My husband and I have two children. They are very young so I realise this may be jumping the gun but I’m being as honest as I can. My eldest child has a very poor relationship with me and I seem to be a massive trigger for him . He shouts, snatches, openly shows dislike and contempt for me - shouting get off me, get away, those sorts of things. I
I have just reached my peak with it and I’m upstairs in tears.
I think it might be best for everyone if I moved out. Not necessarily forever but I do feel it might be best if I wasn’t here all of the time. Has anyone ever done this?
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Moving out due to child’s behaviour?
Betteroverhere · 14/04/2024 18:25
IncognitoUsername · 14/04/2024 18:30
How old are the children? Do they go to nursery or school? What does DH do when DS behaves like this?
I know that you are upset but I really doubt that they would be better off without you
LIZS · 14/04/2024 18:30
He may be like that with you as he knows you are a safe person to handle it, so won't reject him. Does he present with issues with others?
IncognitoUsername · 14/04/2024 18:36
You need to talk to DH. How is he going to feel about you walking out and taking one child will you?
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belge2 · 14/04/2024 18:39
I hear you OP. My children are older- youngest is18 and absolutely despises me. It is heartbreaking and I have done all I can to improve our relationship but it is broken. I have no answers. But I hope things will get better eventually. Don't leave. Get some therapy - both of you together. That is next on my list tbh. It hurts a lot. Try to ignore it, rise above it,
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