Dating thread 246 - Spring Dating

[SamW98]

Continued from 245….

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread.
11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated
12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with
13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future
14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item

@blacksocks33 any update? Did you message last night?

I've been chatting to new potentials. No idea if either will go anywhere, probably not but nice to have a distraction from missing the chat with the one who vanished.

It's a yes from me too @SamW98 !

Right you lot - I’ve told him I’m free so watch this space

Tbf @blacksocks33 me too, me too 🤣

Ooh @SamW98 that's exciting!

Had my date with Thursday Man today. I must have liked him because I can't stop checking to see if he's messaged to ask for another date if he does, I will definitely say yes. Tall, handsome and easy to talk to. I'm worried I might have blown it though! He was very perceptive about one or two things I said!

@friendswiththemonstera ohhh that is exciting too!

@friendswiththemonstera glad to hear all went well! Fingers crossed he messages!

@friendswiththemonstera that is a great update, hope he messages you!

Fingers crossed @friendswiththemonstera 🤞

@SamW98 you need to keep us all updated now! We're all over invested in this one!

@friendswiththemonstera hope you hear from hun soon!

Sorry I didn't update yesterday!
I did text him because I just thought... what even is the problem in doing so?!
He text back pretty much straight away, really chatty. He wasn't feeling well yesterday (maybe we had the same thing 🙈). We're supposed to be meeting tomorrow but other then the time, we haven't made our arrangements yet so I'm not entirely sure if it's going to happen or not.... I would like it to happen but if he's still feeling unwell I'm happy to reschedule. Just hope I'm not being fobbed off 🫠

@friendswiththemonstera that's amazing! So glad your date has gone well 🥰

@blacksocks33 sounds like he arranged another quickly? Which is a good sign! I'd be tempted to suggest a venue if I were you.

@friendswiththemonstera well we arranged Friday a few days ago. We semi discussed plans but didn't put anything in concrete other then the day and time...
I'm not sure if I'm over thinking things tbh or what.. just feeling a bit unsure!

It's really hard at the start isn't it, you feel like the slightest thing could end it all 🤐

@friendswiththemonstera as long as it doesn't feel like that after the next time you meet him

Yeah I totally relate to this!
It's hard to not get excited. It then also hard to be excited because of how stressful the situation is!

borrowed someone who we found half way through was lost and looking for Zumba upstairs
😂😂😂😂😂😂
Thanks for the best laugh! Sorry your evening was so grim 😂😂

@blacksocks33 I don't think it sounds like you are being fobbed off and it had totally occurred to me that he might have been feeling a bit crap as likely you've had the same thing in terms of feeling unwell! It's so hard not to think the worst through, I absolutely get that. I would check in at some point today and see how he is doing & maybe suggest a venue if he is feeling better.

I've been chatting to someone the last few days whose messages have been great, doesn't live in the same city as me but only around 30 miles away so not massively long distance.

But he has now suggested speaking on the phone. I've only done that once with date No 3 before we met and I found it really awkward and cut the call really short but with him we'd already agreed to meet when we spoke on the phone.

This feels more pressure in a way as we've not got to the stage of talking about potentially meeting and the idea of a phone call is anxiety provoking.

Having said that I speak all the time to random folk through work and I have no problem with speaking on the phone then but I'm not thinking I might end up dating them.

I guess it maybe does make sense though, it might go well and then it would make sense just to arrange to meet up quickly. Cut out the endless messaging. Is this usual, to chat on the phone as well as messaging?

@Thatsthebottomline your account of your speed dating event made me laugh too although I do appreciate that it wasn't funny for you at the time. I'm sorry it was so awful.

Ok throwing this out for opinions - he’s come back wanting to meet at 10am tomorrow when he’s on his break at work.

10am on a Saturday for a first date - I’m in bed at that time most weekends!! I’ve not replied as don’t quite know what to say.

That would totally work for me but it's fine that it doesn't for you - I would just ask what time he finishes and say you're not free at 10am?

Sounds like a coffee date with a fixed end timing which I would love for a first date, but probably not at 10am on a Saturday!

Not sure what he does, but maybe suggest either meeting briefly at his lunchtime, or alternatively after work @SamW98?

Oh for the love of God no! I would not be agreeing to that. I know he seemed promising but he seems a bit hard work now!

I've had a couple of phone calls with a bloke and it's actually gone much better than I thought. It's good because you can see if there is good conversation etc. But I struggle because I can't see the body language so have no idea if he's been flirty etc. I used to work on the phone so am used to filling dead air though.