Husband's reaction to sexting by Geri Halliwell's husband

[Turkathon]

My husband and I were talking about Geri Halliwell's husband, who has been caught 'sexting' his female colleague.

I don't think there are sexual images in the WhatsApp messages. They are flirty texts with a sexual element. For example, he asks women what kind of underwear they're wearing.

My husband said that it shouldn't be a massive deal for a women if her husband does this (though he said 'it isn't great'). He said that women who get really riled and angry about this sort of thing are letting their thinking be clouded by 'gender politics'.

I thought he was joking but he wasn't.

Would many people take my husband's attitude?

I’d be telling him what a relief that is because I messaged X from work to ask how short his boxers are and I felt guilty but now I know his view I know that’s ok so I don’t feel as bad….. then wait to see if it’s now acceptable or not

‘He said that women who get really riled and angry about this sort of thing are letting their thinking be clouded by 'gender politics'. Eh? Incoherent.

Not quite sure what he meant as it doesn’t make sense, however him saying it is not a big deal? We all know that’s wrong.

To answer your question, I think a lot of men ‘think’ that. Of course they do. It absolves them (in their head) of any responsibility to be a good human being / boyfriend / partner / husband. Pathetic.

It's only recently that I've realised that my partner was a bit of a misogynist!!

Incels should be allowed to sleep with women so they're not lonely evidently...as if women owe men sex...ever..

The whole TWAW...oh it will blow over.... And what detriment to women's in the meantime

Men sexting other women behind their partners back...it's harmless, don't read too much into it ......so a complete breakdown in trust and respect is reading too much into it...

I could go on...

It seems that the world has gone back 50 years and men are still seeing women as second class citizens ... I just don't get it and I admit...I'm pretty sick about it.

Ah, devout catholic. Do what you like and be forgiven after a couple of hail Mary’s and a few quid in the plate.

He's telling you what he’s really like. Listen.

Sounds to me like he's hiding behind his religion and using it as an excuse.
I bet he'd lose his shit if someone asked you what underwear you were wearing!

@Turkathon Please ask your H if he’s happy for you to sext other men? And is it his belief it should be ok for him to sext other women?

And regardless of his big man job, he does sound dumb I’m afraid.

@NightAndShiningArmour Are you saying most of his mates have sent these similar messages whilst they are also in a relationship/married? That's different to sending these messages whilst they are single.
The latter is inappropriate if made to a woman who has asked them to stop, the former is disgusting and they'd be in the bin if they were my partner.
You DH's comments demostrate men supporting other men to continue totally inappropriate behaviour by trying to normalise it.

Nigel'sShiningArmour strikes again.

Sadly not just other men backing the sleaze.

Well if he's such a devout Catholic remind him that Our Lord says that if a man so much as looks at a woman other than his wife with lust, he's committed adultery, so, he needs to get to Confession asap, and tell the priest about it, who I am sure will tell him that sending such texts is indeed adultery and thus, a Mortal Sin, which means it severs one's relationship with God and puts one in danger of Eternal Damnation!
I'm a Catholic too BTW, and tell him to look it up in his Catechism if he doesn't believe you when you tell him this! If he's devout, he should have a copy! Flippin' heck, if he's devout, he should KNOW what Our Lord said about this and should KNOW what the 6th Commandment is about!

There are multiple references to visiting hotel rooms and both mention times when he did or didn't need her (to come). This looks like clear evidence of an affair rather than flirting and I didn't get a particular sense of her wanting it to stop, more just she wasn't at his beck and call - she's saying not now more than no stop, no means no etc.

@Turkathon I don't think your husband has the first idea about common decency, respect, and standards within your marriage. I would be extremely worried by his response if I were in your shoes. He isn't a devout Catholic.