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How did you meet your husband?

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Sithi · 21/03/2024 11:32

Was it how you expected to meet ‘your husband’?

Watching SATC (again) and always makes me reminisce about relationships.

I will start.

My husband was defo not who I expected to settle down with. I went away for uni, lived in a different city for several years, worked with people from all around the country and the world.

And I ended up marrying a lad I had a crush on at school in year 7. 😂 Live in a small town where people tend to settle down quite young. At 29 I despaired of the dating pool in my area and had sworn off relationships. Just went on a date with my husband cos found him very fit and the rest is history…

I really love stories where it was totally unexpected so please share ❤️

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WinkyTinky · 21/03/2024 13:51

Speed dating. Didn't like him at all, big tick in the NO box. I should have listened to my instincts. STBXH.

TheFakePrincess · 21/03/2024 13:54

I was 17 and in my first job, he also worked there, he was 21. We got together and married when I was 19, just after I had eldest DD

Row23 · 21/03/2024 13:55

Met at work - we got on but definitely no interest from either side. Then lockdown happened and for some reason we kept messaging each other and we’ve never stopped! It was very unexpected as we were both happy being single and had plans for 2020, which were obviously scuppered 🦠 (thankfully for us!)

AmaryllisChorus · 21/03/2024 14:03

BingoMarieHeeler · 21/03/2024 12:56

At a party where my sister brought some of her uni friends. He walked in and I was like ‘I’m going to marry him’, in my head, in a very chilled and factual way. I was 18 he was 21. Married 4 years later!

Pretty similar here. He was a good old friend of a good new friend of minbe. We met up for drinks one night and I looked at him and thought: Ahhh, you're who I want to marry.
Never wanted to marry any boyfriend before. But within 15 mins he felt just right!
30 years on...

Notateacheranymore · 21/03/2024 14:03

Went to Secondary school with him, same GCSE English class for 2 years and he sat in front of me, was often turning around to talk to me and Gina!

Went to different colleges post 16, but he didn’t like his, so came to 6th form and started Y12 as I started Y13. Our school crowd all still socialised together, in college and evenings/weekends, so he slotted right in. Started going out the following Feb (not Valentine’s!!).

Celebrated our silver wedding last year. Still don’t feel old enough to say that, but I am 48 now!!!

Even better, my mum and his parents all went to the same school, although my mum was 4 1/2 younger than my MIL. She once told me that she remembered being in the first year, around 1964-65, and watched these 3 willowy fifth years glide by, in absolute awe!! One of those girls was my MIL.

We don’t live in that town any more, what with RAF and teaching careers, but the secondary school we went to doesn’t even exist anymore. The council put a new cemetery there instead!!!

vidflex · 21/03/2024 14:06

At work. I'd had to move out of my marital home and started this new job. I was useless at it lol so he was put in charge of helping me learn the ropes. He was very shy but eventually he asked me out. I let him down gently and told him about my recent divorce and that I had children who were obviously my priority. He was lovely about it and we became good friends. We were firm friends for years before I made a move on him lol. He still says I was worth the wait 25 years on.

YouJustDoYou · 21/03/2024 14:07

Over 20 years ago in a crowded club room which we were both forced to go to by our seperate friends. Eyes met, and that was it.

MissMarianHalcombe · 21/03/2024 14:15

I love my story. I had been separated from my first husband for some time & he had sofa surfed while I’d agreed to store his belongings. On the day he eventually collected them my very good neighbour took me out for the day while her then husband supervised the visit. That evening she invited me to dinner at her house because her husband was having a friend over and wouldn’t have anyone to talk to. Promising no intention of being set up of a blind date! We ended up talking until 2am & got married 18 months later.
In those 18 months my neighbours husband left her for someone else. At our wedding she then met one of our friends who she also went on to marry.
I’ve just celebrated our silver wedding anniversary & she’s not that far behind us. So we both had a hand in finding each other’s husband.

Smokeysgirl · 21/03/2024 14:48

He was a neighbor of my grandparents, who I stayed with regularly, and when we were children we all played out together but I disliked him and his brothers as they were the "naughty boys" in the street who ruined our games. As a teenager I used to walk grandparents dog past their house and thought they'd grown into quite fanciable young men. He later confided he also used to watch me walk past with the dog. Then I had a short lived disastrous first marriage in my early 20s and had lots of short term relationships with men who treated me terribly one way or another. I went for a drink with friends in my local one night and who should I get chatting to at the bar but one of the "naughty boys". Been married to him for 26 years now and my Grandad, in particular, was thrilled I ended up with him, as he knew what I'd been through previously and had always thought dh was a nice guy.

NotestoSelf · 21/03/2024 14:52

At a cancelled poetry reading on a spectacularly rainy November night.

Chascha18 · 21/03/2024 14:55

I was the manager of a shop and he lived in the house next door. I used to open the shop in the morning and he would be outside getting in the car to go to work. We would exchange the hellos but that was about it. Problem was, the shop's toilet was outside (very old!) so as everyone does, you wanna go for your morning poo... but he always stood outside it where his car was. I used to take cleaning products in with me so it looked like I was sprucing it up instead of dropping the kids off at the pool 😂😭
A week later he gave me his number and that was that!

Simonjt · 21/03/2024 14:56

We met on a blind date arranged by a dating agency, he tells people we met on the undateables. He was due to move abroad four weeks after our first date, luckily he changed his mind and delayed it to see if we would work out.

ViciousCurrentBun · 21/03/2024 14:59

At work and two other very long term marriages I know 25 years plus also met at work.

CheapThrillsMeanNothing · 22/03/2024 00:00

Met DH at South Bank Uni Quantity Surveyors Xmas party in the 80s. Neither of us is a QS but our mutual friends are.

DetOliviaBenson · 22/03/2024 00:18

I was 16 and my best mate was seeing his best mate. I was seeing someone else at the time.

When we got together I certainly wasn't expecting it to turn into a lifelong relationship, I was 16! But, it did.

It was a bit of a whirlwind, we became very intense, very quickly. I'd moved in with him by my 17th birthday, (3 months after we met).

We got engaged a month later. Married 4 years after that. Been together for almost 30 years now.

Mrs86 · 22/03/2024 00:36

Through a friend at college, no set up he was just a friend of a friend. We eventually became really good friends and ended up hanging out together a lot. He randomly asked me to marry him one day whilst we were sharing a pizza (very shyly, he'd been a bit weird all day. It wasn't straight up, eventually the penny dropped that he was asking me to marry him and I never knew he fancied me 😂). I didn't know what hit me. I didn't immediately think no so there must have been something there? Told him the next night, yes! We've been married for nearly 14 years this year! He got me through a lot of shitty times during our friendship, he's very intelligent (which I find super attractive). And everyone kinda looks up to him, he was very mature for someone his age too. We married while we were uni students and we've literally built up our lives together.

DramaAlpaca · 22/03/2024 01:04

He was a colleague and friend of my university boyfriend, who very soon became my ex... Blush

halfthesun · 22/03/2024 06:51

Tinder - Nov 2020 - socially distanced walk. Married July 2023 Daffodil

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Sithi · 22/03/2024 16:17

Apologies for posting the disappearing, busy at work. Thanks for the lovely replies - some of these made me a bit teary. 🥲

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Sithi · 22/03/2024 16:23

Rocknrollstar · 21/03/2024 13:34

I was in the 6th form of school and my older sister set me up with a blind date to go to a Valentine’s Day Dance. My future husband was there with someone else. Our eyes met across the room. The following week we were at the same party and then the following week we became a couple. A very long time ago ….

Love it! Kind of reminds me of me re being set up with someone else!

I was actually set up with DH by a friend, sort of. This friend was pestering me to go on a date with his mate. I wasn’t that fussed but said ok because he was making out we would be a good match. Then at a later point mentioned his other friend - DH - fancies me. I had always thought he was attractive but I’d already agreed to go on a date with this other mate by this point!

DH then messaged me asking me out. I didn’t want to mess around mates in the same friend group so I told DH ‘other mate’ had asked me out and I didn’t want to date / message both of them.

I could not stop thinking about DH… Luckily this other mate cancelled our date cos he had shagged his ex. I promptly messaged DH and explained the situ and that he was in no way second best.

I am so glad that other mate shagged his ex😂

I hope I don’t sound like a ho. I was just popular in my 20s 😂

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Sithi · 22/03/2024 16:26

(Btw I use ‘ho’ in jest, and in a ‘taking back the word’ way)

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Sithi · 22/03/2024 16:27

karma3 · 21/03/2024 13:36

Work. Both in other relationships, he was married and I was in a long term relationship. Both very unhappy for a long time. Friends for ages first, realised I had feelings for him and left my partner at the time, he did also and we got together shortly after. Married and been together 2 years and he truly is my soul mate 💓 life happens

Same happened to my cousin. V happy for you 🩷

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StrawberrieSheree · 22/03/2024 16:28

On a night out, many moons ago.
Dancing the night away, our eyes met across the dance floor and the rest is history 🤭

DinnaeFashYersel · 22/03/2024 16:29

Both political activists in the same party. Didn't like him at all at first. We got together 5 years later when he'd matured.

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 22/03/2024 16:30

I was in charge of buying marketing services, he came to the agency to present one of their products; took me and my assistant(male) out to lunch afterwards as was standard practice then.

After lunch I asked assistant whether Insert name here was married. He gave me a long look and said ‘ I expect he will be….’.

That was 42 years ago.