Top places exH sulked - can anyone top these! (semi-lighthearted!)

[heliosoftroy]

Currently going through a divorce from my super sulker ex, and often find myself thinking, with incredulity, at some of the sulks soon-to-be-exH pulled in the most inopportune moments! Top sulk moments -

• On a beach in the Florida Keys. Also a beach in Miami (separate occasion)
• Sitting in the 3rd row of the stalls at Hamilton on Broadway
• At my birthday dinner out in a fancy restaurant
• All the way on a 3hr train journey to a romantic weekend away I planned for his birthday
• The first Christmas I went to stay with his family
• At Peppa Pig World in the very long queue for a ride
• DC's birthday party
• On a cruise in the middle of the Caribbean
• Looking round wedding venues...

I'm sure there are more, but anyone got any crackers from sulking partners to make me feel better?!

Not me, I left him to it. He cleared off, didn’t come back for hours, then stomped into van, and we drove off. Refused to say a word all the way home. He has form, believe me. I was left on my narrow boat, middle of nowhere, when he did the same. Christmas was spoiled, cruises. I’ve decided that it was the start of his dementia, he already had mental problems, not all his fault, but so wearing to live with. When he was ok, he was lovely. In the end I’d had enough. Have you tried it, roundthegarden ?

It’s so weird to want to be competitive with your life partner. Definitely a male trait.

At least as an adult you can laugh about it when you are a child and it’s your parent ignoring you for a week and you don’t know why then it’s really frightening and you thinkits your fault . I got ignored for a week because I wanted to go to sixth form
college my friends parents were really pleased about it mine were not !

Not a sulk, more of a tantrum.
A long time ago ex, I had visited at his parents house but was leaving (with our very young son) because the 35 year old man child was drunk.
His response to this was to open the kitchen window and throw plates at his parents car.
Unsurprisingly it didn't make me want to stay.

On the way to the car on the driveway for a celebration meal after I got a new job with no gap in employment from being made redundant, because I tried to unlock the car while he was trying to open it. Cue “I DON’T EVEN WANT TO FUCKING GO”

I was paying. He sulked the whole night and ruined me getting my dream job.

Something I noticed and worked out years after being with an abusive man.
I would buy him something or do something for him, ie bought him a car or cooked a dinner, he would be moody and sulky. Scowling, twisted up face. Happened hundreds of times. He would brag to friends though.

I have concluded that me being nice meant he had to say 'thank you', that he felt he was now beholden to me. That he now owed me something. That he was obliged to be pleasant or pleased.
He HATED that feeling. He wanted a life of feeling constantly superior. And I kept ruining that by being a nice(better) person.
I heartily wish to God I had never bothered/met him, but at least he is an ex.

For years I thought I was the only one married to a super sulker..
my exdh was the king of sulking.

examples include:
every time a friend popped in for coffee or a family member ( of mine) visited.
If I ate carbs or any food he deemed not healthy enough for me.
At friends dinners/parties
Extended ( my) family meals
our wedding night
every xmas
just generally if others were happy or in a celebratory mood! He would make sure everyone knew he was sulky.
on a weekend away with my sons football team to Drayton manor. He ignored the sat nav and took a wrong turn. When we got there I joked with the other wives about men in general and not listening to the sat nav! He sulked & silent treated me ALL weekend. Made everyone so uncomfortable.
on the way home when we stopped at the services he wouldn’t even have a drink or cup of tea - because he was still sulking! 🙄

I couldn’t take it in the end. Now divorced.

Oh that is very perceptive and probably the absolute bang on truth.

Shows how transactional they are. If someone does something nice for me I want to do something nice back because I love them and want them to know that I appreciate their kindness to me. But they see it as an obligation that MUST be repaid, which they resent. They should be BIlly Big Bollocks with everyone owing them.

I had never thought of it like that, explains the sulking on holidays that someone else paid for, when getting gifts etc.

I think you win the thread! Sulking about 9/11 (a terrible world changing event) because New York would never be the same for him is just bonkers. Twat! I was 13 when it happened and still remember the skies being silent in the aftermath, as where I lived there were always little planes flying over.

I just remembered another ridiculous one. We had a garden and a small veg patch and he decided to grow pumpkins. Neither of us really eat pumpkin or had any plans with it, I think he just want to grow it for the sake of it. He got one fairly big pumpkin out of it of which he was inordinately proud, even though it was starting to go mouldy and rotten on one side. One night, a fox got at it and destroyed it. The ex absolutely lost his damn mind. He RAGED in the garden, shouting and swearing and screaming and yelling. We were meant to be going out for the day, to the cinema and a meal out, but he cancelled it all and spent the rest of the day making a ‘trap’ for the fox (which obviously never worked) and demanded that I wasn’t allowed to have a nice day out as it was somehow my fault the fox had done this, and my punishment was I had to watch him thrash around in the garden. And that’s what my Saturday was, as I was too scared to go out and make the punishment worse. A few evenings later, I saw the fox outside while he was upstairs playing his stupid computer games and ignoring me, and I fed the fox all the leftovers I could find.

" on competitiveness, exH and I got the exact same mark at the end of high school - think A levels but not UK. Marked out of 500 (for five subjects /100 each) we both got 390. He genuinely believed his 390 was “better” than my 390 because his subjects were “harder” (Sciences vs my history and languages). Minor in the scheme of things but my God, so many red flags I should have hung out bunting."
Oh gosh, brings back memories, more of grudge holding than sulking this time
He held it against me that I'd got my 11 plus, been to a better school, got better O and A levels, got a better degree than he had, he was sure that his junior school teachers hated him and that they had put his 11 plus papers in the bin to deprive him if the chance to go to a different school, that the next lot treated him as if he was on the scrap heap. Somehow he did go on to a different 6th form hence the (pass) degree. He did the bare minimum at the last minute with anything academic when I was with him, which obviously he conveniently overlooked, but he deserved better, all the teachers' faults. He resented that I was cleverer than he was, he had a chip on his shoulder the size of Belgium about so many things. And that I was headhunted for my job, (which involved a lot of admin)which he could do so much better than I could, as it was so easy. Despite finding admin impossibly stressful and difficult, doing a simple letter for his hobby would take him the entire evening, even just the getting an envelope and stamp from where envelopes and stamps lived was stressful and as for posting it in it was so unfair that he had to do that as well.

@kardashianklone A few evenings later, I saw the fox outside while he was upstairs playing his stupid computer games and ignoring me, and I fed the fox all the leftovers I could find.

This made me laugh! Good for you. I can just picture you and the fox exchanging a conspiratorial wink and a thumbs up.

Mine can be sarky about my better education results, but when I was studying he was out doing his hobbies. He also blames his parents for not locking him up at the time. 🙄

• Sulked at a hobby related event I attended, despite me letting him know he didn't have to come and I was happy to go by myself/with my family. He insisted. Turned up on the day and he walked around with a face like a smacked arse because he said he found it 'cringe' and decided there and then he hated that hobby of mine. My family sat and ate together, tried to get him to sit with us, but he just stood next to us. Staring off into the distance as if we had taken him to one of the circles of hell or something.
• Ruined a day out in York because he was hungry and got a headache from the sun. Made us sit out on some grass (which was nice) while he fumed and grizzled about letting himself get into that state. We ended up sitting in silence while we ate our food.
• Sulked because I warned him he was about to drive through a red light on the way to a day out at a local lake. Accused me of telling him what to do, when in reality, I was trying to stop us from being pasted all over the road by another car.
• Kicked off at me in a supermarket because I suggested we move to a shorter queue. This lead to a meltdown at home wherein he said I 'screamed' at him in front of everyone in the shop. Spoiler: I didn't.
• Sulked because he had to come to a niece's birthday party. Sat in the chair and barely spoke a word to anyone while everyone else was having fun, making me feel incredibly awkward and left out.

We've since split, and I honestly can't wait to get out and do things without having to worry about someone else bringing me down at the whims of their finicky moods. I know nobody is perfect. I've done stupid shit too, but when this behaviour is constant, it really does become so exhausting. Couldn't pay me to date anyone else now haha.

An old one of my mine got into a massive sulk when I started a degree, something he hadn't done himself though he didn't actually need to as he had a very good education and job already. One day I was excited about something I'd learned and he said 'Don't talk to me about this shit, I don't want to hear it. Talk to me again when you're back in the real world'. He also cast doubt on whether or not I'd even complete the course. I left soon afterwards.

An old one of my mine got into a massive sulk when I started a degree, something he hadn't done himself though he didn't actually need to as he had a very good education and job already. One day I was excited about something I'd learned and he said 'Don't talk to me about this shit, I don't want to hear it. Talk to me again when you're back in the real world'. He also cast doubt on whether or not I'd even complete the course. I left soon afterwards.

Edit - router threw a wobbly resulting in double post...

My ex had tantrums and sulked if I parked the car anywhere but right beside the doors if we were at a motorway services. He regularly ranted at me to 'just park it in the disabled space'. The scowling face would start as soon as we were in the carpark. On the last occasion, I stopped the car abruptly as he was ranting, got out and told him to park the fucking car - I was going to get a coffee. And then walked off while he was still screaming. What a knob he was. Thank god he's an ex.

Your fox tale would make a good short story or poem @kardashianklone !

My stbxh is currently sulking because our child was talking to me about their gcse exam and nobody had told him that it was exam time and he hadn’t been told how the exams were going! Said teen pointed out that he never pays any attention to their school things and if he wanted to know he could have asked! Not spoken to either of us since last week!
edited for spelling.

Ex bf and I stopped off en route to a destination wedding in Thailand, partly to break up the journey and partly to see my Dad who lives abroad and who I hadn’t seen in years.

The jet lag hit him hard and he was struggling to get up and out before 1pm. After a couple of days of us missing half the day, I asked him the night before if it was ok for me to go out early by myself so I could have a coffee/breakfast with my dad, and he could just meet us later. Yep, no problem.

Next morning my dad texts me and asks if I want to meet at a coffee shop round the corner. So I go, and send a message to my ex - let me know when you’re leaving the hotel, and I’ll tell you where we are so you can find us.

His response: “Wow”.

He didn’t speak to me for the next three days, until we’d arrived in Thailand and were with all his friends, at which point he acted like nothing had ever happened.

Other notable mentions (different exes):

Ex when I was younger sulked for a whole day because I wore a crop top to a beach party. Nearly killed us on the way home driving like a maniac because I asked him what was wrong and he was SO angry.

More recent ex sulked for nearly a week because I walked faster than him. I was late for work and had a train to catch - he didn’t need to go out but wanted to walk with me. Told me I was being selfish for walking so fast as he had a “bad ankle” (mysteriously never mentioned before or since) and anyway if I REALLY wanted to get to the station faster I would have simply crossed the road at these strategic points (which I couldn’t actually do, because traffic is. A thing and I didn’t want to die).

On several birthdays.

Various work events that he insisted on coming to even though he didn’t have to be there at all. Made sure everyone knew he would rather be anywhere else, and made everyone suffer. Actually stomped off and sat cross legged in a field until someone coaxed him to come back. No reason, just wanted to ruin it for everyone else I think.

Current bf is the total opposite and my god I’m so happy to be away from these awful narcissist manbabies!!

Snapped at me because we were on a flight where we were told no nuts could be eaten due to someone on board having allergies.

He tried to open a packet of nuts and I reminded him we weren't allowed. He yelled at me and sulked for the rest of the day.

Well done to your teen! My stbxh is exactly the same, moans if he isn't 'told' anything, when he's perfectly capable of having the same level of knowledge of our kids' lives as I do.

Mine moaned (and still brings it up) that I didn't 'tell him' that our youngest had chickenpox three or four days into him being clearly covered in spots. Ok.

Not spoken to either of us since last week!

Do you and your DC find that a relief? At least you have each other to lean on and comfort. 🌹

My partner sulks in general all the time but a few notable times...

• silent treatment and sulking all of my birthday at a nice hotel as I was upset he hadn't wished me happy birthday at all
• sulking on another birthday as I had "pressured" him into spending more money on my birthday present as I'd just booked flights away for his upcoming 30th in a few months time
• silent treatment on holiday when I was horrendously ill and ended up in hospital, telling me I'd done it to myself as I hadn't eaten all day (not that I couldn't eat because I was ill 😂)
• stropping off on another holiday because I had leaned on my elbow on the table

I will be well shot of him!

I will be well shot of him!

May that day be soon! 🌹