Top places exH sulked - can anyone top these! (semi-lighthearted!)

[heliosoftroy]

Currently going through a divorce from my super sulker ex, and often find myself thinking, with incredulity, at some of the sulks soon-to-be-exH pulled in the most inopportune moments! Top sulk moments -

• On a beach in the Florida Keys. Also a beach in Miami (separate occasion)
• Sitting in the 3rd row of the stalls at Hamilton on Broadway
• At my birthday dinner out in a fancy restaurant
• All the way on a 3hr train journey to a romantic weekend away I planned for his birthday
• The first Christmas I went to stay with his family
• At Peppa Pig World in the very long queue for a ride
• DC's birthday party
• On a cruise in the middle of the Caribbean
• Looking round wedding venues...

I'm sure there are more, but anyone got any crackers from sulking partners to make me feel better?!

So did you ignore them as well when they asked?

That was guilt talking.

Absolutely not. Don't be silly.

If you enjoy listening to someone vomiting then that's for you but most people would try and avoid it.

When the person has finished being sick they then can be given support, a drink, blanket or whatever they want. You don't have to be in the room or the vicinity listening.

I had an ex who came to my parents house with me (a few hours away, we were staying a couple of days). It was back when Man United were winning everything but they lost that day. He went to our room and refused to get out of bed for dinner. I was so embarrassed.

I didn't say it was lovely behaviour. For some people listening to others being sick can make them feel nauseous and it isn't great for either party. I think you are fixating on this because of other awful behaviour from him. Have you left him yet? Obviously he could have handled it better. I was just giving a different aspect but you carry on. It's hardly fucked up in the extreme when you think about other behaviours.

@Rosa1211 that is awful. You might call him out but it doesn't work does it as he's still doing it and you're still putting up with it. Your poor child. Just why?

Medals for leaving would be better. Why survive? Are all these men absolutely loaded and incredible in bed? Just why do you stay? What has happens to you all as children that makes you think you don't deserve better? You DO. Make it happen.

That's nothing like what people here are describing.
You recognise your feelings, you communicate your needs and you take some time then you (I assume) go back, talk it out and deal with it.

It's not the same thing as the bloody awful stories here don't worry.

So many of these sulks happen

During pregnancy and its implications and needs
During labour
During illness
When needing help
At special events with family and friends
When she's paid for or arranged something nice
Jealousy over talking to another man
Because she should have been psychic and known what she was required to do but didn't
Guilt

I agree with pp that something they all have in common is

Because she didn't centre MEEEEEE

Spot on @HereToday99 ”they want people to experience their sulk”.

I wonder how they’d respond to seeing a film of their own behaviour, acted by actors. Or seeing exactly the same behaviour in someone else.

I don’t think they’d recognise their own behaviour tbh.

Somewhat amusingly my eldest brother, the King sulker himself, absolutely hated a boyfriend my sister had who was a sulker

He used to rage about the boyfriend’s lack of manners and poor treatment of our sister. He encouraged her to ditch him constantly.

He also waged a campaign in his work place to have a man who assaulted his wife sacked, despite he himself having convictions for assaulting his own wife and child.

He doesn’t see his behaviour as the same or even similar. It’s quite staggering.

Yes this list is very telling. I always thought the pregnancy one is because they know they can't ever "compete" in the pain stakes and really get angry they can't show off how strong they are, because they'd do it better, probably wouldn't need any drugs at ALL.

My dad is currently sulking at me because I nearly died and he didn't. He is refusing to email me or ask how I am or after his DGC. It's been 3 months now and I consider this one of his ultimate dad parenting sulks. He did the same when I decided on a school for DC he didn't approve of - that was 6 months. He is king of slamming the car door and stalking off so you know he is angry and have to desperately figure out why...

I am so glad my mum left him when I was small and enjoyed her last 18yrs of life without his childish shite.

My H of 28 years doesn't like it if I bring in a really good 'deal' - we work together but all successes need to originate from him it seems- he always thinks of something negative about any deal that comes via me and if any issue arises from those deals , constantly says 'you can deal with them' - told you it would be trouble etc - I of course say nothing of the sort with the deals originating via him-

A previous partner I lived with was just the same if I had a better job than him or earnt more etc

Some men seem to have a very unpleasant jealous competitive streak and seek to put you in your place .

Oh yeah, another one is when he didn't speak to me for three weeks when I didn't jump for joy at the George Foreman grill he got me for my birthday. At the end of the three weeks, he asked if I had noticed that he hadn't spoken to me for three weeks.

Sulked (or internal fuming/rage - don't know) at everything
Drama on run up to any occasions / holidays
Sulked on every single holiday
Sulked in every airport we have ever been in

Everything.

Still trying to divorce the man - taking me years.

So true @Crikeyalmighty

I remember being on my knees with tiredness when DC1 was about 4 months - sleep regression, BF in demand, hadn’t slept for more than 3 hours since before he was born. Ex H said indignantly “I’m tired too!” despite never getting up to the baby. I couldn’t believe my ears. Their self centredness is so overwhelming they can’t actually fathom that they should be taking care of someone else, be it a pregnant wife or newborn baby. I certainly didn’t see the full horror show of exH’s selfishness until I was pregnant.

On a different note, on competitiveness, exH and I got the exact same mark at the end of high school - think A levels but not UK. Marked out of 500 (for five subjects /100 each) we both got 390. He genuinely believed his 390 was “better” than my 390 because his subjects were “harder” (Sciences vs my history and languages). Minor in the scheme of things but my God, so many red flags I should have hung out bunting.

Mine sulks if I go out to see children, grandchildren, I've sneaked out behind his back . He wasn't even at home. Most mornings and some afternoons he's out with his hobby mates, doing the hobby or just having a coffee.

I sometimes ask are you forbidding me?
It's FOMO, he doesn't even bother with the grandkids much.

If I am out and he comes home he phones me immediately, if I don't answer because I've left the phone in the car he has a tantrum. He rarely takes his phone and always leaves it in the car🙄

He once told me that our sons don't like me talking about him in a negative way and I had to stop it. That's news to me because I don't. I think he was covering his arse because he knows damn well his behaviour is bad. They've seen it with their own eyes

• On holiday, for my 30th birthday, because we were "only doing the stuff I suggested". He had not suggested any activities, despite being asked.

• In a kitchen showroom when we were firming up our very expensive and long saved for kitchen, because he didn't agree with having a dishwasher (which, I hasten to add, I was paying for myself as it was my red line issue).

• When looking around a house we were thinking of buying because he didn't want a big garden (it wasn't big, plus I love gardening and have always done all the gardening).

• At my parents' house, literally all Christmas, because he didn't want to be there.

• After trying, and failing, to assemble a shed.

• When we had to cancel a holiday at the last minute because I was ill.

• When he did a job interview, over Zoom, which he didn't think went well. The sulk lasted two days.

I will add that he's autistic so struggles with emotional regulation. But it's still a massive pain in the arse.

What a terrible start to married life - what an utter twat he was (probably still is!)

Glad to see he's your Ex! 🌹

The difference between taking some time out for yourself to calm down/compose yourself and sulking is

1. can you communicate what you are doing? "I am tired and disappointed and I need half an hour on my own" Vs walking off and refusing to say why
2. do you expect others to then come after you/change their behaviour/apologise/cancel their plans? If I am at the end of my tether and need half an hour on my own, I do not expect anyone else to alter their plans/behaviour as a result.
3. after your time out, you reconnect - acknowledge how you were feeling at the time and why, and acknowledge if they've had to do something like look after the kids while you had your time out on your own.

Not an ex but my nightmare sd (then almost 18)

She came to live with us after her mother threw her out

She could throw some right sulks but we just ignored it and carried on as normal which seemed to wind her up further

one day we where in superdrug

She suddenly started saying she wanted to go home-and we had to give her a lift,right there and then

We still had some shopping to do,so said she could walk back if she wanted or wait for 15/20 minutes while her dad went into the last shop and we where heading back anyway

The face!

she said she didn't have her keys and wanted to walk

Fair enough,so I reached into my handbag for my house keys

Cue major meltdown-she laid on the floor screaming (picture a toddler having a tantrum)

We calmly stepped over her,paid and walked out of the shop

She finally followed us and the sulking went on for well over a fortnight-we where 'embarrassing' apparently (me for reaching into my bag,for using my superdrug card when I paid and for using my debit card-she thought i should have used cash)

Another story is her father bought her a 5 pack of posh,very expensive bagels (we don't eat bagels) as she wanted them but only these ones would do

She ate half of one and binned the rest as they where 'dirty'

She sulked for weeks when I said that she could have either eaten them or I could have frozen them for later

I was wrong for saying anything and she sulked again a few weeks later when I refused to buy her anymore (ditto the broccoli,bread,cookies,butter,sausages,muffins and yoghurt-she pulled the same stunt)

My son came to stay and to give us the news he'd popped the question to his (now ex) girlfriend,they where getting married-we where really pleased (they broke up a year later which was a shame)

Cue major sulking as she wasn't getting enough attention and we hadn't 'thought about how it would affect me' (it wouldn't have affected her in anyway)

Every single time,she ran back to her mother with tall tales (that made her the good guy and us the evil ones-the details would have been changed so far,the story wasnt even true) about how we where mistreating/embarrassing her and we'd cop abuse from her too

She finally moved back out-many many stories of her bratty behaviour

@PanicAttax

I am so glad my mum left him when I was small and enjoyed her last 18yrs of life without his childish shite.

So VERY glad to hear this! Your father really doesn't see he's anywhere in the wrong - and is just trying to repeat his poor behaviour he showed your mother onto you. His loss. 🌹

At the end of the three weeks, he asked if I had noticed that he hadn't spoken to me for three weeks. 😂😂

What did you reply? 🌹

Exactly!! 😀

@justasking111 your stories make me sad.