What have I got myself into??

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I met someone on hinge just under a week ago and we had our second date today. Our first date went well and I really liked him . He was honest about him being out of work currently and he also can’t drive due to multiple speeding offences. He’s had a colourful past but said he’s turned a new leaf , wants a family etc.

i thought I’d give him the benefit of the doubt but today he’s basically said he wants to get me pregnant. I thought he was initially joking but he’s not - he said he’s ready in this stage of his life and if it happens it happens. He says how amazing I am and that I’m the perfect ‘candidate’ and that it just feels right with me.

am I being crazy or is this madness? I came out a controlling and abusive relationship so I’m thinking maybe I’m overthinking it? But it doesn’t make sense to me.

Run.

Nope nope nope. Says someone who made the mistake myself of getting carried away and now a single mum. Give it more time as sounds like a lot of red flags and like you're a bit vulnerable.

He wants a cum mummy

Madness! He probably thinks you are desperate to be a mum so is telling you what you want to hear. Or he has nowhere to live and thinks he can stay at yours if you have a baby.

I'm sorry, candidate???

What are you, a brood mare?

Run.

Fucking hell OP, block faster than you've ever blocked before. On everything.

How fast can you run?

I would make sure there is no third date.

Ugh, no. Either he's got a breeder fetish or something, or he's really rushing things and likely to be abusive.

Dump and block. You couldn't trust someone like this not to sabotage your contraception.

This made me laugh 😂 never heard of this before. What exactly does it mean?

Block and run. He's a nutter.

Handmaids tale comes to my mind 🤯😂

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Out of work, multiple speeding offences/driving ban, wants to get you pregnant. This man has cock lodger written all over him and you’ll be driving him around to boot!

No, no, no. Don't meet him again. Block all contact. He's not right for you. It's only yhe 2nd date. You are vulnerable and an easy target.

Don’t run OP… catch a bus and then a plane and never ever see this prick again! Unless of course he’s willing to carry and then birth the first child 🤣🤣

This might sound harsh but the fact you even need to ask this means your boundaries are so far out of whack you probably shouldn't be dating at all.

Wow, how lucky you are to have been chosen by this unemployed, dangerous driving Prince. Sounds like perfect father material!

What a wanker! Throw him as far as you can.

You are not over thinking it … you need to run.., FAST!

Red flags galore!

You need to delete and block and never engage with him again. He's a walking red flag.
No sane person talks like this on a second date

You need to get rid

Thanks everyone - I know it seems mad that I’m asking but it’s just completely thrown me

The fact that you really liked him and wanted to see him again in spite of finding out he’s unemployed and banned from driving suggests you need to raise your bar significantly.

i thought I’d give him the benefit of the doubt

Thats your big mistake right there - he’s got more red flags than a Moscow May Day parade. NEVER ignore or give benefit of doubt to someone with such obvious warning signs.
Think you need to work on raising your bar higher than from jobless feckless serial law breakers who want to knock you up after one date.

I bet he says this to all the girls.

It reminds me of a character from Mash (the book), whose dating technique went something like this: "you get together with a likely candidate, preferable over a drink, look into her eyes, and say 'You want to come back to my place and do it?' 90% of the time the girl will take off like a bat out of hell, in which case you've just saved yourself a lot of time and money, and can concentrate your efforts on the ones that don't run."

He wants to get you pregnant before you find out what he's really like and feel that you can't leave. Huge, huge red flag.