How did you meet your husband?

[Sithi]

Was it how you expected to meet ‘your husband’?

Watching SATC (again) and always makes me reminisce about relationships.

I will start.

My husband was defo not who I expected to settle down with. I went away for uni, lived in a different city for several years, worked with people from all around the country and the world.

And I ended up marrying a lad I had a crush on at school in year 7. 😂 Live in a small town where people tend to settle down quite young. At 29 I despaired of the dating pool in my area and had sworn off relationships. Just went on a date with my husband cos found him very fit and the rest is history…

I really love stories where it was totally unexpected so please share ❤️

I had been in long-term relationships since I was 16. Always getting soo serious, too quickly. Noticing that I wasn't happy, but afraid to hurt someones feelings, so stuck with the relationships for way too long and put up with way too much, even got stuck in abusive situations.
Then found myself single at 27 and decided: I'm going to learn how to dump men.
Went on Tinder and other OLD platforms and practiced breaking up with men when they turned out not to be who I was looking for.
Became quite good at it and had a very fun year, lots of dating, but nothing turned serious. Felt really good about myself for the first time in years. I became very open about my feelings and boundaries, learned a lot of good skills that year.
Then swiped right on my husband, had a first date just thinking: let's see what happens. Came home after the first date and told my nan: I'm going to spend the rest of my life with that guy. He was just a walking green flag.
Been looking for reasons to dump him ever since, but we're 7 years and 2 kids in and can't think of a thing 😂

Working in the hospitality industry on a small island 27 years ago.
DH worked in one establishment but his friend worked and lived-in in the place where I worked.
DH and my colleague had been out one morning and when DH was dropping friend off he clocked me. The rest, as they say, is history.

A friend from synagogue told me she had a son, and would I like to meet him. I said yes, and it was DH!

Have blurred details as outing:
I was living in housing that went with the job I was doing. A group of people of the same nationality lived nearby and had known the previous inhabitants of the property. I met one of them in the nearest town the week I moved in. He came to the house with 2 colleagues the following week & one of them made a beeline for me. Started dating him 6 months later. That was nearly 40 years ago & in that time he became DH.

Finding myself single with dc at 41 never expected to meet anyone.. Met dh then 31 in a wine bar... Been married nearly 9 years with a dc together..

At a party where my sister brought some of her uni friends. He walked in and I was like ‘I’m going to marry him’, in my head, in a very chilled and factual way. I was 18 he was 21. Married 4 years later!

First Tinder date for the both of us

Through a friend, my friend/colleague was his friends girlfriend and she just thought we’d make a good match. She gave him my Snapchat and the rest, as they say, was history. I adored him from the first time I met him, he’s always given off such warm, safe energy.

Met DH on Twitter sort of through mutual friends back when it seemed like everyone knew each other in Twitter!

Problem was - I lived in NE Scotland and he was in East Anglia. We spoke loads on the phone (one conversation was 6 hours 😂) met in person for a weekend after a couple of months and then I moved down to live with him a month later. That was Feb 2010 and we’ve been together since. Married ten years and so happy.

Our eyes met across a crowded pub. I thought his eyes were immensely kind. He thought I was gorgeous. Both of us were right.

Dh was a friend of friends. I swore off dating for a year while finishing a doctoral thesis, and made plans to move away from the country I was living in. The day I finished writing my thesis, went out to a big street party celebration in the city we were living with the mutual friends and DH was there. We all had an amazing night and I ended up going home with DH. That summer we started spending a lot of time together - we knew it couldn’t last because I was moving away, which made us both much more relaxed and open since we were self-proclaimed ’not relationship types’. Only by the end we were starting to wonder if maybe we were relationship types after all... I got offered another job in our city, and took it to ’see what happened’. 4 months later we were engaged.

Tinder! 😁

Together 5 years, just bought our first house together. Looking forward to a long happy life!

We met on blind date set up by my cousin's husband after my Mum asked him if he knew anyone that would make me a decent boyfriend after a long line of bad relationships. I was 31 and thought I'd never meet the one. Cousin's DH said he worked with someone he thought I'd get on well with. I almost cancelled the date - I thought it would be a waste of time! So happy I didn't, knew he was the one for me on our first date! Together 13 years, married 10 years, 2 DC, still think he's amazing.

Love stories of how people met. Great thread OP!

Getting divorced now, but met him in the very early years of online dating.

I look at OLD now and shudder. Not for me.

I was in the 6th form of school and my older sister set me up with a blind date to go to a Valentine’s Day Dance. My future husband was there with someone else. Our eyes met across the room. The following week we were at the same party and then the following week we became a couple. A very long time ago ….

Work. Both in other relationships, he was married and I was in a long term relationship. Both very unhappy for a long time. Friends for ages first, realised I had feelings for him and left my partner at the time, he did also and we got together shortly after. Married and been together 2 years and he truly is my soul mate 💓 life happens

In a night club <old skool>

We went to school together. But we weren't an item back then despite hanging out with the same group of freinds. We only got together in our late 20's.

Long divorced now but the old fashioned way, drinks in the pub after work. The couple of colleagues he and I were with drifted away as the two of us weren't talking to them, just each other 😊

DH and I played the same game online and got chatting in the game forums. I was living in the Emirates at the time and he was in his native Sweden. 20 something years later with a 14 year old DS and still going strong.

Me and DP were on the same corridor in halls at university.

I didn't find him very good looking and I distinctly remember thinking one day that I couldn't cope with him as a boyfriend because he had a really miserable resting face 😂
But there was a weird energy and magnetism between us and we ended up shagging in freshers week. And it went from there.

We've been together nineteen years.

He was a manger in my work who I had actually seen when i went for the interview I fancied him so much, just pure lust , ended up having a drunken kiss at a night out with work, he then asked me out the following week, we started sleeping together very regularly but kept it quiet as we both wanted different things ie marriage/kids & the work thing. I thought it would eventually fizzle out but 20 years later we are still together.

He was my boss.

He actually helped me organise some stuff with my contract in order to help me get a mortgage with another man!!

I realised very quickly that the other man was a cocklodger and ditched him. Boss was on secondment to another location and I started thinking wistfully about our chats but was trying not to indulge myself as I didn’t want to jeopardise my job! Had to ask for his help all over again with employment paperwork so I could buy the other guy out of the house we’d only just bought…

I then underwent a long diagnostic process for a medical condition and boss had to help me get through Occ Health/private medical to access what I needed. Therefore at this point he basically knew everything about me and was completely respectful and to use another poster’s phrase “a walking green flag!”. He gently offered me some advice on things, I started to appreciate his input and we got closer and closer.

After our Christmas party (nothing happened!) it was pretty obvious we liked each other and he very respectfully offered to find a new job- telling me I’d been through enough and shouldn’t have to move jobs as well. He found a job in a new department and we migrated all our “good chats” to cosy country pubs!

8 years later, he’s still the best man I’ve ever met and puts me first every time! I am grateful for him every day but we are also SO relieved we don’t work together anymore!

In Waitrose wine aisle.

At a birthday do in town for a mutual casual friend at the time. We were sitting opposite each other for the meal, and then spent the rest of the night dancing together.