I’ve mostly raised several points about how heterosexual relationships are not equal, due mainly to the inequality of basic human biology, but also the fact that society simply is not set up this way. These relationships are fundamentally not ‘50:50’. And yet to acknowledge that reality is somehow a kind of fundamental sin against ‘feminism’.
Not one person has meaningfully or thoughtfully engaged with that at all. Instead I am labelled as ‘entitled’, that I ‘expect to be provided for’, ‘princess’, ‘hard work’ or ‘don’t believe in equal partnership’ and then get told I can’t ‘handle’ a difference in opinion which couldn’t be further from the truth.
To completely ignore the inherent and very real risks to women when dating and having sex with men is misogynistic. I don’t think women should be shamed simply because they use a very basic act of generosity as an initial benchmark when dating, so as to assess whether it is a worthwhile risk for them.
I also really hate men invading women’s spaces and then attacking their points of view. This started off as a light hearted thread and then a man, posting on women’s forum, started complaining about how it was stingy of women to not pay halves, and outraged that he should be expected to pay ‘just because he’s a man’. I mean, god, I shouldn’t have to feel unsafe walking alone at night ‘just because I’m a woman’ but I do because men and women are not the same and we don’t live in an entirely ‘fair’ or safe society. That’s just life. You’re basically saying it should be ‘fair’ when it benefits you. As a man.
I also don’t think my views are niche at all. I just think some people are rightfully too afraid to say anything for fear of being attacked. I always get people private messaging me agreeing with me and thanking me when I post on here.
Anyway, I want to enjoy my Friday evening so I’m out ☺️. I’m also pretty sad this thread got derailed as some of the anecdotes on here are hilarious!