it, he was having an affair. I never let him hang round long enough to find out if the baby was his or her husbands, they could sort that one out together! But then he sulked when I threw him out!!! Nasty cocklodging individual.

Oh my god! This is the sort of thing I’d want to do but not have the guts to do it 😂😂

Wow that's terrible you, poor thing, should have walked off and left him to it, What is it with men that they feel the need to act like this, if we did same, heaven help us , I hope that was a one off

I think biggest sulk I ever got was when my Late husband and I were in our late teens and having first holiday abroad together,( it was his first time abroad) he decided it would be a great idea to tip a glass of water over my head while I was sitting in the sun, needless to say I wasn't amused and had a rant calling him a few choice words which made him pack his suitcase and take passport etc and go sit at end of apartment block, I should have been happy to be cooled down apparently!!

Christmas & mine & kids birthdays always...

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This example and the others about full grown men having sulks and tantrums because the attention isn’t on them as their other halves are giving birth or desperately ill is just so sad. Why as a society do we enable this behaviour????

My now ex-husband on our wedding night because I bought him a wedding present and he didn’t buy me one and he was also very insulting about what I bought him… Child!

I like the point pp made about men sulking because the activity had cost money 😂 when half of these stories (including mine!) involve giving birth. What did we do to bring on the sulks, too much agony for the poor, put upon man?

My EXH sulked at all of my births and repeatedly after birth when I was recovering from physical and mental trauma. He literally said outright, “you’re not giving me enough attention!”. I’ve got my beautiful kids, and he’s got a miserable life on his own now where he tells anyone who’ll listen what a great husband he was, and that I’m mad for leaving him. Fucker.

This thread is utterly shocking. Life is so peaceful without these sulkers hey.
I thought mine were bad but these are something else. Sulkers are energy vampires. My ex ruined my favourit day of the year when kids were little which is putting xmad decs up. I vowed to ignore his sulks and would be extra jolly when he sulked so kids woukdnt be affected by his energy vampire ways. This resulted in him sulking even more because i was "obviously doing it to piss him off".
He sulked when i asked him to pick me up from work. I was pregnant and 2 days before fainted on train on way to work. I went back to work and didn't feel great and didnt want to get train in rushhour again. He was such a d* i hung up and decided to make my own way home. Cue a lovely guy at work offered to take me.
Sulked on a lovely beach side restaurant in Australia
Not a sulk but after my borthday party he picked a fight. He was drunk. I was pregnant and driving.
Oh the joys
So happy he is my ex

@Endoftheroad12345 so glad he’s your ex and disgusted that he’d shout abuse like that, over what should have been a nice time for both of you (normal Christmas type stresses aside).

We arrived at a lovely hotel in Ireland late afternoon. Dinner was booked for 7pm. I was tired so put the TV on. Gradually I realised he'd stopped speaking. Went down to dinner. Still sulking. Eventually he told me I hadn't shown any delight at staying in the hotel and was just watching TV. Since then I exclaim in delight when I go to a hotel.

My pathetic twatty ex was also a sulker among a long list of other vilenesses that he was. He once went into a sulk at a wedding because a man asked me to dance and I said yes.

The man was his brother.

The man was the groom. He was being friendly.