Guy on OLD asked to message him an interesting fact

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To see if women read his profile to the end, the last sentence of his blurb asked to tell him an interesting fact.

Maybe filtering out bots?

Would you find this fun or twattish and which fact would you share with him if any?

It irked me because he sounded too experienced and strategic at OLD and I wanted someone new on the scene like me and unjaded not someone creating more hoops and barriers at the offset. It's him and guys who should make more effort
He puts the onus on women to impress him, while he sits back. I like traditional roles of men pursuing and trying to impress the lady, not submit an audition for his approval..
I ended up blocking him (I got notified he looked at my profile so I looked at his and then blocked without either of us talking)

Reason 999 why OLD is not for me! 🙄

I read enough threads here about women being jaded with OLD, men who don't read profiles, lazy first messages etc. Maybe he feels the same. Apparently men get lots of OF women, bots and MLM sellers rather than people looking to date, so it could be down to that?

It would depend on the rest of his profile as to whether I would think, 'Okay, I'll bite,' or thinking he's just expecting women to jump through hoops which would set the tone of any relationship. You can often read between the lines as to which vibe you get from him - you presumably got the latter.

Well, I know that many women make it a criteria that men on OLD message them with some more interesting than Hello and something that refers to their profile, so I wouldn’t see it as a red flag if a man thinks the same. Could be a good sign that he’s not just looking for sex but actually wants to know something about the other person. But obviously you can contact/date whoever you like, and since neither of you messaged each other, you might just not be each others cup of tea.

People on here spend too much time and energy thinking about the hows and whys of obviously incompatible men. Beyond the incompatibility, which you've established already, none of it matters.

He's done you a favour, now don't give a second thought to him, or the other 90-odd percent of incompatible men you see online or anywhere else.

You are all right, it's enough that his type of approach wasn't going to work for me even if everyone commented that it was a brilliant idea. I suppose I just wanted to see whether other women would see it as off putting too.

Ergh…

if there is something about his profile…
I’d go for some low effort and go from there
“butterflies have ears on their knees”
if he is willing to engage I’d give it a free pass. Any more “impress me” nonsense and I’d drop the rope…

otherwise I just wouldn’t bother

He's probably bored of 'hi' and women thinking they should always be pursued. A woman that seems interesting and interested in him is likely to get his attention . I wouldn't necessarily do what they ask but would comment about their hobby or ask a question to get convo going. If he still demanded an interested fact, I'd point him towards Siri or chat gpt 😂

Personally I want someone to actually show me they’ve read my profile rather than just looked at the photos and so this man’s approach would work for me.

I always make sure I refer to something they’ve mentioned in their bio in my messages.

I imagine like most on OLD he’s jaded with the poor communication and is filtering anyone who can’t be bothered to read a few sentences.

I think it sounds a good idea tbh! It shows how much effort someone has put in to read the bio

I used to have a minimum word amount they had to write. It filtered out the "How's you" lot. Except the ones who just repeated "how's you" many times - inspired!😴Happily, I could filter those out too, along with all the ones who had trouble filling a message - if you can't convese effectively, I'm not interested.

I think it sounds like a good idea and acts as a conversation starter

I like it.

My interesting fact might be that you can only move a beehive up to 3m away from its original place. Any further & you'll have to move it 3 miles or the bees get all confused & can find it.

I didn't know that butterflies had earknees. My interesting fact: bananas are radioactive.

It sounds like the basis for an interesting conversation starter.

It wouldn't put me off if his basic details matched.

He could be a stuffy old bore or he could be entertaining and fun. You won't know unless you get to know him a little more.

I replied to one who asked, "What's your favourite dinosaur and why?"

Sometimes, it's just a conversation starter and nothing more nefarious than that.

Interesting fact: You'll have to try harder than that, mate. Next!

Seems like it managed to filter you out so from his perspective it worked. When I was OLD so many women’s profiles had literally zero information, the photos were filtered to death with bunny ears and butterflies and any chat often began and ended with ‘Hi’.

I like interesting facts so I'd like this. I'd tell him about the crows in Japan who have learned to use traffic lights - they drop nuts on pedestrian crossings, wait for cars drive over them, then wait for the green light to collect the cracked nuts.

Straight away he knows I'm interested in crows and weird animal facts. Hopefully his fact would actually be interesting to me too. It's a good conversation starter.

OP doesn't have to respond if she doesn't want to though, he's successfully filtered out a woman who isn't bothered about interesting facts.

Sounds like a boring bloke who can’t manage better than a ‘hi how r u’ himself so is extending the legwork to you

‘interesting fact’ - nah thanks, literally grew out of trivia as the basis for fun conversation aged 11 when I was obsessed with fact books.

i’d save my chat for men with interesting profiles who I could start a chat with. My husband had pictures of him skiing so I messaged first and we started chatting about resorts we had been to

Agree with GavinHendersonsChipPan

I think it’s a reasonable request. I’m full of useless facts and would send the most shit one to him.

I used to get annoyed when guys messaged ‘hi babe’ and clearly hadn’t read my profile. In the end I only wrote back to the people that made conversation about my profile/hobbies.

Having served my time on OLD, I think it’s a filter to check who has read his bio. So many people just swipe on photos and then are completely incompatible. It’s not putting the legwork on you, it’s asking for a very simple response that will kickstart a conversation.

That wouldn’t work for OP as she has a said she doesn’t want to do the chasing and expects the man to do it. I guess that filters out a fair few blokes.

I expect(ed) a man to chase too, but there’s nothing wrong with starting a conversation. A chat about skiing or pottery or Bavarian music is not ‘making the first move’.

If you use Bumble, you have to.

No issue with having a chat- I just don’t pin men down for dates nor provide ‘interesting facts’ like a performing monkey

I don't see the difference between starting a conversation with a fact you find interesting vs a topic (ski resorts) you find interesting. Your conversation about ski resorts presumably included things you found interesting about specific ones.

Agree with this. Its filtering out the one word messages and the 👋 and kick starting a conversation.

If it’s not to someone’s taste then just swipe on past but I’d rather someone show they’ve read my profile.

I’ve had men message me and make it obvious they’ve not read a single word - that’s far more off putting for me.