What have I got myself into??

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I met someone on hinge just under a week ago and we had our second date today. Our first date went well and I really liked him . He was honest about him being out of work currently and he also can’t drive due to multiple speeding offences. He’s had a colourful past but said he’s turned a new leaf , wants a family etc.

i thought I’d give him the benefit of the doubt but today he’s basically said he wants to get me pregnant. I thought he was initially joking but he’s not - he said he’s ready in this stage of his life and if it happens it happens. He says how amazing I am and that I’m the perfect ‘candidate’ and that it just feels right with me.

am I being crazy or is this madness? I came out a controlling and abusive relationship so I’m thinking maybe I’m overthinking it? But it doesn’t make sense to me.

Read your post back to yourself as if you're reading someone else's post..... what would you advise they do..??

Hint - 🚩

Run fast.

Cocklodger. 100%

I think that if this wasn't an immediate 'no way - blocked and deleted' from you then perhaps you aren't ready to be dating OP?

It sounds like you've had a terrible time with your ex and need to do some more healing from that to rebuild your boundaries and expectations.

Read up on the shark cage theory as it is a helpful analogy.

This happened to my friend. He has been so abusive to her ever since.

Run like hell. How colourful is his past? Best you don’t know it all. Who says mad shit like this so soon?!

I was going to say exactly this. Get yourself into counselling to help you establish why you are questioning yourself and to help you set firm boundaries, you are at risk of ending up in another abusive relationship.

Obviously, no work, driving ban etc are pretty big red flags. But okay, let's say that he is genuine and is in process of turning life around etc etc etc. .... would such a person REALLY be wanting to leap into a relationship and a new baby? No, a sensible person who has had a tough recent period would be wanting to get stable and be very cautious about what next steps are, and who he takes them with.

Run for the hills

This is crazy! Nope nope nope! So many red flags here. Tell me OP, can you see those red flags?

Christ OP!! Probably don't bother with that third date. Candidate indeed!!

This!!

You should have made your escape there and then.

I came out a controlling and abusive relationship so I’m thinking maybe I’m overthinking it?

Not at all. You are not over thinking it, you have barely started thinking at all.

Never, ever see him again.

The I want you to have my child line is intended to manipulate a woman into feeling respected, wanted and flattered, and to give herself up as a receptacle for the seed of the great one. It is pure narcissism and the need to control speaking at once.

Don’t be taken in.

Eurgh.
He just wants to have sex without a condom.
Which is my personal favourite but with a trusted partner, not someone I’ve met twice and has a dubious past.
i reckon he’s riddled with STDs.

He was honest about him being out of work currently and he also can’t drive due to multiple speeding offences. He’s had a colourful past but said he’s turned a new leaf , wants a family etc.i thought I’d give him the benefit of the doubt

I dont think you are in the right place to be dating OP. Please 🙏 want more for yourself than this.

Wtf?! It’s insanity you’re even asking.

Do not see him again.

This.

Stop dating and work on your self esteem.

Don't lose this one OP, Men of this calibre are in very short supply.

Your on fire tonight arnt you ? 😜

Need to make my own fun. There's nothing on Netflix.

He sounds nuts and what he’s told you is the tip of the iceberg. Block him and don’t meet him again!

The fact he's willing to have unprotected sex two weeks into a relationship shows an open and trusting nature that OP will not likely find in another man.