Top places exH sulked - can anyone top these! (semi-lighthearted!)

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Currently going through a divorce from my super sulker ex, and often find myself thinking, with incredulity, at some of the sulks soon-to-be-exH pulled in the most inopportune moments! Top sulk moments -

• On a beach in the Florida Keys. Also a beach in Miami (separate occasion)
• Sitting in the 3rd row of the stalls at Hamilton on Broadway
• At my birthday dinner out in a fancy restaurant
• All the way on a 3hr train journey to a romantic weekend away I planned for his birthday
• The first Christmas I went to stay with his family
• At Peppa Pig World in the very long queue for a ride
• DC's birthday party
• On a cruise in the middle of the Caribbean
• Looking round wedding venues...

I'm sure there are more, but anyone got any crackers from sulking partners to make me feel better?!

Your marriage has been rubbish for so long, now, @justasking111 - living with it must be really taking its toll on you.

Not my husband but my friends, sat on the wall at the beach on holiday for 3 hours sulking, that in turn meant she also started sulking. We went to a restaurant and they both only ordered chips and water while we all had meals and cocktails. They then didn’t speak to each other or any of the rest of us for 3 days!! very awkward while sharing accommodation! The husband didn’t speak to us for weeks and weeks after the holiday either 😂

My man stomped around beach in Cornwall dressed on cords, boots, wax jacket in 70° because I had suggested he dressed more appropriately for the weather on a beach in Cornwall.
After that I booked all of our holidays in Scotland. Love him to bits.

Just remembered another one!
My first serious boyfriend, twice my age, sulked with me for a week and I had no idea what I'd done... Only spoke when he had to, yes and no answers.
Go back to a week prior and we were in our local at the time. The barmaid, who I got on with really well, followed me to the loo and as I went to the sink, proudly flashed her bush at me and said, "What do you think of this then?"!!! I was a bit taken aback, said "erm... lovely", finished washing my hands and went back into the bar, wondering wtf had just occurred.
A week of sulking from him and we were in the pub again... The barmaid asked to have a quiet word. She then told me HE had set that little scenario up, (which she stupidly went along with, when she was a bit tipsy and she apologised to me for), hoping that I'd arrange a threesome for him!!! She said, you can do far better than that, hugged me and walked off.
I promptly went back into the bar, smiled at him and calmly and slowly poured my full pint over his head, while shouting "FUCK YOU, YOU SICK BASTARD"! Then I marched into town and caught the bus back home! He rang hundreds of times after that and I put the phone down each and every time. Eventually, my mum answered the phone and said " If you do not stop calling, I will take you to court for the damage to my Ercol dining chair that you caused, leaving a huge gouge up the middle, when I paid you to decorate the dining room"!!! Funnily enough, I never heard from him again!!! 🤣🤣🤣

@justasking111 please think about leaving. Every one of your posts just makes your husband sound more and more a bully and he is bringing you down. He's awful and I wish you knew you deserve better. Someone who sees how amazing your dc and grandchildren are and wants to know how they are doing and celebrates the baby crawling or the toddlers new word. When they can't get hold of you on the phone they are happy you are having a good time or worries a little as they care about you. Your H doesn't care.

We went to Cornwall in XPs camper van, found the campsite, finally got to bed, very late.
He was crashing around, whole van shaking, at 6am, so I hadn’t had much sleep. I am not at my best, I admit, when sleep deprived.
We arrived at the beach, which he seemed very familiar with, ok, but after his constant references to his late wife, ‘Not another bloody shrine’ was possibly not the right thing for me to say.
There had been so many ‘sacred’ places, it was getting ridiculous.
I went back to the van, had some lunch, and sat in the sun. Good thing I did, that was the end of the holiday. He came back, not a word, and drove non stop, tip of Cornwall to Kent. The end.

Spilt some juice from a child's lolly that he was eating onto his new white t-shirt. Epic tantrum in the middle of the high street, swearing, shouting, jumping up and down in rage.

Shut his family member's hand in his car door. Verbally attacked the victim for daring to put their hand there, no apology made, sulked for the rest of the day.

Big massive sulks any time he had to spend time with anyone other than his own family or friends.

So, so many more. Yet it was me who was 'mental', 'unhinged', 'not normal.' 🙄

ExH, a decade clear of him now thankfully. His tantrums and sulking are not my issue any more. Love not having to walk on eggshells and deal with irrational anger.

And there's more...
Silent treatment when, on New Year's Day I greeted my son's friend with a happy New year and husband, coming downstairs from being in bed, heard me. I then made the mistake of wishing him a good morning. Three days later said I'd made him feel like shit. This was the week after the epic Xmas sulk.
At his friend's wedding reception because I wasn't really dancing. At our son's wedding reception because I was dancing too much, but not with him. He hid himself in a corner with a mate all evening and could only be coaxed out for the last dance of the night.
Just recently because he called me over to show me how scrambled eggs should really be cooked and I told him what he could do with his eggs. Only a 24 hour sulk though for that.

Which is basic misogyny. How dare a woman have needs, even fleetingly, that need prioritising above his 🙄 OR a ‘voice’ that doesn’t exactly echo his

At least with someone getting angry you can deal directly with the issue and properly have it out with them. A passive-aggressive manoeuvre like sulking makes that near impossible, as they'll simply claim there's nothing wrong.

Quite! This one made me laugh harder than all the others.

@Wildflowers81 yes that's the exact words to describe my H - not so much sulking as 'irrational anger' totally out of proportion to the event -

Which one of you is the sulker here?

Child of a sucker mum here. They can go on for days, usually when it involves tidying away piles of stuff she’s spent months hoarding.

I literally just ignore and don’t engage her at all. Her sulks usually go on for around 2/3 days, I always disengage and event she has to talk. When she does, I’m polite but curt.

She’s sulked since I was a child.
my father on the other hand (parents separated when I was 2) literally goes missing if you upset him. He’ll ignore the phone and text etc. Baring in mind he’s over 90 now I just let him get on with it as well.

Ha ha! Performative quiet clapping! 😄

I bet George Michael didn't complain about the age of the flight attendants.
What a prick.

Well, where didn't he sulk. No reason other than he couldn't stand the spotlight being on someone else and he knew it upset me and didn't give a stuff about upsetting the children and he knew that that upset me even more
Most Christmasses, birthdays, well mine, anyway, visits to his parents, my parents, weddings, any sort of celebration we were invited to, holidays, if I didn't want to go out with him in the evening cos I was tired, if I went out with him in the evening, if I went off somewhere without him, even to visit family or for work, if I asked him to come along, if I said I wanted to go somewhere for my birthday and it wasn't where he wanted to go
The last passport he had that I knew of, he was sulking in the photo, because he had to get a photo taken so he could get a passport and he seemed to think that this was unfair.
I guess that it was a realistic photo
He needed a passport because of a hobby club trip abroad that he both did and didn't want to go on.

It is sort of funny but absolutely tragic what these sulky jerks do to themselves and others around them.

Have you been married to a man whose second wife had to endure her husband celebrating his first wife's birthday, wedding anniversary, Christmas, wouldn't sell her house, bored everyone, even her friends about how wonderful his first wife was until his dying breath aged 84 .

My friend did and she was married to him for 40 years.

It's bloody awful.

Who'd welcome and value that minimum succour crap after they'd shut the door on you and told you that your sickness is "boring". Alternatively, the husband could not be total wazzock.

No i haven't. I dumped my sulker and found someone who doesn't sulk.

I thought my question was fair enough anyway - she went off back to the van first after getting pissed off with him, so which of them is the sulker because it sounds like both of them.

And he's an ex yes????

Omg OP I hear you with the “me having an opinion” thing. That’s apparently very annoying for my DP too. As is kids just talking in the back when he is driving- impossible to do unless there is total silence apparently. Also with things needing to be special and live up to expectations. I’m still with mine for now but I wish you a peaceful and sulk free future.

My ex used to sulk but not out the house.

But the words "you are the architect of my misery" are burned into my brain!

Can I ask quite bluntly - could you not have gone/committed to go on your own?