Guy on OLD asked to message him an interesting fact

[Puffpuffpuff]

To see if women read his profile to the end, the last sentence of his blurb asked to tell him an interesting fact.

Maybe filtering out bots?

Would you find this fun or twattish and which fact would you share with him if any?

It irked me because he sounded too experienced and strategic at OLD and I wanted someone new on the scene like me and unjaded not someone creating more hoops and barriers at the offset. It's him and guys who should make more effort
He puts the onus on women to impress him, while he sits back. I like traditional roles of men pursuing and trying to impress the lady, not submit an audition for his approval..
I ended up blocking him (I got notified he looked at my profile so I looked at his and then blocked without either of us talking)

Reason 999 why OLD is not for me! 🙄

It wouldn't annoy me, if anything it sounds like a good conversation starter. But as someone else has said, if it irks you then that's fine too and his personality is just not right for you. Different approaches will work for different people

Yes to this. Tells me something about him. Gives me something to talk about. Isn't putting pressure on me to do any work to impress him. A more thoughtful way of going about it.
Women could do the same if they want.

Gargoyles are called gargoyles because they make a gargling sound when it rains heavily.

“He puts the onus on women to impress him, while he sits back. I like traditional roles of men pursuing and trying to impress the lady, not submit an audition for his approval..”

Righty-o. I don’t think you’ve quite grasped how OLD profiles work

Top and bottom of it is, you didn’t like some/all of his profile, so …. next. It’s not up to him to tailor his profile to suit you – a random stranger.

I very much want to know the answer to this, Grey!

I shall spend the next 15 minutes reviewing dinosaurs in my head to rank them and give reasons (confined to the couch with an injury, and yes, I am bored)

Pachycephalosaurus is a good one because it's fun to say, Apatosaurus is rather endearing, Ankylosaurus looks like it's permanently grumpy, Deinonychus always seem like they have plenty of attitude, Comsognathus look like road runners or skinny chickens, and I do love chickens.

I am realising the above response is one of the very many, many reasons it's a good job I'm not on OLD.

Less interested in a date, more interested in dinosaur trivia.

Mine is the Diplodocus. However I loathe them being called Dip Low Dock Us when it's obviously Dip Lod O Cuss. That would be my deal breaker.

I couldn’t be arsed with this rubbish if I’m honest! If a guy wants to chat then have a normal conversation. I’m not going to the trouble of finding ‘interesting facts’ just to suit some guy who might be a waste of time! And I’ve found people who write such shit in their profiles asking people to message them with ‘facts’ or other stuff are a waste of time anyway! Don’t care if it’s to filter out bots, they’ll find out if I’m a bot or not just through simple, normal conversation! I’m not running about after someone who demands I message them in a certain way! For me - swipe left and move on to the next one!

Doyouthinkhesawus

Old cracker joke but appropriate for a dating site...

This is really quite horrible. Why would you say this to someone? Just because you don’t share her dating criteria?! Seriously.

If I were single and favoured the ladies (I’m assuming, here), I’d date you! 🤣

I LOVE random facts (yours was fabulous, @gannett). I met DH OLD and one of our first conversations was just about interesting collective nouns (a flamboyance of flamingoes, a nuisance of cats - some of them are really great).

Some people would have zero interest in that sort of conversation, and they wouldn’t be suited to either of us. I had many perfectly fine, but unremarkable conversations with perfectly nice men who I didn’t fancy meeting, and didn’t go on to marry.

And that’s the thing - there’s no right or wrong in this context, just lots of different people want different things.

Additionally, I also required that men do all the running. Chiefly because of laziness, but also because I am pretty fabulous and I expected them to recognise that and make a considerable amount of effort. This might not be a dynamic that’s to some women’s taste (each to their own), but it certainly always worked for me.

When I was on an app, a guy had 'tell your best Would You Rather', so I opened up with one.

We're married now.

We’d clearly be soulmates! 😂

Have to say I do hate the ‘do you prefer chinese or Indian’ type questions - that really tells you nothing. Though worst question I had was a guy asking ‘guess what football team I support’ - errrr there’s 92 league teams so we could be here all day.

Many people think that loofahs are from under the sea. Actually they are from a climbing plant and grow like cucumbers. The green covering is then stripped off and they are dried in the sun.

Up until the 17th century rainbows were 3 colours. The distinction of R O Y G B I V was arbitrary. Plato mentions rainbows having 3 colours, and in old paintings they are red yellow and blue.

I hate stuff like that, I'm not a performing monkey.

How does «would you rather» work?

“Would you rather have three tiny nostrils, or one giant one?” That kind of thing.

I like traditional roles of men pursuing and trying to impress the lady

I'm confused @Puffpuffpuff. If you were never going to message him because you want to be pursued, why would it matter?

If he'd pursued you, I doubt it would be by demanding random facts.

Blocking him for a single sentence you didn't like seems odd- unless you've got loads of good options.

I don't consider sending a first message saying hello as pursuing, having said that, 99% of the time I don't message first even if I liked his profile.
This guy could've been typing up a message when I blocked or could have moved on to other profile. I tend to look at who viewed me, check their profile out and block them outright if they are a definite no.

I'd be really put off by this. If he posted his own interesting fact and invited you to provide yours that would be one thing. But trying to catch you out by asking you to provide one to prove you've read the profile comes off as slightly arrogant and I agree, passive and as if he's asking you to audition for his interest. We definitely seem to be in a new age where men want to be chased and impressed, which is fine if you're into that but as someone who is quite feminine and wants a traditional dynamic I found this very disconcerting and it was a massive contributer to why I eventually gave up on OLD altogether!

Disclaimer: I've never done OLD.

I would like this though, I love random interesting facts (and am delighted by the ones on this thread already!). I would expect a fact back, and hopefully take it from there.

I most definitely would not be looking for a traditional man though and I don't consider myself traditional either.

I don't consider sending a first message saying hello as pursuing

It is, though. It’s making the first move. If you want to be ‘pursued’, then wait to be pursued.