How did you meet your husband?

[Sithi]

Was it how you expected to meet ‘your husband’?

Watching SATC (again) and always makes me reminisce about relationships.

I will start.

My husband was defo not who I expected to settle down with. I went away for uni, lived in a different city for several years, worked with people from all around the country and the world.

And I ended up marrying a lad I had a crush on at school in year 7. 😂 Live in a small town where people tend to settle down quite young. At 29 I despaired of the dating pool in my area and had sworn off relationships. Just went on a date with my husband cos found him very fit and the rest is history…

I really love stories where it was totally unexpected so please share ❤️

Very glad it worked out relationship wise. So sorry about your dear Mum 💐

In a nightclub for a student night in 1991. He was 20 and in his second year at uni. I was a 20 year old student nurse and there with friends.
He was from another city, met me, never went home after his course finished and we married nine years later.
The marriage has lasted longer than the nightclub which was demolished a few years later.

I was mates with a work colleague who set me up with his friend - first time we met I wasn’t sure about him! Next time we were at a club as a big group and we went off together to get drinks and had more time to talk and I liked him more - but still didn’t think he was ‘the one’.
spent more time together on a few dates & we just gelled! We had some very similar interests and some very different ones which gave us lots to talk about and learn about each other.
that was 25 years ago and we are still together with 2 amazing kids!

Our mothers were penpals from each end of the country and we met when he was 11 and I was 9.
We saw each other again when I was 12 and he was 14. He told me I was beautiful and that he'd marry me when I was older..

Well, life carried on and we lost touch. We both dated other people. Worked. Had completely separate lives.

When I was 19, he was 21 and he turned up unexpectedly. Said he was in my neck of the woods and thought he'd just drop in and say Hi.
He never left!!
We've been together 34 years now. Have 2 adult children and a beautiful grandchild.
We always say we were fated to be together because what were the chances of our Mothers even writing to each other?
He always says, Well I told you I'd marry you one day!!

At a party given by a mutual friend. I very nearly didn’t go..

I was 17 and went to see my cousin play football (not professionally, just a hobby). I saw DH and thought he was the most gorgeous person I’d ever seen in my life, I couldn’t take my eyes off him the whole match. He accidentally kicked the ball at my face and when he came over to apologise I knew I was going to marry him. We went to the pub with the team after and we ended up ignoring everyone else and talking all night. A few days later he invited me to watch his band play at our local pub, he asked me to be his girlfriend that night and we haven’t been apart ever since.

I was 1, working in a shop on a YTS ( I'm old). DH was 16 and in his first job, digging up the road outside the shop.

That should say 17!

I met my STBEH through a writing club. I met my next one at school. He doesn't yet know he's my next one 😆

I was looking into speed dating and the website offered an online dating option too.

There was a 3 day free trial, so I thought why not! I put up a profile, had a bit of interest and then on the last day DH messaged me!

At work when the very least thing I should have had in my life was a new man. I was trying to exit a violent and frightening marriage with two tiny children, and had no family or friends (all alienated by XH) The only time I was allowed to leave the house alone was to work part time at the village bakery.
OH was the baker, realised the danger I was in and offered a room to stay in. I had the worst crush on him....
A few weeks down the line it became necessary to take him up on his offer and we moved in. Could have been a total car crash in hindsight, but instead we fell in love. Now married 24 years 😊

I was 4 years happily single after ending a 9 year relationship . Went to the gym and met friends in a pub afterwards . In gym gear hoodie no make up .
Noticed a young man with his mate looking at me and so did my friends , younger than me he bought a drink over and started talking . He asked my friend for my number when I went to ladies . Friends and I left laughing about me pulling a young lad .
He called , we chatted , I refused to meet him because of age difference, we continued chatting on the phone ( landline ) after a couple of months he told me he was asking a girl at his work out and then I knew I didn't want to lose him . Together 24 years with two children aged 16 and 10 . He said he knew when he first saw / met me . I hesitated because of age gap .

Through mutual friends getting married. We met at their engagement party. Moved in together about 3 months later, engaged at 6 months, married a year later. That was 22 years ago now.

Met my DH at a bar and ended up going home together.

I knew I was going to marry him and little did I know, but he called his best mate and said the same thing to him. The friend was best man at our wedding and actually told the story in his speech.

Short version: a mutual friend set us up.

Longer version: said mutual friend was my ex-boyfriend's best mate but we'd kept in touch. Best mate's wife worked with now DH. Over the years our paths had crossed at best mate's wedding etc and DH remembers the first time he saw me at some do and he thought I was a "sour faced cow" 😂

OLD. I took it very seriously. Probably met about 40 men in total including xdp who I was with for 2 years. I think I was the third person he met.

aged 19 in a club. It literally was a ka-pow moment. Began a LDR as different uni different cities. It was a literal compulsion and obsession. Maintained the LDR at uni and afterwards when we were in different cities for postgrad and work. After years in different cities we lived over the broom, and still together with addition of kids,pets.

Come on now! You need to elaborate, how you went from that to all loved up

At a girl guide center in India. He was a scout.

My boyfriend at the time introduced me to him. His older brother 🤣

I was going out with a phd student in the same hall of residence as my now husband. The then boyfriend introduced us and made a catty remark about him after his room door was shut.

2 years later the boyfriend had become a fiancé and then jilted me for a married woman whose dad had good connections. My now DH saw me in the street and asked how wedding prep was going. Apparently, when I said the wedding was off his thought bubble 💭 was “I wonder how long I should wait before I ask her out?” That was 35+ years ago 💕

I met him on Tumblr. We both bonded over our love of 80s music because we had Duran Duran blogs! We were friends for a year before we got together.

That was 8 years ago now - the rest is history...

At a friend's party at uni. I wasn't going to go as my housemates were all away and I wasn't that close to this friend. But someone else persuaded me and introduced me to a colleague he worked with who was also there. Neither of us really knew anyone else very well so we chatted a lot of the evening. Bumped into each other a couple of times over the next couple of years but we both moved away after uni. About 2 years after graduating he liked my photo on Facebook and we got chatting again. He lived locally now so we agreed to meet up, it became a date and we got married not long after.

I went to school with my husband, we were boyfriend and girlfriend briefly in year 10 but I dumped him....I didn't like his hair cut (I never told him that...still haven't!)

Hung round in the same group for a few years. He stayed an extra year at college and then dated someone I couldn't stand, ended up having a kid with her and dropping out of uni. Didn't really see him for ages as they didn't move back to our home town.

After doing my postgrad I met up with a mutual friend who invited me on a "lads night out" in dh's town as an honorary lad. That's when I found out he was getting divorced after 2 years married. He "jokingly" gave me his business card.

During the night at his house he had dropped a sofa in my toe so I had a reason to email him to tell him my toenail fell off (he'd also invited me to share his bed, I thought it was a joke...)

We got together eventually after the small matter of me going to Japan to dump my boyfriend!

Sixth form - I walked into my very first lesson at college which was government and politics and spotted this boy sat at the table right as I walked in. He was not my type at all but there was something about him I liked straight away. We locked eyes for a sec and I sat on the table behind him.

Next lesson was sociology and he was in there too! This time we shared a quick smile and I went and sat by my friend. Last lesson of the day was English lit and you guessed it he was in there too 😂 at that point we started chatting and the rest is history really. I always think it must be fate that out of all of the hundreds of students and the many many different courses and different timetabled lessons we were in all of each others classes.

17 years have passed now, we have two DC and are getting married next month.