Does anyone have experience dating/marrying someone who smokes weed?

[sophiebrooks123]

Hello fellow MNers. I know people will have strong views on this but ideally I am looking for experienced answers from women/(even men) who have dated or married someone who regularly smokes weed.

With it becoming legal in some states in the USA now, you can only wonder if it will eventually treacle down to Europe. I have friends who out right would never like there partner to smoke daily, I have other friends who have no issue with there husband smoking nightly before bed. My question to you is

1. Have you noticed it negatively effect your partners mood/your relationship (eg snappy when hasn't smoked, or completely fine without the weed and uses it more as a relaxant, like you would a wine before bed)
2. Have you noticed it have any negative affect on raising children (eg more tired, grumpy without weed, no patience with children unless high)
3. Have you noticed your partner more concerned about being around friends TO smoke weed, eg forced you/your partner to constantly see friends so he doesn't smoke alone And any other experience you may want to share/recommend!

Dp smokes every day and I still feel like I couldn't have chosen a better father and partner.

It would be depending on the person who smokes

It does depend on the person smoking it and weed does effect people differently.

Currently dating someone who smokes it and it doesn’t really effect him in a negative way but it does effect who his friends are, his friends disappear when he doesn’t smoke it so I feel he continues as a social thing more than the medical reason he claims to smoke it for.

I dated someone else who smoked it and her was constantly paranoid and on edge, he kept accusing people of doing things that were not even possible, was paranoid someone would burgle his house and paranoid that people were spying in him. He didn’t have a big social circle and I can see why. It wasn’t something I could put up with 😬

yep, me. my exh smoked all day everyday, had severe moods when he ran out. terrible human being, and in the end diagnosed with schizphrenia induced by it. stayed too long and its one of my biggest regrets. when i started dating again, one of my deal breakers was smoking, no way would i date anyone who smokes just normal cigs let alone weed.

No because I wouldn’t want to be with someone using weed. It can have a devastating effect on MH. It’s still illegal and stinks. I wouldn’t want my kids round it.

No. I wouldn't touch anyone who smoked fags, never mind weed, with a bargepole in the first place never mind marry them, it's a massive dealbreaker.

Ex BF, he was nightly user so presumably dependent, but didn't seem to affect moods. But I only saw him once or twice a week so I didn't expect to see any changes. Apart from leaving his house stinking, I don't recall any detriments.

Smoke? No.

Edibles once a month or so to relax and have a giggle, yeah fine.

Nope, I'd never be with anyone who was involved in the illegal drugs trade and all it entails, i.e. child slavery, money laundering, organised criminal gangs, etc.

I’m rather liberal with these things. Edibles or a joint when the kids are away and cared for, very occasionally- no issue.

But someone who was persistently smoking, smelled of weed, spending £££ of family money to smoke daily? Pothead loser- no thanks. I don’t care if they are a mellow, happy, non-paranoid stoner.

Wouldn't be around a drug user.

@Kazzyhoward that's way over the top!!!! Not all ppl who do drugs are in gangs and child slavery ffs

Two of my exes did. They claimed they weren't addicted but would get stroppy and one of them even downright aggressive if they couldn't get it. They put it before everything else. And it fucking stinks. I have higher standards now I'm older and I wouldn't even see someone casually who smokes it. 99% of people I've met who smoke weed regularly are utter losers, sorry but it's true.

This!

Fiancé smokes a joint at night a couple of times per week. This will be a very boring answer because there is simply nothing to comment on. Doesn’t affect him negatively in the slightest, just enjoys a small joint to relax.

Hmm...i remember weed in my uni days used to make me feel like someone was standing right next to my shoulder the whole of the next day. Not in a creepy way or paranoia but just like someone was literally standing in my space. I'd keep looking. Then at uni one day we had a lesson about the links between it's use - and the development of schizophrenia. So I made a point of never touching it again! I hadn't even thought about the damage it might be doing because it's side effects weren't a big deal. Far less bothersome than hangovers.

I think anyone over an extended period of time using it could be susceptible to serious longterm mental health implications. Some people may notice nothing or simply shrug the side effects off as nothing big or worrysome. Until maybe its too late.

So I don't think I'd like a partner smoking it regularly. If they had it a couple of times a year then I probably wouldn't bat an eye but I'd make sure to talk with them about just being aware of how it affected them afterwords and to take note of even the little things.

How can they take note of changes to their norm if their norm is smoking it every day?
There could be a gradual decline into madness.
It's too risky imo.

@bringon2024 no but they help fund it!

But they're buying drugs from gangs etc, either directly or indirectly, thus feeding the criminality!

I’m married to a long term smoker (both weed and tobacco). Weed probably not daily but definitely a few times per week, been together 35 years and when we first met I was a smoker of tobacco and had the occasional joint (but never really enjoyed as made me paranoid). I gave up tobacco aged 21 but he’s always continued. It is a bone of contention mainly because of the money (which is huge) and smell, which I hate. Would I have stayed all those years ago knowing what I know now…? I’m not sure. He uses it as a wind down after work as he’s hyper and has a high energy stressful job. In all other ways he’s a fantastic husband. Loving, caring, happy and a great father. No mood swings. I look at friend’s relationships now and all seem to have certain things. I guess you have to decide what you want long term. Also, will weed lead him to the class As which is a whole other thing.

Where do you think these drugs come from? I'm a foster parent. I've fostered a two teens who were used to sell and transport drugs. Ripped away from their parents for their own safety.

You see this is the trouble with weed. People think it's harmless and don't look at the bigger picture.

Also a thought but, i wouldn't want some dodgy suppilier knowing where I live. It's not just your friendly neighbourhood hippy these days, the people who have these things are usually into other stuff.

Depends how often they smoke it. If its occasionally, fine but I dated someone who smoked weed throughout the day and it ruined our relationship. Although apparently its not physically addictive it seemed to be an emotional crutch that was difficult to go without. He was unmotivated and sedentary to the point of hardly moving at all and I ended the relationship in pursuit of a life outside the four walls.

My partner and I both smoke a joint before bed every evening.
No negative affects from either of us 🤷‍♀️.
Ps we don't touch alcohol that doe's often cause lots of problems in relationships!

Come off it foe a week entirely.
That's the only way to know if there are 'no negative side effects'. An alcoholic doesn't notice the bad things when they are still drunk.

My partner and I both smoke regularly, but we also take breaks for weeks or months at a time where we won't smoke at all. It doesn't affect us negatively. We work full time in good jobs, never behind on bills, keep a clean home, eat well and exercise daily. Neither of us drink alcohol, nor do a lot of our friends who smoke weed. That's something I've noticed about a lot of cannabis smokers.

Regarding the original post, there are too many variables to give a general answer to the OP's questions.

• The constitution of the individual
• The strain (sativa or indica)
• If the weed is legal (grown responsibly and properly) or illegally (sprayed with pesticides, headaches and paranoia inducing...)
• HOW they consume (eaten, smoked alone or with tobacco, vaped etc).
• If the person has a pre-existing medical condition/mental health issues

Where on earth do you think drugs come
from?

how are they sourced and produced?