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How did you meet your husband?

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Sithi · 21/03/2024 11:32

Was it how you expected to meet ‘your husband’?

Watching SATC (again) and always makes me reminisce about relationships.

I will start.

My husband was defo not who I expected to settle down with. I went away for uni, lived in a different city for several years, worked with people from all around the country and the world.

And I ended up marrying a lad I had a crush on at school in year 7. 😂 Live in a small town where people tend to settle down quite young. At 29 I despaired of the dating pool in my area and had sworn off relationships. Just went on a date with my husband cos found him very fit and the rest is history…

I really love stories where it was totally unexpected so please share ❤️

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Sithi · 22/03/2024 16:30

user1471548941 · 21/03/2024 13:43

He was my boss.

He actually helped me organise some stuff with my contract in order to help me get a mortgage with another man!!

I realised very quickly that the other man was a cocklodger and ditched him. Boss was on secondment to another location and I started thinking wistfully about our chats but was trying not to indulge myself as I didn’t want to jeopardise my job! Had to ask for his help all over again with employment paperwork so I could buy the other guy out of the house we’d only just bought…

I then underwent a long diagnostic process for a medical condition and boss had to help me get through Occ Health/private medical to access what I needed. Therefore at this point he basically knew everything about me and was completely respectful and to use another poster’s phrase “a walking green flag!”. He gently offered me some advice on things, I started to appreciate his input and we got closer and closer.

After our Christmas party (nothing happened!) it was pretty obvious we liked each other and he very respectfully offered to find a new job- telling me I’d been through enough and shouldn’t have to move jobs as well. He found a job in a new department and we migrated all our “good chats” to cosy country pubs!

8 years later, he’s still the best man I’ve ever met and puts me first every time! I am grateful for him every day but we are also SO relieved we don’t work together anymore!

“ He actually helped me organise some stuff with my contract in order to help me get a mortgage with another man!! “ 😂Absolutely brilliant, must have really loved you

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Sithi · 22/03/2024 16:34

Notateacheranymore · 21/03/2024 14:03

Went to Secondary school with him, same GCSE English class for 2 years and he sat in front of me, was often turning around to talk to me and Gina!

Went to different colleges post 16, but he didn’t like his, so came to 6th form and started Y12 as I started Y13. Our school crowd all still socialised together, in college and evenings/weekends, so he slotted right in. Started going out the following Feb (not Valentine’s!!).

Celebrated our silver wedding last year. Still don’t feel old enough to say that, but I am 48 now!!!

Even better, my mum and his parents all went to the same school, although my mum was 4 1/2 younger than my MIL. She once told me that she remembered being in the first year, around 1964-65, and watched these 3 willowy fifth years glide by, in absolute awe!! One of those girls was my MIL.

We don’t live in that town any more, what with RAF and teaching careers, but the secondary school we went to doesn’t even exist anymore. The council put a new cemetery there instead!!!

That’s adorable about your Mum knowing your MIL and being in awe of her. We realised into the relationship my auntie used to work with my DH’s grandma and grandad and they reminisced at our wedding 💕

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paristotokyo · 22/03/2024 16:34

Mutual friend introduced us. Married after 6 months Smile

MrsMoastyToasty · 22/03/2024 16:35

I was very very drunk...

LastOneDancing · 22/03/2024 16:35

Christmas nights out with our colleagues, different employers but same venue.

I was struggling with the 'dancing round the handbags' of my older colleagues so decided to find someone to talk to and DH made eye contact.

First man who didn't mess me around or play games. He text me next morning to arrange a date & I remember telling my friends 'this one is going to be trouble'.

I wasn't wrong, but 18y + 2DC later he's been worth it. It's gone in a flash.

I love that our 'anniversary' is very close to Christmas and prefer to mark that than our actual wedding date.

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Sithi · 22/03/2024 16:37

vidflex · 21/03/2024 14:06

At work. I'd had to move out of my marital home and started this new job. I was useless at it lol so he was put in charge of helping me learn the ropes. He was very shy but eventually he asked me out. I let him down gently and told him about my recent divorce and that I had children who were obviously my priority. He was lovely about it and we became good friends. We were firm friends for years before I made a move on him lol. He still says I was worth the wait 25 years on.

🥲❤️

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Sithi · 22/03/2024 16:38

MissMarianHalcombe · 21/03/2024 14:15

I love my story. I had been separated from my first husband for some time & he had sofa surfed while I’d agreed to store his belongings. On the day he eventually collected them my very good neighbour took me out for the day while her then husband supervised the visit. That evening she invited me to dinner at her house because her husband was having a friend over and wouldn’t have anyone to talk to. Promising no intention of being set up of a blind date! We ended up talking until 2am & got married 18 months later.
In those 18 months my neighbours husband left her for someone else. At our wedding she then met one of our friends who she also went on to marry.
I’ve just celebrated our silver wedding anniversary & she’s not that far behind us. So we both had a hand in finding each other’s husband.

This should be an artsy indie film! 😍❤️

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harrietm87 · 22/03/2024 16:38

We met at university. He was in the year above and I was good friends with him through a hobby, and had a (different) boyfriend.

Weirdly 2 of my friends who didn’t know each other both decided they had a crush on him at the same time and both asked me to help them get to know him. He didn’t fancy either of them and I think that was the first time I saw him as more than just a friend.

We got together 2 years later after we’d both graduated when I stayed with him while I was in London for a job interview. We’ve been together for 15 years now, married for 7 and have 2 lovely kids. Still adore him.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 22/03/2024 16:39

At work (teachers).

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Sithi · 22/03/2024 16:40

Chascha18 · 21/03/2024 14:55

I was the manager of a shop and he lived in the house next door. I used to open the shop in the morning and he would be outside getting in the car to go to work. We would exchange the hellos but that was about it. Problem was, the shop's toilet was outside (very old!) so as everyone does, you wanna go for your morning poo... but he always stood outside it where his car was. I used to take cleaning products in with me so it looked like I was sprucing it up instead of dropping the kids off at the pool 😂😭
A week later he gave me his number and that was that!

Hahaha. Did you ever tell him? 💩

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Whatineed · 22/03/2024 16:40

He was a pen friend. I was engaged to a guy in the military who was stationed overseas and helping to run a British forces pen pal website for staff who wanted a pen pal, were a bit lonely etc.

I worked with a lot of single women so I asked him to share the site and they all started writing to different people all over the world.

There was one who was more in my age range than my younger colleagues so I started to write to him, and we kept in touch as pen pals for a few years. Then when I told him I'd split up with my fiance and it went from there.

He turned out to be a complete cheating asshole but the story is quite nice, and I got DS so que sera. 😂😂😂

OldMrsHempstock · 22/03/2024 16:40

In the pub. He was my friends' flatmate.

Titsywoo · 22/03/2024 16:42

He was friends with my neighbour and we met at their house was I was about 15. I thought he was an idiot. A few years later we met again as he was hanging out with a guy I really fancied. Me and him were friends after that for about 5 years before we got together. Been a couple for 22 years now and still very happy. I think the fact that we were such good mates and always liked spending time with each other was a great basis for a relationship.

UnicornMadeOfPinkGlitter · 22/03/2024 16:48

On holiday. First girls holiday at 18. Still together almost 30 years later. Despite initially having over 300 miles between us at home.

Curlyblondefemale · 22/03/2024 16:48

On a dating site, together 9 years and married for two. Id done online dating before without success so wasn't hopeful but I was bored one Bank Holiday weekend and we had sent a few messages back and forth and we just decided that afternoon to meet at the beach for a drink.
Ended up spending the entire day together and the rest is history.

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Sithi · 22/03/2024 17:00

Mrs86 · 22/03/2024 00:36

Through a friend at college, no set up he was just a friend of a friend. We eventually became really good friends and ended up hanging out together a lot. He randomly asked me to marry him one day whilst we were sharing a pizza (very shyly, he'd been a bit weird all day. It wasn't straight up, eventually the penny dropped that he was asking me to marry him and I never knew he fancied me 😂). I didn't know what hit me. I didn't immediately think no so there must have been something there? Told him the next night, yes! We've been married for nearly 14 years this year! He got me through a lot of shitty times during our friendship, he's very intelligent (which I find super attractive). And everyone kinda looks up to him, he was very mature for someone his age too. We married while we were uni students and we've literally built up our lives together.

Beautiful. So romantic

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Sithi · 22/03/2024 17:02

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 22/03/2024 16:30

I was in charge of buying marketing services, he came to the agency to present one of their products; took me and my assistant(male) out to lunch afterwards as was standard practice then.

After lunch I asked assistant whether Insert name here was married. He gave me a long look and said ‘ I expect he will be….’.

That was 42 years ago.

Haha wow I love that your assistant ‘knew’!

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Sithi · 22/03/2024 17:04

LastOneDancing · 22/03/2024 16:35

Christmas nights out with our colleagues, different employers but same venue.

I was struggling with the 'dancing round the handbags' of my older colleagues so decided to find someone to talk to and DH made eye contact.

First man who didn't mess me around or play games. He text me next morning to arrange a date & I remember telling my friends 'this one is going to be trouble'.

I wasn't wrong, but 18y + 2DC later he's been worth it. It's gone in a flash.

I love that our 'anniversary' is very close to Christmas and prefer to mark that than our actual wedding date.

It’s so refreshing when you meet someone who doesn’t mess about isn’t it? With DH he asked me out immediately also, no messing .

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Kissmystarfish · 22/03/2024 17:08

I feel super lucky and so blessed. I am so incredibly happy in my marriage. Like I feel like I’ve hit the jackpot 100’s of times over

i met my husband about 20 years ago now I think. I met him in a foreign country after I went to stay with my dad! So my dad introduced us

aintnospringchicken · 22/03/2024 17:15

At the wedding of mutual friends.Been married for 35 yrs now.
Sadly our friends marriage didn't last.

MaMisled · 22/03/2024 17:15

A guy moved in next door but one with his 4 children who he had sole custody of. My 3 would shout across to them over the garden between us. They mentioned we were going to a local beauty spot and he caught us at the car to tell me of a little known free parking spot. It was, quite genuinely, love at first sight. We all lived together in a 3 bed house (his eldest went to uni soon after). 23 happy years so far. By coincidence, my Mums second husband was also living next door but one!

WearyAuldWumman · 22/03/2024 17:18

At work. Resisted getting into a relationship for a good while: there was a significant age difference and I was well aware of the pitfalls.

We were married 24 years.

Nannyfannybanny · 22/03/2024 17:25

At work. Married in my teens pregnant. He was a psycho, violent.my late DM terminally I'll in the hospital where I worked (GP cockup) Decided to go back to office work,was going for an interview, couldn't find the place, stopped at a garage to ask directions. Chatting to the owner,he told me to come back if I didn't get the other job, I was offered it, didn't fancy it. Back to the garage,he was a vehicle technician, his DAD had just died. He gave me a shoulder to cry on over my DM, been together 35 years, married 25.

user1285359 · 22/03/2024 17:40

At work. Our office was such a fun place to work, there were loads of us all in our early twenties working on various teams all in the same department. We all went on a night out, DH had worked there for about ten months at the point and I’d only spoken to him about work related things before. We got chatting at the bar, had a drunken kiss at the end of the night, exchanged numbers and the rest is history. 15 years later couldn’t be happier.

Mimilamore · 22/03/2024 17:56

In a pub, no intention going there that particular day but a friend was off to live in Amsterdam so went. Really not impressed at first meeting but he was persistent, 45 years married, still not keen when he's had a drink...