I’ve never met his friends! am I being paranoid?

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So I’ve been on and off with my boyfriend for 4 years although I have known him for 12 years ( we have a daughter together). I have never met his friends ever, he does have trust issues etc from childhood so I kind of give him empathy with that and understand why he can be the way he is. A long story short, he has Instagram but doesn’t follow me and it’s a private profile. I found he was following a girl and liking her pictures, so I asked him about this, he instantly got defensive and told me I was a stalker which isn’t true. He admitted the girl was one of his friends girlfriends friends and she goes to party’s and stuff when he’s there. Bear in mind his friends all have girlfriends so they all go out as couples but I’m never invited. I’m not sure they even know about me. I know what’s his like, his very private with his life but there are reasons for this. But I find it confusing how he can like this girls pictures who is around in social events and also follow her when I’m not even able to follow him. He said it means nothing to him liking her pics etc but to me you’re giving her the green light by liking her pictures. What would you do in my situation?

He's been taking you for a right mug.

What kind of "trust issues" prevent him from introducing his girlfriend to his friends. What a lot of guff.

Unfortunately you've been making excuses for him in order to stay with him. Tying yourself in knots and convincing yourself it's empathy.

He's bee seeing other women too or, always kept his option open to do so by keeping you a secret.

Now he's gaslighting you. Imagine having the cheek to call a partner a stalker for asking for some basic clarity and respect.

Get as far away from this asshole as possible.
Never look back.

To be honest i don’t know anymore, you’re probably right I have been making excuses for him. I would never stalk anyone, but he’s saying I am because I found his Instagram account and saw these girls and likes so I just asked him about it. He said it was more alarming that I was stalking him. I dont know what’s wrong with me that I find it so hard to leave

There's never a good reason if they give a busy social media but won't add you on it. It's usually other women related.

He doesn't live with you right?
So all you need to do is text him 'it's over, never contact me again'. Then block him on everything once he's seen it. Job done.

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