Husband's reaction to sexting by Geri Halliwell's husband

[Turkathon]

My husband and I were talking about Geri Halliwell's husband, who has been caught 'sexting' his female colleague.

I don't think there are sexual images in the WhatsApp messages. They are flirty texts with a sexual element. For example, he asks women what kind of underwear they're wearing.

My husband said that it shouldn't be a massive deal for a women if her husband does this (though he said 'it isn't great'). He said that women who get really riled and angry about this sort of thing are letting their thinking be clouded by 'gender politics'.

I thought he was joking but he wasn't.

Would many people take my husband's attitude?

Oh right so he’s a Director in a very large company? Next you’re gonna tell us he’s the father of twins, amirite?

He was definitely sexting or trying to sext, even if they came across as cringey.
Either way, sexting and cringey flirting are the same to me.

And I'm sure the majority of men have sent similar, but if those men are in relationships and they're sending those messages to women who they are not in relationships with then they're arseholes, unless they know their partner is ok with it, which she more than likely isn't.

And I bet those same men would cry and be furious and probably even be close to a mental breakdown if they found out that their female partners sent those messages to other men!

Well I say totally guilty of doing the same thing and being rather v desperate you agree OP.

I'm afraid I'd probably be thinking he's been guilty of similar texts, op.

Devout Catholic = doesn't that mean if breaks his marriage vows he can confess privately to a priest, say a few hail Mary's and move on?

(Apologies to genuinely moral catholics for my flippancy)

Would he be fine if a male work colleague was asking you what underwear you were wearing?

Haha. Funny that seems many husband quite into this news. My husband showed me the screenshot of the leaked messages. The messages did say the woman had finished the guy off. Like all messages basically contradict to the headline of him being clear of inappropriate behaviour.

and what a PR stunt that the wife and him hold hands for the cameras lol
i wonder if they hold hands in the past when out and about in front of media

Sorry, that should read " totally different from how you would be expected to react if you caught him doing it".

Brain and fingers not in sync.

I’ve been searching Reddit but haven’t seen “the finger” 🤮

Found the finger 😂

Ask your husband how he would feel if you started sexting other guys and asking them “what type and colour of underwear they’re using.

Out of curiosity. Maybe he doesn’t give a toss, who knows. I personally would feel quite hurted if my partner did that.

Tell him you're setting up a colleague group chat to update them on the colour of your knickers on a daily basis.

Unless he's extremely uptight he should be cool with that?

I wouldn't be surprised if he's already engaging in some "no big deal" texting.

Devout ha ha!

Seems your husband still drags his knuckles on the floor. I would be checking his phone.

It actually makes me feel quite depressed that any man in this day and age would think this is perfectly acceptable, almost casual, behaviour within a marriage. And even more depressing that his wife might need advice as to whether this was right or not.

The answer op is that your DH absolutely knows that it is crossing a line but he’s gaslighting you. And the idea that he has an iota of Christian belief or faith when he says things like that is frankly laughable.

They enjoy the power play, testing how much pressure they can put on women, testing what they can get away with.
The risk is limited, they're in a better position whatever happens, and the forbidden side of things adds to the excitement.
I think.

How to tell your wife you send sleazy messages to other women, without actually telling your wife you send sleazy messages to other women 🤢

For context, he is a devout Catholic

The worst type!

Does he ever refer to you as ‘her indoors’? 🤮 he sounds largely unbearable.

This would really put me off. I mean, your H hasn’t done it but the fact he thinks it’s no big deal means to me that he doesn’t have the right morals needed for a long lasting relationship. It’s a bit gross to think it’s ok.

Tell him you forgot but a while back you did have a few text exchanges with a male friend of his/yours/someone at work, just about your bra size, what you like to wear to bed etc. See if he's totally ok with that..... 🤨

I am a man, and I think Christian Horner's behaviour is shocking. There are so many things wrong with it, it's hard to know where to start. He is her boss, they clearly had some sort of affair, she's tried to stop it and he continued to harass her.

That is not normal, and he should be sacked. It is only the fact that there is so much money in F1 that he hasn't been, and it is dispicable. None of my male friends would do this, either in the workplace, or in general, so it is not normal behaviour for men.

If anyone wants to see the messages / photos, they are here:-
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1OlV2wb51s1WhjLFq0Lsp4inRU60qvdhY

Not all men do. Just the ones who are led by the moral compass in their pants and who are arrogant enough to think a) that they could possibly be attractive to their colleagues and b) that they will get away with it.

He sounds fairly twatty. I'd be taking note.

Wtaf …what would your husband think to you sexting another guy ….ffs do you really need to ask how do you feel about his attitude