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Fab & Glam Part 4 - Spring into Happiness!

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Paddlechick666 · 17/03/2008 13:26

Good Lord people, we've filled a thread up in about 6 weeks!

Anyways, here's a link to the venue Tanee suggested for a picnic:

www.coramsfields.org/index.php

Looks fabulous so let's get planning!

ps: sorry for London/Southern centric take on this but we'll plan hits around the rest of the country too I promise.

pps: Lily, get yer butt on FB woman!

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ginnedup · 07/05/2008 11:55

I have someone a bit tactless at work too. I used to get offended but now its like water off a ducks back.

BTW - I'm going to Al Anon on Monday. I'm quite scared but I think its something I need to do for my own sanity really. Wish me luck.

Dior · 07/05/2008 12:40

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Tanee58 · 07/05/2008 14:30

Hi everyone, sorry I haven't been around the past week - caught up in election stuff and then sleeping it all off! And all for what???

Baffy, how are your eyes? The drops should help. I was lucky - they were fine - but it takes different people differing lengths of time to recover. I realised the other day that I can read pretty small print now, 18 months after the op. The improvement's been so gradual, I didn't notice. Lilyloo, have the cabbage leaves helped ?

I'm feeling great because the sun is shining - which is just as well, as last night one of my front teeth fell out . It's a crown and I saw the dentist about it two weeks ago - but he can't fix it till next week. DD thinks it's hilarious - she says I look like a Hillbilly. I'm at work with the thing sort of wedged in (can't afford the cement the dentist suggested I use - may try chewing gum!!). At least my boss says I don't have to answer the phones and I'm terrified of it popping out every time I speak to someone.

OK, I can hear you all laughing.....

Tanee58 · 07/05/2008 14:41

Oh, and DP has gone off to Gloucester to start rehearsals for his next tour - so now he misses me, he says. Last week he actually started complaining on Friday night because I poured myself a glass of wine out of 'his bottle'. Said he knew I was unhappy about his drinking, and he was trying to monitor it. WTF?

He also said he'd been so fed up with the stress of not being able to pay his side of the expenses, that it was poisoning his feelings for me, that he'd been thinking that we should sell up, divide the proceeds (as if that would get us anything in London!) and go our seperate ways as this is going to happen every time he's not working and he's afraid of losing it again and ending up in court - again.

I said, thanks for coming to all these conclusions without discussing them with me! I suggested we need to talk to someone, and he didn't rule it out, just said isn't there a long waiting list. Well, since he's away for 4 months, that should give us enough time to wait. I also said that, since I'd done most of the work of dealing with solicitors & agents when we were buying the house as he'd been on tour, and we both knew how stressful that had been, if he was serious about selling up, I would leave it to HIM to do it all. I love our house, I love us as a couple, and I love him, so I am not going to do ANYTHING towards destroying all that.

Anyway, he won't be home for 2 weeks - hope it gives him time to get things into perspective. I think separation suits us, to be honest. I've quite enjoyed pottering about the place on my own, watching whatever we like with DD and not shutting the cats out of the bedroom!

He just strikes me as being so incredibly immature about this. Oh, it's causing me stress, so I'll just bail out now.

A 10 year old brat cunningly disguised as a 54 year old man .

I hope ALL his teeth fall out!

Tanee58 · 07/05/2008 14:42

GU - good luck with Al Anon

Dior, you are just a little CokeHead - and FWIW, you are NOT a fat bint!

Dior · 07/05/2008 17:16

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HappyWoman · 07/05/2008 17:20

oh dior i have that fear too - apparently dreaming of it means there is change happening in your life. (Either happening or you wanting one!!!!).

Dior · 07/05/2008 17:22

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HappyWoman · 07/05/2008 17:28

well that as well - but i must have been afraid for a long time.

I remember having those dreams when i was pg so there was change on the way .

ginnedup · 07/05/2008 17:52

Oh Tannee - how awful for you!!
I used to have nightmares about all my hair falling out, and I think that means a fear of change too (or just that I am vain!)
I know what you mean about liking having the house to yourself, P is in London visiting his Mum in hospital atm and of course lots of drowning his sorrows as usual so I am on my own this week and I love it. Especially having the whole bed to myself and not being woken up by the snoring.
Hopefully some time apart will make him realise what he stands to lose and what his life would be like without you and dd in it.

Paddlechick666 · 07/05/2008 18:48

tannee, that's happened to my mum a couple of times and i was a horrid daughter and told her she looked witchy too

i had a horrible dream this morning in which h turned up with a new woman wanting to introduce dd it was very weird as dd was about 7yrs old in my dream but i knew it was 3 yrs since this all began.

in my dream i walloped him around the chops and tried in vain to tell the OW what a nightmare he is didn't feel good when i woke up tho

dd is being very challenging at the mo, it's like having a teenager in the house without the grumpy monosyllabic silence!

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Dior · 07/05/2008 20:21

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Baffy · 08/05/2008 09:27

Just a quick hello. I'll catch up properly as soon as I can.

My eyes are much better thanks. Still some redness and they get quite tired/dry when I'm working at the computer all day. But very pleased so far

Having such a hard time. There's just not enough of me to go around. I can't do this job and be a single mum. I just can't do it. Something's gotta give.
No idea what though!

Catch up soon xx

Tanee58 · 08/05/2008 10:54

Hi Baffy, hope the computer isn't straining the eyes too much. Use lots of drops and turn down the contrast - and take plenty of breaks from the screen - if you can! Sorry you're feeling under strain - it really is so hard as you're doing two full-time jobs at once. No man really appreciates that.

GU, know what you mean about the bed - except that my cats have now moved in, so I now find myself penned in by small furry bodies instead of one large relatively unfurry one - BUT - they don't snore!

Yes, I know the teeth dream is supposed to imply insecurity and change - that sounds appropriate! I used to dream about it all the time when I first had this crown done when I was about 14 - but now it's happening for real! I pass this taxi cab office on the way to work each morning, and one of the drivers always says hallo. This morning he decided to chat and said 'You always have a lovely smile' - and I had to try to match his expectations without my tooth popping out to shock him!

Oh, and I entered the office with blood pouring down my arm - cut my finger washing out a tin can this morning, and it started gushing again just as I reached the door. My boss played nurse and commented that I'm having a pretty bad week, and what can go wrong next?

DP said last night that he's sorry he's not around to see his 'old lady' sleeping with her tooth in a glass by the bed! Do you want to hit him, or shall I (except I can't, because I'll start bleeding again!) (trying to but dare not!)

HappyWoman · 08/05/2008 12:30

Hi everyone

Having a crap day today - and not even sure why - could be PMT dont usually suffer too much though. I just feel in a bad mood with everyone and everything.

PC those dreams are awful arent they? you sort of dont feel real for a while. Something similar happening here though. My sil who is only divorced less than a year is going to marry again to a chap with DC - she cant understand why xbil is fuming and wants to know all about this new chap. She is truely on another planet - and blaming everyone for getting involved. I am going to keep my distance and enjoy the fireworks from a distance as it were .

I have the house to myself too tonight - but i dont want to. Too much to do and no motivation.

Dior · 08/05/2008 12:42

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HappyWoman · 08/05/2008 12:54

Dior hes not in Birgingham is he? - mine is.

Dior · 08/05/2008 12:55

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HappyWoman · 08/05/2008 12:55

Birmingham

Dior · 08/05/2008 12:55

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Baffy · 08/05/2008 14:16

Tanee - your post made me

Hope the hand, and tooth, are ok xx

HW she does sound like she's on another planet! Poor xbil I hope he's ok

Tanee58 · 08/05/2008 14:51

Glad to have been able to brighten your day .
I've just spent an hour taking boxes of redundant election paper to the tip - I always draw the short straw because I'm the only one in the office with a car - the things I do for this job! I do feel I've had my fill of recycling today!

PC - that dream's awful and I can understand it haunting you - it would do the same to me - try to think that, according to the language of dreams, negative ones sometimes mean the opposite...

I've just had an awful thought - DP's going to Norfolk for a night in early July to see the first night of the season there and again later on when his own company play a few dates around the county - and it's just struck me that he'll probably stay with Norfolk Lady (he only told me this a couple of nights ago, when we were discussing when we'd be able to see each other in the next four months). A year ago it wouldn't have worried me overly, but after the moods he's had this year, I really hope he doesn't fall into her arms. I'm sure she'll be jolly happy to catch him!

Sorry, just having a paranoid moment here. Must be due to blood loss (sheepish ).

Baffy · 08/05/2008 16:25

Can you go with him Tanee?? Romantic night in a hotel maybe!

Tanee58 · 08/05/2008 17:06

Nope, I'm going to expose him to temptation and see how he measures up! Besides, she looks older than I, even if she has all her own teeth !

HappyWoman · 08/05/2008 18:23

I am near enough to pop in and check if you like . Threaten him with me and dior playing at PIs.

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