Fab & Glam Part 4 - Spring into Happiness!

[Paddlechick666]

Good Lord people, we've filled a thread up in about 6 weeks!

Anyways, here's a link to the venue Tanee suggested for a picnic:

www.coramsfields.org/index.php

Looks fabulous so let's get planning!

ps: sorry for London/Southern centric take on this but we'll plan hits around the rest of the country too I promise.

pps: Lily, get yer butt on FB woman!

It's a good job I have GU

TFM - but I thought you were a hairy biker, not a little old lady!

GU yes, his problems go too deep to learn his lesson this once. I was fairly cool with him last night but it was difficult to stay cool with his mother & her best friend there & after they'd gone to bed we sat up for some time chatting quite amicably (whilst listening to his mother snoring the house down in the next room!) Things were ok this morning but I still feel a bit down about it.

Really glad your DP is behaving well, though. I expect he doesn't want the beer shampoo treatment again !

I have many guises Tanee, it all depends on the situation I knew Baffy would fall for a little old lady....

by the way, I was thinking about you yesterday although I don't really know the full story, I must have been 'on leave' at the time you posted the details.

Thanks TFM - the full story's on FB - GU and I have partners who've done similar stupid things whilst under the influence - I sometimes wonder if we're with the same man !

Maybe Tanee. it's that all men are the same, they just come in a different assortment

Personally I'd prefer an assortment of chocolates!

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TFM

You always manage to make me smile!

I read my stars when I was in the hairdressers last night (much needed pampering session!) and it said not to give up on a daydream that I've been having and my subconscious has the answer...

I've been awake half the night begging my bloody subconscious to just give me the freakin answer... but still no joy!!

If you know someone's full name and previous address it can't be that bloody hard to find out their current address can it?! I really feel like I must be missing something obvious here...

I'm glad I make you smile it's a gift you know

Shall I give you my take on things? I think fate sent that man your way to make you realise what you were missing, to stir feelings in your loins , to give you a push in the right direction and to give H a shift further to the back of your mind, to switch your focus and to remind you that H is not the only man for you (have I gone on enough there?) BUT, fate also played a hand in making him disappear again because she knows that you have a little more work to do on yourself yet, you have a few things to sort before she allows a really nice man into your life. She wants you to be ready, for your life, your head and your heart to be totally in the right place and ready to embrace your perfect man and a wonderful relationship.

When the time is right, and only when the time is right, will fate throw a telephone directory at your feet and it will land open at the page with his name and number on it

TFM!

The sad thing is, I know you're right!!

I bet you are having some nice dreams though aren't you and dreams are good, often better than real life!

Very true!

And none of the RL hassle!

Corrrrrrect!

Hi all

Sorry not been around much - have had a few health issues which have kept me pre-occupied. Cant believe another week is over - and another busy weekend ahead.

Dior i too am really stuggling with the weight so i know exactly how you feel. just wish i could feel happy the way i am.

I wish I had some words of wisdom re the weight issue

Dior I wonder if you don't have the motivation as you don't want to do it just for him, you want to be doing it for yourself. I know that quite often I have this subconscious thing where I'll dig my heels in if someone is saying I have to do something, but the minute the pressure is off, I do it anyway because I want to.

Does that make sense?!

It's nothing like the issues you're both having. But I have a gorgeous dress I want to get into for my 30th party next week, and all I need to do is cut down a tiny bit for these few weeks so that it 'swishes' around my hips rather than clings to them for dear life!!

But here I am, yet another day where by 11am I've eaten a bagel, packet of crisps and a chocolate bar!!

I'm mega stressed in work so I tell myself I need the sugar rush! Which I do! But deep down I know that it just isn't registering on my list of 'important' things and at the moment, it's like my head can only cope with the 4 or 5 key things I need to do to get through each day. There's so much that demands my attention and has to be priority. So the rest can wait until tomorrow!!

I think perhaps we all need that incentive to do the difficult things in life. And Dior, perhaps if you know you're doing it for the wrong reasons (i.e. just to address his appalling attitude to your weight) then that's why you can't get motivated.

I know it's a vicious circle though as it gets you down too. I'm just wondering what the issues are behind you not being able to do anything about it right now. I wish I had a magic solution!

HW are you feeling better??

So Baffy, if everyday I tell you to stuff your self silly, eat for England and gorge the calories you will dig your heels in and not do it so, that dress will be swishing round your hips before you know it!

Failing that, you could always get some of those strong, elasticted big knickers that Gok watisname reccommends

I've just blown it all completely! Chinese banquet for lunch and two glasses of wine, and now I'm eating chocolate biscuits and drinking tea to try and sober up and get through the rest of the day!!

Just buy the big knickers Baffy, and don't forget to post a pic of you in them on FB!

You sound to have had a great lunch anyway!

My mum and sister brought ds over to meet me and we have the best chinese restaurant ever, right next door to my work so we had a lovely lunch

Extra panels sound great!!

And I think there's already enough knicker pictures on FB!!

I can't face the big knickers thing... what if I wear them on the one night I pull the most gorgeous bloke ever!! Not that I couldn't remove them swiftly and go commando if necessary!! But imagine the if I got into a nice kiss and cuddle without thinking ahead and he grabbed hold of my bum and felt a knicker line like my Grandma's!! The shame!!

I know I think ahead a lot!! But it matters to me!!

Hi all - need a slap quick !!
H tried it on again this morning and when I calmly said no what did he thing our relationship is - he actually stopped and managed to say quite reasonably that he thought we should sort it out and he wanted to come home ....Of course he then walked out door before we could have any sort of conversation
Have spent all day a bit distracted TBH - I really don't want him home - I AM happy with my girls we are coping and in fact I am much less stressed than after DD1 cos I haven't got him around acting like a prat...
I feel I am starting to get my act together and actually quite like my life - the thought of him back in it (properly) frankly terrifies me and have felt quite panicked all day.....and of course I don't trust him AT ALL !!!
The problem is I know how good he is at manipulating me and making me think this is best for all of us ....but in my heart I know its not what I want Help !!

Ah well Baffy, you need the ones with the legs that extend down to the knees. Just don't let him put his hand on your knee cos that where all the fat gathers. The bit that gathers at the top is no problem cos you just shove that in your bra. Gok watsisname says you should never let a man see you in your magic pants, you have to nip to the loo and whip em' off just before the erm, moment arises

And never mind at him grabbing th knicker line. I'm at the thought of what he might grab if you go commando!

commando would certainly put a smile on a bloke's face though!!

pmsl at the fat gathering at the knees!!

macd - if deep down you know it's not what you want and the thought terrifies you then you really have to stick with that thought.

has it shaken you up because you were getting used to things and now you're thinking of all the 'what if's'... what if he could be a good dad? what if he could be the husband you deserve?

the thing is though, has he actually done anything to prove he has changed? nope! he still lets you down constantly and treats you with no respect. plus you have that massive hurdle that if you let him back, you have to go some way to accepting his co-parent relationship with ow. there is so much to consider. as you know!

and he is one cheeky bugger just saying he wants to come home and expecting you to accept it.

if you can, you really need to make some time and talk to him properly. don't let these things fester and eat away at you. explain to him exactly why that isn't going to happen right now and the million things he would need to do if it would ever happen!

then see if he can actually make a consistent change in his behaviour.
then, and only then, you can think further and take it from there...

until then stay strong and keep enjoying your quiet life with your dds xx

MacD - He didn't hang around to discuss it though did he. Maybe he thought if he said that you would let him have his wicked way!
If you feel panicked about him coming back then hold on to that thought and don't let him try and persuade you.
You've done so well coping with your 2 girls on your own and he would only confuse things.
Baffy - lol at the pants! Nothing wrong with planning for all eventualities.
I'm off to Cosmos with P and my lovely 'step daughter' to stuff my face. I'll be the size of a house if I don't stop scoffing soon.
Have a good weekend everyone.

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