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Husband's reaction to sexting by Geri Halliwell's husband

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Turkathon · 02/03/2024 12:38

My husband and I were talking about Geri Halliwell's husband, who has been caught 'sexting' his female colleague.

I don't think there are sexual images in the WhatsApp messages. They are flirty texts with a sexual element. For example, he asks women what kind of underwear they're wearing.

My husband said that it shouldn't be a massive deal for a women if her husband does this (though he said 'it isn't great'). He said that women who get really riled and angry about this sort of thing are letting their thinking be clouded by 'gender politics'.

I thought he was joking but he wasn't.

Would many people take my husband's attitude?

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Bestdressed · 02/03/2024 20:29

Bestdressed · 02/03/2024 20:27

Wtaf …what would your husband think to you sexting another guy ….ffs do you really need to ask how do you feel about his attitude

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answer to your question no chance I would never let that go hope you challenged him the fool

labamba007 · 02/03/2024 20:30

What about the other way round and you starting sending flirty texts? Would that be okay then?

frozendaisy · 02/03/2024 20:32

Clouded by gender politics?

Eh, say what now!

Indifferentchickenwings · 02/03/2024 20:42

Men can get a bit tribal
a very very generous interpretation is he’s seeing the public humiliation and loss of face
and unfortunately sees this misbehaviour himself ? With his friends ? Work colleagues

id explore this angle , does he think it’s OK because he would do it ?
or does he thinks it’s gross , but knows that a lot of men do it , and doesn’t warrant this much publicity ( which it doesn’t actually ) .

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Turkathon · 02/03/2024 23:30

HappiestSleeping · 02/03/2024 20:22

I am a man, and I think Christian Horner's behaviour is shocking. There are so many things wrong with it, it's hard to know where to start. He is her boss, they clearly had some sort of affair, she's tried to stop it and he continued to harass her.

That is not normal, and he should be sacked. It is only the fact that there is so much money in F1 that he hasn't been, and it is dispicable. None of my male friends would do this, either in the workplace, or in general, so it is not normal behaviour for men.

If anyone wants to see the messages / photos, they are here:-
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1OlV2wb51s1WhjLFq0Lsp4inRU60qvdhY

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Thanks for the link to the messages and photos, @HappiestSleeping

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RandomForest · 02/03/2024 23:38

I bet that response was comforting.

SwordToFlamethrower · 02/03/2024 23:45

That wasn't a finger! 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮

beatrix1234 · 02/03/2024 23:45

HappiestSleeping · 02/03/2024 20:22

I am a man, and I think Christian Horner's behaviour is shocking. There are so many things wrong with it, it's hard to know where to start. He is her boss, they clearly had some sort of affair, she's tried to stop it and he continued to harass her.

That is not normal, and he should be sacked. It is only the fact that there is so much money in F1 that he hasn't been, and it is dispicable. None of my male friends would do this, either in the workplace, or in general, so it is not normal behaviour for men.

If anyone wants to see the messages / photos, they are here:-
https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/1OlV2wb51s1WhjLFq0Lsp4inRU60qvdhY

Edited

Sorry went through the images and I was expecting something juicy, maybe dick pics or him dressed as a sub but this is probably the most lame conversation I’ve ever read between a man and a woman. It made me yawn 🥱

So is this it? “What colour panties are you wearing?” Yes he’s a sleaze, yes it’s completely innapropiate because he’s the boss. A little more context would have been nice though. Were these two people having an affair? Again: I’m lacking context.

beatrix1234 · 02/03/2024 23:52

The whole conversation is cringe and he sounds quite predatory. Nice guy he’s not.

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Turkathon · 02/03/2024 23:59

I've read through the messages too. He was asking for pics of what she was wearing, and said 'its what underneath that matters'.

When she tried to get it all to stop, he said he said he felt like she was 'judging his lifestyle'.

He sent her a pic of his chest. Am still not sure what I think about the 'finger'....

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beatrix1234 · 03/03/2024 00:13

Turkathon · 02/03/2024 23:59

I've read through the messages too. He was asking for pics of what she was wearing, and said 'its what underneath that matters'.

When she tried to get it all to stop, he said he said he felt like she was 'judging his lifestyle'.

He sent her a pic of his chest. Am still not sure what I think about the 'finger'....

yes, the whole conversation is quite cringe and he sounds like one entitled douche. I feel sorry for Geri putting up with this t-wat. She probably knew what she was getting into and probably doesn’t care. That PR stunt for damage control was pretty laughable and cringy.

beatrix1234 · 03/03/2024 00:16

@Turkathon When she tried to get it all to stop, he said he said he felt like she was 'judging his lifestyle

”judging his lifestyle” 😂🤣😂 The gaslighting is real 🔥

Babla · 03/03/2024 00:52

context, he is a devout Catholic*

A devout catholic sending flirty texts?!

That explains it

AyeOopDuck · 03/03/2024 00:53

I think you should send a pic msg to your FIL/BIL/his best mate or preferably his Priest of a pair of saucy knickers asking if they think they would suit you.

Mmhmmn · 03/03/2024 00:56

Tell him you’ve been sexting a male colleague … bet he’d be less cool with that.

HappiestSleeping · 03/03/2024 05:29

beatrix1234 · 02/03/2024 23:45

Sorry went through the images and I was expecting something juicy, maybe dick pics or him dressed as a sub but this is probably the most lame conversation I’ve ever read between a man and a woman. It made me yawn 🥱

So is this it? “What colour panties are you wearing?” Yes he’s a sleaze, yes it’s completely innapropiate because he’s the boss. A little more context would have been nice though. Were these two people having an affair? Again: I’m lacking context.

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There aren't any killer pictures or messages. To me, it looks like they either had an affair or came very close to it, she has stopped it, and he didn't want it to stop. He talks about not knowing where boundaries are now because there were none previously, and having to finish himself off in the plane toilet 🤮

It's all sleazy and inappropriate. And the slimy finger photo 🤮🤮

For me, the point is that she asked him to stop and he didn't. Regardless of what did, or did not happen, any woman (or man) has the right to discontinue. He is ignoring that. She may, or may not feel uncomfortable, but that isn't the point, he is abusing his position as her boss.

Of course it could also be that she thought he'd leave Harry Jellywell, stopped it when he didn't, and this is revenge. She asks what Geri would think a time or two. Then all this is mysteriously published when the grievance was dismissed.

Either way, there's enough in there for a gross misconduct sacking in my humble opinion.

Justfinking · 03/03/2024 05:43

What's good for the goose is good for the gander. Tell him Ollie from accounts just asked you about your knickers 😅

Bestdressed · 03/03/2024 07:48

beatrix1234 · 02/03/2024 23:52

The whole conversation is cringe and he sounds quite predatory. Nice guy he’s not.

Dent feel sorry for Geri she didn’t mind him leaving his mrs with a 6 month old how would you feel she is the same as him both deserve each other

TheDowagerDoughnut · 03/03/2024 07:55

Your husband hasn't actually read the messages, I think.

Not well coded is an exchange about how she made him come but wouldn't let him reciprocate.

I've a feeling your husband would not just chalk that up to innocent flirting if he found you had sent similar messages.

baytreelane23 · 03/03/2024 08:21

It's always interesting to hear how people interpret messages and boundaries.

She told him to stop multiple times. He asked for video calls when she was about to shower, or get into bed. She told him he was crossing boundaries and would Geri be happy with him sending such messages. He asks her at least twice to delete the messages from her phone to which she tells him she doesn't need to (as it's all one sided throughout).

And yet I keep seeing thing being referred to as flirty/ sexting etc.. i read it as sexual harassment and it was uncomfortable to read.

ChristianHornersGlisteningFinger · 03/03/2024 08:33

NightAndShiningArmour · 02/03/2024 17:31

My DH and his mates are F1 fans and have seen the texts. He said they’re cringey flirting rather than sexting. He also said he thinks the majority of men he knows have sent similar.

There is a link to the full cache of them all further in this thread. Why don’t you read them for yourself and form your own view?

OP please please ask your DH to examine what the fuck he means by “gender politics” in this context. I’m agog to understand how trans people come into this…

Usernamechange1234 · 03/03/2024 08:38

What’s clear to me is he’s entirely comfortable with pushing the boundaries like this. This is not his first rodeo. It’s just this woman didn’t take the bait so it does feel like sexual harassment not just ‘flirty or cringey’.

Bestdressed · 03/03/2024 08:45

Usernamechange1234 · 03/03/2024 08:38

What’s clear to me is he’s entirely comfortable with pushing the boundaries like this. This is not his first rodeo. It’s just this woman didn’t take the bait so it does feel like sexual harassment not just ‘flirty or cringey’.

💯 per cent but let’s NOT forget Geri is no better herself ….it’s called KARMA🙏🏻😄

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 03/03/2024 08:47

My DH and his mates are F1 fans and have seen the texts. He said they’re cringey flirting rather than sexting. He also said he thinks the majority of men he knows have sent similar.

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Not sure that being a F1 fan qualifies you to have a particular insight into what would or wouldn't constitute harassment?

NecessaryNC24 · 03/03/2024 08:53

baytreelane23 · 03/03/2024 08:21

It's always interesting to hear how people interpret messages and boundaries.

She told him to stop multiple times. He asked for video calls when she was about to shower, or get into bed. She told him he was crossing boundaries and would Geri be happy with him sending such messages. He asks her at least twice to delete the messages from her phone to which she tells him she doesn't need to (as it's all one sided throughout).

And yet I keep seeing thing being referred to as flirty/ sexting etc.. i read it as sexual harassment and it was uncomfortable to read.

Totally agree.

But some poster's Nigels have said it's just bad flirty bants so that's ok.