I’m beyond angry. Just a rant.

[Ihavenamechanged987]

Not sure if relationships is exactly the right place for this but I’m reeling. How could anybody believe this is acceptable!

So guy I’ve known for years and would have said was a friend, albeit one I don’t see often. Both of us have had a rough month so arranged to meet him for drinks tonight with a few other people, strictly platonic. He was aware of this… or so I thought.

Texting earlier to arrange meeting time place etc and he starts to get a bit flirty. I clarify that this is just friends having a drink and a laugh together and nothing else and he agrees but then starts to push it again. Anyway I’ve attached the texts below because I’m speechless and angry.

The gist of the last message which is cut off is him asking if I’m still going! Funnily enough the answer was no with a side of me telling him he’s creepy and rapey. I’ve blocked and will never speak to him again but I’m so angry.

And uses the word cuddles 😱

@MarshmallowsOnToast I am in South Wales so hopefully your safe!

Well... safe from your guy at least but seem to have my own. 😂

Maybe they are long lost cousins.

Hope he gets the message & buggers off for you soon 🤞🏻🤞🏻

@MarshmallowsOnToast oh god! The world doesn’t need two of them 😂

Thank you! I hope you get shot of your cling-on as well! 🤞

Less long lost cousins and more part of an underground network. There’s fucking hundreds of the horrors!

He doesn't sound well. Paranoid and whiny. I think you've dodged a bullet there. Make sure you block him.

@Ihavenamechanged987 you'd be dead if he was a cling on, I've seen star trek you know 🤔

@spookehtooth ahhh you can probably guess that I have not seen Star Trek 😂

However right now I think I’d rather take my chances with a cling-on than be in a 100 mile radius of Mr you will give me cuddles 🤢

He has serious issues. He's clearly not the most intelligent bloke judging by his texts but that's no excuse for his behavior.

Does he have substance abuse issues?
Very unnerving ...stay away.

Gosh yes...Elliot Raaaaadger.

He sounds so creepy @Ihavenamechanged987
Lucky escape.

He called you a ''Shit''...as in ''Oi, you shit''...he's revolting.
He definitely is Elliot Rodger material.

He changed his tune pretty quickly didn't he. Lucky you did not go as he sounds nuts and would change as soon as he did not get his way. Does he know where you live? Why have people changed so much and expect so much and get crazy if you do not do what they expect. Are you ok?

He’s the type of creep that thinks women are just slot machines that he can put ‘nice guy’ tokens in and sex comes out.
Absolute boak at his use “cuddles” too
If men have nothing else they will ALWAYS have the audacity!

Police. NOW.

Good for you for listening to your gut, OP! What a creep!

He’s mental, and the ‘xD’ alone would give me the ick let alone the rest of the shite that’s coming out of his mouth!

the whole thing makes me think that if someone did unfortunately have sex with him, it'd be like kissing, cuddling(!) and girating with a floppy wet oversized fish. i bet he'd be all arms and clinging everywhere, getting all tearful and thinking the woman was in love with him.

I think you can assume we all got the gist of the situation, without having to share the texts/screenshots (that this is becoming a thing makes one scared to put anything in writing now).

@DahliaRose3 if you are starting to get scared about putting things in writing then it might be worth a moment of your time to rethink the kind of texts you are sending out. Most people manage to never send creepy texts. Or texts worthy of being screenshotted for the police.

@Ihavenamechanged987 hopefully he has stopped trying to contact you now, thank goodness you never went!

This is so grim, do not reply to him as tempting as it is.

His messages are scarily similar to a personal trainer who is currently being ‘outed’ for his behaviour on social media by numerous women (and young girls) in our area. I honestly despair at the amount of men who behave this way.

Hope you’re okay OP.

I hope he's dropped you now, but if he contacts you again you really should report to the police, he's harassing you and that's illegal. You've told him to leave you alone, you've blocked him, you don't need to threathen him with the pice, just call them.

He's loathsome, so glad you realised this before you met up with him.

Not quite as bad but I was once called 'hostile' by a bloke I went on a date with because I told him I wasn't going to have sex with him (after him telling me he never wore condoms, no thank you.)

He then persisted in phoning me while having a wank, (once while I was at work) and it wasn't until the last time it happened I twigged what he was up to. I was in the process of getting ready for a trip to London (to see my favourite band after the gig had been postponed four times because of COVID) and I was really angry after that. (Angry texted my mum when I got on the train and phoned my boyfriend who wasn't impressed with him being a creep.) Blocked him, and he still tries to phone me occasionally, as he can't get through but I get missed call notifications on my phone.

Unfortunately he works in one of my local supermarkets, so I avoid him when I go in there if he's working. There's this sort of defiance, I haven't done anything wrong, and I have nothing to be ashamed of, so why the hell should I not go into said supermarket? I did ask if someone else could serve me when I went in there the other day as I needed to return something and he was on the customer service/kiosk till. I don't want to speak to him at all.

We too used to be friendly but I always had the feeling he wanted to get in my knickers, and this was years ago when I was still with my ex husband and a lot more timid, so I always avoided anything where I'd be alone with him. Now I know my own mind he's got no chance. (And I'm even more bolshy now I'm pregnant. 😂)

I'm sorry this is happening to you OP, if he carries on I echo what others have said about contacting the police. He's getting really nasty now. Hopefully he'll stop being such a twat.

Ugh. Reminds me of a guy I went in a third date with. We’d met for a coffee first date, second date early dinner, and third date I invited him to the theatre. He’d had two drinks before the show, dozed off during the second half, and in his sleep did an absolute death pong of a fart. Walking to (separate) taxis, he said ‘do I not get a little hug to see me home?’ and foolishly I embraced him, at which point he creepily put both hands up my top 🤢. A little hug or a cuddle = I’m going to grope you. I was 46 and thought to myself, you absolute fucking creep. It’s the nonchalance of ‘it’s only - what’s your problem?’ that never ceases to amaze me.

This is almost verbatim what I emailed to my ex recently (who’d been repeatedly pestering me to meet with him ever since I ended it 4.5yrs ago). I’d had him blocked on everything but he STILL found a way through.

It was all “let’s meet for an innocent coffee” (like for the OP) but quickly deteriorated into hounding & hostility. I sent a VERY clear email explaining I’d got a dossier of his communications and if I ever see / hear from him in any capacity (which includes driving down my road or being within eyeline of my friends or family) that I would immediately take all the evidence to the police, as well as informing his bosses. Not heard from him since.

These utter CUNTS will push and push and push our boundaries, under various disguises (nice guy / needy friend / reasonable ex) just to get their own needs met. Selfish fucking PRICKS.

Take care OP. I’m quite concerned for you. Can you please make sure you’re with a friend or at least someone knows what’s going on? 💐