Dating thread 246 - Spring Dating

[SamW98]

Continued from 245….

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.
11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated
12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@NervesOfCotton @Mckittens

I’ve only got to a second date once and he invited me to stay over for date 3 - then told me he has permanent ED 🤦‍♀️

A few of us hoping for a 'date 3' then
(Or any date at all!)

@Dauntedbydating I think asking her back for wine could be seen as the same as dinner. She already said to soon. I would see how the date goes then mention it if you both seem comfortable. Then she can suggest a bar instead if she isn’t ready. It sounds like she wants to go slowly.

Ok another pet peeve to add to my list - men who have only one photo and they’re wearing sunglasses

Eyes are important- show them ffs

I think one of the Bumble men has been reading this thread. 1 photo of the side of his face, 3 photos of his sofa! (He isn't on it, just the sofa!)

I saw one once who had a photo of his dog, his cat and what I presumed was his dinner?! I think he thought it was like Facebook?!

I've also never made it to date 3 😁

Mr D is lovely and all but I have the sneaking suspicion I'm gonna be waiting longer than date 3 if it gets that far!!

Im bored with swiping and chatting to idiots do I’m scouring the apps for the most ridiculous profile.

Ill report back

Mr ITW has been round this morning and left after 3 hours...I have known him a lot of years and therefore I might have forgotten the 3 date rule which I am very strict usually about😉😳
Lots of foreplay and then....he couldn't get it up 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ says he thinks it's because I am the first person he has (tried to) sleep with in 30 years other than his wife and he got nervous!!...was very good at the foreplay and I definitely didn't feel like I had wasted a morning...definitely not dating him but a FWB situation could definitely develop will keep you all posted!

@2anddone I think in that situation it was always going to be a flop! Pardon the pun. Might have been better to build up to it over a few occasions.

@Pepsimaxedout it most definitely would have but it was one of those things that just sort of happened...or not 😉

@2anddone omg!! You go girl! 😄 is fwb what you're after?

Well I'm past date 3 and Mr shy hasn't even given me a kiss yet 🙈
I don't mind taking things slow tbh though...

I actually didn't need to messsge him last night because by the time I checked messenger he'd already sent me a text! He is away and I knew he wouldn't be in touch much but I think I was a bit shocked to have not heard anything for a couple days and it was making me feel a bit paranoid. We have some plans to see each other this weekend (I asked last week), but I'm not sure exactly when he'll be home if it will go ahead.
It's that time of the month though so there will be no 3rd date business, post 3rd date, for me anyway!! 🫣

With Mr ITW friends with benefits is all I would like right now, I don't think he has the head space for anything else right now and while attracted to him I am not invested in anyway so could work for a little while!

I think I would probably avoid inviting her back to the hotel as she's already set her boundary that she thinks it's too soon. If you ask again she might start feeling pressured and not heard and that's not nice.
Enjoy your date though! She's not saying she's not interested, it's just too soon for her!

@2anddone Like @blacksocks33 I was about to say you go girl too haha.

It sounds like a good situation and if you enjoyed foreplay then great! I get nervous a lot though it's mostly with guys I don't really know very well. But I learned nervousness does go away if there is trust and people don't feel pressured.

I agree, eyes are windows to the soul (lol), i also don't swipe right when men are wearing sunglasses

I'm v. nervous (like a human deer/antelope ) so if a man asked me too his too soon, i would clutch my pearls and hide 🙈

remember, if you make someone feel comfortable and tell them there is no pressure and rly mean it, that's when fireworks may happen 🎆 @Dauntedbydating

Still attracting the crème de la creme of the dating apps 🤣🤣

Just got this message copied and pasted so 💯 accurate)

ello doll u ok u look hot wot u looking 4

FML seriously 😦

@2anddone I love this update! How much fun haha! When's the next rendezvous!

Getting seriously nervous for my date tomorrow! Sounds weird but when we talk on the phone or text it's like we're old friends (sounds weird I know) I have to keep reminding myself I've never met him and that's realisation is freaking me out! Date isn't until 3pm

@2anddone I third the you go girl 😆 I am really starting to wish I wanted a fwb situation as for some reason I'm attracting interest from mid 30-40
Somethings who must have a thing for the ( slightly) older woman. But I barely remember how to do it and I was totally overly emotionally invested in the one who vanished before I'd even met him so safe to say I'm not made for FWB. I totally get why he would been nervous in that situation. Hopefully it will all come together next time. No pun intended.

@SamW98 you lucky, lucky woman, how can you resist this latest delight?!

@mumofoneanddone82 this is what I was like freaking out last Saturday! But it all went fine. I'm sure it will all go fine for you!

@Mckittens

Plus his username is along the lines of Carlsberg Dave

Its a toss up between him and Mr Millwall 🤷‍♀️

@2anddone a great way to start the bank holiday!

My instant swipe left are men who want or unsure about children, I don’t want them!

Very white teeth.

Poor spelling and grammar.

Can’t see their faces as obscured by sunglasses, skiing paraphernalia or they’re too far away.

Very slim guys or men with huge beards…

Was speaking to a potential iron today and he fed back that my hello message was a little bland and he nearly unmatched me 😂

@Pepsimaxedout how was the first initial meeting? Doesn't help it will be gale force fucking winds and rain tomorrow! How the fuck is my hair meant to survive? We're meeting in London so not a car to pub job

@LittleFloatingGhost Did he say it nicely? That seems a bit mean.

I've just had a truly scary encounter with a man who, when I said I would want to go 50/50 in dates, started asking if I was looking for a "passive man" and if I was "dominant and masculine". I shut it all down quite quickly but christ. We'd literally just matched and he was saying "I don't want to come home to a woman who is argumentative, confrontational, assertive etc"

Talk about a red flag. I was so triggered from my past relationships that my hands were shaking as I wished him luck and unmatched him!