Stories of stingiest first dates

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Just comparing experiences here at a friends ... jaw dropping stuff!

Mine asked me to transfer money for a coffee and cake after our first date which was a walk and feeding the ducks.
I thought we were going for lunch ... that was the original invite.
Another asked me to transfer money to r a takeaway having offered to pay for my child and I , as he stayed at mine every weekend. Both ended there and then !

Pp talking about dating 20 years ago - that was a different world. I understand the idea though, but it doesn't apply in a quick drink scenario.

Pp also mentioned "whoever does the asking does the paying".

I can see that being an idea if you meet each other IRL, but now when people are dating online, having a quick coffee as a first meeting to see if they like the actual person in the flesh, it doesn't seem applicable.

OLD sounds like a conveyor belt that has removed humanity from dating.

Why is it down to guy, to pay, they prob all think what a bunch of tight women.

I once had a guy invite me for dinner at a BYOB place - fine.

And then after he asked if I wanted to go for a drink and I said yes expecting us to go to one of the pubs nearby.

And he said, okay well I’ve still got a few cans (of beer) left so how about we stop at a shop so you can get some more and then go sit in the park and drink them?

This was in winter - it was dark and cold.

I said actually I’ve changed my mind and I’m was going home

Another aide invited me for lunch.
We met in a very nice restaurant, had lunch, the check came - and guess what??
He “forgot” his wallet. So I had to pay for us both — I’m positive he forgot on purpose.
I happened to see my boss, the senator, a day or two later, and we laughed about this.
But my boss didn’t forget - every time she saw his boss, another senator, she made sure to tease him about what a snake he had working for him — for the next two years, she’d ask him if he had his wallet lol.
I figure that was worth the price of a $45 lunch.

I would say - unless you are a heiress, go old fashioned.

^^

Hear hear

This is awful behaviour on your part.

Bullshit.

why, please do explain

Tinder date, met in a pub.
Arrived, saw he’d just finished a drink. I asked if he wanted a drink on my way to the bar - he did and asked if I wanted to share a bowl of chips. He said the pub do table tabs and we could settle at the end. Fine by me. Went to the bar. They don’t do tabs, so had to pay.

Went back to seats, he was surveying my slightly fat body on the way back. I told him bar don’t do tabs, he was apologetic and said he’d get the next round.

After a self aggrandising monologue about his fit and healthy lifestyle (he was a bit fat too), he went to the bar to get the next round in. Then he skulked back to the table with drinks in hand. His card had failed - and he asked if I could cover it and he’d transfer it bk.
Did he? The absolute state of some of these dopes.

yea but this is mn, remember that all men are on at least 300k a year...

Why are so many men posting on here? If we wanted to discuss something with men we'd go on Reddit. Just go away.

Said no-one on MN. Ever. Or anything like it.

Can’t sleep and was looking forward to reading some amusing stories of stingy first dates. What do I get instead? The usual numerous posts taking the moral high ground expounding their I’m-so-clever views and arguing with each other (i.e. trying to out-clever each other). For once, just ONCE, can people not keep their tediously boring opinions to theirselves!! The utterly smug I’m-so-clever-with-my-clever-opinion-which-everyone-must-surely-find-interesting smuggy self-love rises up from them like steam off a piss pool on a chilly morning. Or those being extra-clever by getting it across with a pointed one-liner or pointed question! We don’t all need educating in or by your opinions. (We all have opinions. You’re not being clever or special or interesting by having them - and airing them at every fucking opportunity!
Every light-hearted thread on here you get the same and it makes me cringe!! I’ve kept quiet for long enough! Even if it was about something as innocuous as a ring doughnut … at least one will still come along cleverly or to argue or to find offence SOMEWHERE!)

(And apologies for doing the same ^ ….I’ve just given my opinion rather than an amusing anecdote ….😬)

no my mistake, it was Closer to a million along with their houses in Notting hill.

100% this- I wanted amusing anecdotes not people bitching about how it’s all so unfair. I already have a child who moans about stuff being unfair, when the baby is keeping me up at 4am, I don’t need to read it on the internet.

Went on a date with a guy, needed a piss at the train station on the way back. 20p for the turnstile, tight prick only had a 30p coin and had the audacity to ask me for the 10p change!

There are some posters on this thread that are way OTT. You can have whatever opinion you want, as can everyone else. If you can’t see that then you are not as smart as you think you are. The constant comebacks are boring and make you sound sad and angry.

Black people aren’t statistically more likely to commit crime, what illogical bullshit. It’s because of institutional racism that they get prosecuted more often than white men for the same crime and are stopped and searched disproportionately to white men, so clearly the stats are skewed.

I think it's really situation dependant. Dating as students - well we were all as broke as each other so go dutch. In your 30's looking for the father of your children then maybe he needs to show his provider credentials. In your 40's/50's both probably earning- go dutch again.

I have lived in Cultures like this.
It can come with it's own price.

30p coin?
What country are you in?

Exactly this @gannett. I’m astounded at the number of shallow and stereotypical gold digging women here.

… we should also be well past the gender pay gap 🧐

Yep. The entitlement is shocking. And I don’t get the argument that a man is tight for not paying for everything on dates but a woman who keeps her purse in her bag and doesn’t offer a penny isn’t. Hypocrisy and double standards.