@User990 sorry your date got cancelled, that's v crap but I guess at least he sent a message rather than just disappearing. Early on when I had just started on this venture I said I would meet someone who was then away on holiday and in the meantime I got chatting with someone else and arranged to meet them instead. I told the first one that was on holiday and he had said no problem at all hope it goes well but if not I'd love to meet you when I get back.
I didn't actually go on to meet him because I kind of knew he wasn't going to be for me but I remember thinking it was a sweet message.
I know your situation is different but I'd say no harm in replying with a thanks for letting me know, appreciate that the timing isn't right for you just now type message, feel free to get in touch if that changes but I guess also he may not being entirely truthful. I definitely wouldn't be thinking he would be in contact again if that makes sense.
@SamW98 that's so disappointing re Mr J. It had sounded hopeful. But yes definitely sounds like shutting it down is the right thing to do given the 18 months and no dates thing. Honestly it is just eye opening this whole OLD thing in terms of the different things people are doing it for and getting out of it.
I had been chatting to someone for over two weeks, most evenings, felt like really good reciprocal chat that had some depth but also light hearted & funny in the right kind of way. Arranged last weekend to meet which he then postponed but for seemingly good reason. I was totally aware that all the chat was making me over invested & I couldn't multi task and chat with other people as he was in my mind so I suggested we catch up this coming weekend which he'd agreed to and now he's gone. Not replied to a message, left on read, and it's over two days now, which hasn't been the pattern at all so I know it's done but it's made me feel really crap. Just a one line sorry not feeling this or whatever would have been helpful.
Can only think he either never intended to meet but for whatever reason was happy to chat or someone preferable has come along. It's just disappointing I guess as he seemed good at communicating & as if he had some modicum of care and consideration going on. I do know it's better to learn that this isn't the case now rather than in another two weeks or longer so I should be grateful for that at least.
On top of that my ex has decided now is the time to issue an apology and try and win me back. Which has totally messed with my head.
And Mr Tired never responded, and it's bumble so it expired ☹️
Plus side is that someone who I quite like the look of (unusual for me) messaged last night and we had a quick chat, and I like the sound of him as well as being easy on the eye but he lives in the countryside, over an hour away. Not sure how that would work. Will see if he pops up again before I either write it off or move myself to a rural location mentally after having lived in big cities all my adult life 😆
Also messaged someone else today so I'm getting back out there!