Where is he?

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i only saw H this morning before i left early (7am) for a day out with my DD. He had plans to go out to watch the football with one of his mates. So he will have had a lie in, mooched around and got picked up around 1230. Then he would have started drinking and watched the match. His friend was picked up at 7pm as ive heard from his DW. So hes drunk but in bed. Its now 10pm and ive no idea where H is! No text/phone call. Im going bed soon.

im annoyed that no household jobs were done before he left, he got the iron and board out and left them up. Left a mountain of washing up on the side and the overflowing bin! AIBU to think he had all morning to do SOMETHING!? Last weekend he was away one night with friends, next weekend hes away overnight. Im getting annoyed with all this

Yanbu i would be pissed off especially with not knowing where he is. Definitely think a chat is in order.

I'd be annoyed too that he's gone out and left the house in a mess. Rude and inconsiderate.

And now you don't know where he is. Does he do this often? Where did his friend leave him?

And do they get so pissed together each week? Do you think he's in danger?

LTB !

Are you sure he's out with friends?

I mean...could he be with a woman?

I think I wouldn't want a hubby who went out on the piss every weekend. But I guess it's normal for some.

What excuse did the friend have as to say where your husband is?

Sounds as though he behaves like a single man.

My H was apparently going to get a taxi home when the friend was picked up (he lives in the opposite direction) but no sign of him yet.

He does drink daily. Im on the verge of leaving. Had a wobble this week to think 🤔 maybe its not that bad but then this. He does see this friend some weekends but to be fair, this friend is one of the good ones and knows when to stop. My H still acts like hes 18 (hes 43). Fuck knows where he is. He might well be with another woman but honestly im beyond caring right now!

Sounds like he's an alcoholic then. In which case, he's probably drinking in a pub.

Personally I'd lock the doors and go to bed xD

Oh if he drinks every day must be in a local boozer maybe worth to give them a call describe him ?
I mean that if you are worried about his safety X

Well we say Alcoholic but he says hes just enjoying a drink, drinks same as others, im nagging…

yes he lives like a single man whilst i look after our DD. Doesnt do anything family wise with her

If he doesn’t come home, i wont be too bothered! Just annoying he doesn’t feel he should text at least

He is 43? He isn't going to change is he? He does act as though he's single so set him free and he can be as single as he likes.

Well, looks like he’ll have a busy Sunday ironing and doing childcare whilst you go out for the day.

doubt it, he will have a lie in, sit watching tv in bed, then nip shop (for beer) and sit drinking rest of the day watching sport - probably the football from today that he can’t remember watching because he was too drunk 🙄 then he will go sleep early because hes still tired…

Meanwhile ill be filling in the divorce application online….

As you should be. I have no idea why it's taken so long.

My ex was like this.

Much happier now

Seriously? He sounds revolting.
What are his good points?

I know, im so ashamed ive ended up with this!

Good for you. Then you can change your user name!

He is a complete waste of space isn't he? I wouldn't bother having any kind of argument with him. Just make the decision that it's over and detach from him.

Good for you get rid of him, if he wants to waste his life let him, don't let him waste yours.

You have nothing to be ashamed of, and there isn't anything you could have done differently. He's become an alcoholic.

Perhaps it is now time to start the decision-making process.

Oh girl he needs helps, but amazing that you realised he's not worth sticking around with

Do your dd a favour and get rid of him now, before he has the opportunity to treat her this way, belittle her, etc. Its horrible how alcoholics treat their families. She may be too young now but eventually he will start in on her too.

Have my second ever LTB. For both your sakes.

Hes still not back (mid night)! No message/texts