Dating thread 246 - Spring Dating

[SamW98]

Continued from 245….

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.
11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated
12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@2anddone undertaker?

@2anddone please tell me he replied more than 'ok' he can't seriously have just written 'ok', seriously these men!

@Thatsthebottomline I missed this post yesterday - hilarious

@SamW98 Is Mr J a doctor/nurse? Only scenario where I could find that behaviour acceptable.

Literally just ok and nothing since 🤣🤣

My bio even says I value the ability to have a good conversation 🤣🤣

That's so frustrating

That's frustrating and really odd behaviour. Sounds like you'd be best continuing to swipe!

I just saw a profile saying "no mothers" and I know that everyone is entitled to preferences but I can't help but find that hurtful

I’ve got similar on mine. I mention that good communication is essential for me and that one word messages, 👋 or an emoji doesn’t work for me - yet about 80% of the messages I get are ‘hi’ or 👋

No nothing like that.

Still nothing back from him so he obviously had nothing more to offer me - another bullet dodged.

Just seen a profile on Bumble that says - no women who moan and nag. Its boring and we don’t listen lol

Well he sounds nice 🤣

@SamW98 A very deluded man

I wouldn't feel hurt by it. I would read it as they want someone who will be at their beck and call whenever they want them to be.

Behind every woman who nags is a man who sits in his own filth.

@2anddone how long had you both been chatting? Think if it as a lucky escape... he is not your person.

Only today...trust me I am not heartbroken 😉😉

@2anddone ok phew! If it makes you feel better a guy and I had been talking a few weeks back for a couple of weeks. Voice notes, phone conversations and selfies (nothing x rated) I sent him a second selfie and never heard from him again 😂😂 sadly my selfie game is not very strong!

@mumofoneanddone82 you've dodged a bullet there. It's got nothing to do with relationships that type of behaviour, it's just bad manners and a lack of respect.

@Antonio85 yes haha! It's so weird people over 40 do this kind of shit!

@mumofoneanddone82 is it a lack of awareness for other people's feelings or are they aware but just not care? I don't know what's worse. Goes for men and women.

@Thatsthebottomline Just read your speed dating update update, so so funny, l especially liked point 8, brilliant!

Hi all, just an update.
Got back from my third date. I really enjoyed myself and I do feel like I could really start to like this person.
He wasn't feeling completely well as he still had a cold so I went to his house.
As much as I want to go ahead with this, I just feel like he doesn't fancy me. There's no touchy feely, no kiss. The last two dates he's hugged at the end up not today. This may be because of his cold as he mentioned it a few times, but I just get the vibe he thinks friendship vibes from me. So I've come home from a great date but feeling a bit gutted. I was there about 5 hours...

@blacksocks33 hd might be shy and off his game due to being unwell. One more chance?
Having said that I spent the evening with a female friend who I haven’t seen in ages due to various reasons but the conversation was amazing and raw which made me think that date conversation should be equally interesting, another reason to swerve it until I am ready

@Mountainormolehills I honestly would love to meet him again! But I just really don't think he fancies me and I'm worried about developing more feelings for someone who doesn't retaliate them :(

Ahh is this someone that you're interested in?

Sorry me again. He asked me to text him when I got home last night, which I did, and I didn't hear back. Is that weird? About a half hour drive.
I'm thinking if I hear from him today I might just put it out there and say something like "for what it's worth, I would've loved to have kissed you last night but wasn't sure how you'd feel about that with not feeling great🙈". Can anyone help me polish that up abit or something better to say? I just feel like I need to out something out there:
I'm kind of thinking he'll "thanks but no thanks" text me before I get the chance to send that to be honest!

Just another thing, he seems to only talk about his female friends. This is an absolute none issue for me. My 2 best friends are male so being with someone who has female friends doesn't make me jelous or anything.... but i think this is why I'm worried about being friend zoned!

He probably just fell asleep @blacksocks33

If I were you I would give it one more date and if he's feeling well and nothing happens then I would clarify with him at that point.