Dating thread 246 - Spring Dating

[SamW98]

Continued from 245….

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.
11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated
12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

Another one that makes me go 😩 is ‘I love to laugh’

At what? It’s so generic and bland. I feel like replying ‘personally I prefer living in a state of perpetual misery’ - but I feel it would be wasted on these muppets.

I have never seen so many bald men in my life compared to what I've seen OLD. I reached the point where I became suspicious of men with pictures with hair!

I swipe left if they are bald, I like hair!
bad dress sense!
up the nose selfies
no drama/narcissists comments

That’s how I feel about short men. I’ve never seen as many men who are 5 foot 3/4/5/6 in my life as I have on OLD.

Im 5’7 and the vast majority of men I know are taller than me by a few inches. My own 19 year old DS is 5’ 11 as is his dad.

To text or not to text Mr shy 🙈

I just hate this wondering and I'm trying to take control of my emotions or do I just take the hint?

@blacksocks33 I hate dubiety so I would have to ask but in a matter of fact way.
Stops you guessing/obsessing

@SamW98 i prefer living in a state of perpetual misery myself

@blacksocks33 Yeah text, it's not a big ask of him to answer to a text. If you're feeling strong enough right now.

@blacksocks33 Has he not replied to your previous text(s)? If he's away (was it holiday or work - if work, it can be quite time-consuming and tiring, it is at least for me), but at the same time, I do think it a man wants to see me, he will make an effort (if he wanted, he would)

@blacksocks33

I think I would send another message, did you agree to meet again? If it were me and we had agreed another date & it felt like something had changed I think I'd want to check in and see if they were still up for meeting again when they were back but I know maybe that's not the best advice!

I just came across the one who vanished, still on match and with updated photos, one of which isn't great so that's helpful. I thought maybe he'd come off the app as the chat had disappeared but I've been able to click on his profile so he can't have blocked me.

It's now going to look like I'm stalking him though now I've viewed his profile again. It was too tempting though.

M'y swipe lefts are:

Sex positive
Football shirts
Glass of beer in every photo
Education level
No drama
Looking for threesome
Motorbike photo
Beer belly
Loads of tattoos - one or two is ok
Photos on bed or in bath

Don't mind bald
Don't mind short

If I didn't date bald men, there would be no one left for me to date 😆

Plus Mr D is bald and I fancy him.

@blacksocks33 It's hard to gauge. How often does he usually text/get in touch? Does he always respond positively when you message? When's he back and when are you meeting again?

Personally, I'd probably leave it while he's away. See how it is when he comes back.

There's type for everyone! 😄

@SamW98

That’s how I feel about short men. I’ve never seen as many men who are 5 foot 3/4/5/6 in my life as I have on OLD.

Im 5’7 and the vast majority of men I know are taller than me by a few inches. My own 19 year old DS is 5’ 11 as is his dad.

I'm the same height as you, so a partner of 6' is my ideal, especially when I've got heels on. My EXDP was 6'4", and it was the best thing about him

I've only had one date where a man claimed to be 6', but was actually 5'10" as we were the same height with my mid-height heels on! I didn't bother saying anything, I just didn't see him again (no chemistry, plus he'd lied lol).

I prefer to date men with primary age DC, as they would be similar age to mine.

I do however swipe left on those who include a picture of their DC in their profiles.

Anthony who puts ‘if you don’t look like your photos you’re buying the drinks til you do’
I saw this on a profile the other day and I actually know there in in RL (acquaintance through a hobby’ and he is a complete twat, unsurprisingly.

😁😁

Meeting up with Mr ITW (in the wild) went well he popped round and we chatted for a couple hours. He had to leave as I had to pick my child up from an activity.
He gave me a hug goodbye and it led to a kiss which got quite heavy quite quickly.
Ended up almost late for my child!!
He lives on the same estate as me so popping round this morning on his way to work (self employed so can go anytime).
No chat about the future of us, no chat about what we are doing, I am just planning on enjoying a bit of rebound sex until it fizzles out...which could be within the fortnight!
Also Mr S sent me 8 messages within the space of 2 hours last night telling me how excited he is for Friday...I am going to message him and cancel our date...nothing to do with Mr ITW and everything to do with him giving me the ick for being too full on and nice!

Saw one yesterday that had a bullet point list of 14 things that he 'hates'. Included in there was 'Lists'.

Nodding along to most of these (also don't mind a bald man or short, although I follow the belief that they lie about height so if they say 5'5 then they are really 5'3)

Surprising number of photos with guns/out hunting. That's an instant no for me.

@2anddone glad it went well with Mr ITW. Definitely sounds like something fun while it lasts.

If Mr S is being a bit full on before a date, it's going to be a nightmare afterwards IME!

@NervesOfCotton you don't live in the North West do you?! I remember a bloke who had a list of things he hated. The sad thing was, he was quite attractive!

There was also another bloke who listed his favourite TV shows. It was a very long list and all I could think was how much TV did he watch?!

@Pepsimaxedout he is being so full on!! I think he is watching my WhatsApp as everytime I go online I get a message within minutes.
I know he has a 4 hour drive today would you message him first thing or once he (inevitably) texts to say he is back home??
If I send the message then block his number will he still be able to read it?

Pepsimaxedout No I don't
On the free dating site that I'm on though, the profiles are all FULL of lists. It's almost like there is a banner comes up, before a man fills in his profile, saying 'You must start by making a negative list'.

Constant streams of negativity of what men DON'T want. I'm always muttering to myself... 'Is there anything that you actually DO want?!'

2anddone That's a shame. I thought that it was nice that he was exited but no, that's too much isn't it. I'd just message now so that it's not on your mind all day.

Not another WhatsApp stalker?! Send the message now. You can always mute the chat to make sure he's read it and then block him later.

Thank you @NervesOfCotton and @Pepsimaxedout
I have sent a message...waited for it to go to 2 blue ticks so I knew it had been read then blocked his number and deleted the conversation on my end. Also blocked him on Facebook too as he had mentioned that he had found me on there 😳😳