Fab & Glam Part 4 - Spring into Happiness!

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Good Lord people, we've filled a thread up in about 6 weeks!

Anyways, here's a link to the venue Tanee suggested for a picnic:

www.coramsfields.org/index.php

Looks fabulous so let's get planning!

ps: sorry for London/Southern centric take on this but we'll plan hits around the rest of the country too I promise.

pps: Lily, get yer butt on FB woman!

nope it didn't lily

I know my aunty used to know one of his friends from the gym.

Just spoke to her and she hasn't got any contact numbers though

Ah well.

I think this may have to be one of those daydreams!

If we're meant to meet again I'm sure we will!!

I promise to shut up boring you all now!

Off to do my next interview and actually do something useful!

Oh how frustrating.
I bet he's kicking himself too that he didn't get your number.
Hopefully fate will run its course and next time you are out you will bump into him. Keep us posted - its not boring, its a nice distraction from breaking up fights and shouting up the stairs to BE QUIET like a mad banshee!!!
I love the holidays

Hi GU, wish I could be at home - not feeling very inspired at work today - but Baffy's romantic quest has perked things up.

Baffy, if it's meant to be, you will find him - if not, you might consider why they split up - maybe he had some habits you might not like!

Baffy either the letter idea then, the visit or h ? You still have plenty of options don't give up yet!

I think, try the letter - you can't lose!

Thanks guys

I won't give up just yet

Just worried I'm becoming a mad stalker!!

I think if it's meant to be then something will happen... I'm easy to find on FB and myspace so maybe he should be the one who gets in touch with me!!

I think I know why they split up, I remember a few of my discussions with her. She was absolutely desperate for a baby and he wasn't ready. Her sister had triplets and she had them round at the house literally every day. Sadly I think that's what broke them up in the end, they just didn't want the same thing at that time and she was obsessed with it.

Now I don't want babies, marriage, committment or any such nonsense!! But a nice date with a lovely bloke would do nicely thank you very much!!

If nothing happens though I think I will focus on Tanee's idea of bad habits! He must have them!!

The letter scares me...

Baffy, with your looks I should think most men would be flattered to be stalked by you !

Keep the note brief and non-committal - it's worth a try!

Sorry not to be around. I have been lurking, but have felt too paranoid to post. I was so worried for TFM and ended up upsetting her. Luckily, she accepted my email apology and I hope is not too upset with me. I mean well but try too hard somethines I think.

I have had a dark couple of weeks anyway. Pills not working and the weather isn't helping. Not much else to say really. I can't justify or quantify the reasons.

All of you who have thought of me on here, thank you. Tanee - your post made me cry (in a good way) but I can tell you that I don't feel too special at the moment. The only one who would notice me not being here would be ds and he is obviously worth sticking around for. Not much point seeing GP as I am on the highest dose of my AD and it is the only one that has ever worked really. I think I am just destined to be a mad cow and I know it will be the end of me one day.

Baffy - I firmly believe in fate and think that you will bump into ex-neighbour soon, if it is meant to be. Then again, a little helping hand doesn't go amiss occasionally! Good luck.

Hi Dior, nice to see you back. Don't be too hard on yourself mate. You have a lot going for you, you are a lovely talented person and I'm proud to call you a friend. I'm not too clued up on depression, so can't give any advice, but I did lose a very close friend to it some years ago so please please don't lose your support network and don't give up trying to beat it.
(((((big hugs))))))

Dior maybe you should see your gp juts to let him know how you feel. Maybe an alternative ad might work now though. You sound really down , hoep you have someone in rl who you can talk to when you feel like this.

Thanks GU and LL. I have been on most ADs in the last 15 years and they all either work for a short time only or don't work at all. Sorry, feeling very negative at the moment. I also have a dodgy stomach and feel like I'm coming down with something!

How are things with you both?

Morning all. No time to catch up so hopefully all ok with everyone.

Just wanted to share my shock/lovely morning.

I have only just got out of bed

Dd3 woke up at 6 but dh was up already with both ds so he shot upstairs took dds and told me to go back to bed. So i did till right now.

Well i have come down to a gleamingly clean kitchen as well as a spotless utility room and a clean office and he's folded all the laundry! I thought i was still dreaming. But no its all for real. This comes on top of him having redecorated the lounge for me over the weekend!

His home for a week so who knows what else shall get done?

Just needed to share that and say gwdh's can change mines proof of that so there is hope for all of yours that still need that kick up the bum!

Better get dressed now we are going shopping. And if new shoes are on the agenda i'll be one happy lady

Great news sugar! Enjoy the shopping!

Sugarpear - wow!! Hope you get some lovely new shoes, too. He decorated the whole lounge? Can I borrow him? We've still not finished our bedroom - but only the new picture rails to install & we hope to get them tomorrow. Really need to get back into our room as we have two lots of houseguests arriving next week. DD is dismayed at the number of DP's friends and family who have descended on us. After this weekend, she actually said she'd welcome our lodger back as she at least was weird, but not dislikeable, and they shared a taste for Haagen Das!

Dior, please try your GP again. I hope you know, deep down, that more than DS would miss you. You are lovely, talented, and I like you - as do we all. Please don't give up.

Baffy - do you have addresses for those phone numbers? If so, just write instead. Say something like, 'I'm trying to trace my old friend XXXXXXX and wonder if you know him or his whereabouts. If so, would you mind passing him my phone number as it would be great to get in touch'.

Feeling a bit odd today - H came over to take DD1 to school this am - and said "what about a sh..g when I get back" - I just pushed him away and said no...instead of his usual getting angry/crude etc he just went really quiet/looked really sad and hasn't rung/texted me all day (usually does about 10x so far)...I don't know if maybe it has sunk in that he has lost me properly....but much as you feel Baffy - after all the OW did to me and him/the lies/deceit (no violence luckily) he still can see no bad in her at all and makes no effort to show me that things will change/he can be trusted then how can it??
I do feel that maybe we are coming to a resolution/end and I can't help but feel terribly sad and disappointed but also relieved and still angry that he could do it to us....so many mixed feelings

he really knows how to romance a girl, doesn't he!

Totally with you on the mixed feelings Mcd.

Have exchanged texts with H today about the divorce papers insisting that I don't want to be in his life anymore and he has made his decision by continuing to put her first.

I'm pretty much begging now that he just signs them before I hand the lot over for the solicitor to deal with and we lose all control (not to mention the money!).

His latest reply... 'I just don't know what's up with me - I'm sorry it's come to this'

What a load of crap. Would you lose your wife and child without knowing and understanding WHY?! No way. He does know. He just won't admit it. To me. Or to himself I think.

I'm not feeling sadness at the moment though. Just anger. And hate.

Not good.

(Good idea about the letters Tanee.)

Anyone heard from TFM? Is she ok?

LOl tanee yes i did get some shoes just need an outfit to match them now! I have plenty more jobs fo r dh to do yet!

Baffy i am so sorry h is still messing you about. I know how much you still would love to get your marriage back on track. But his just not being fair to you. His giving you so many mixed signals. Im so but also for you that he cant snap himself out of himself. Iyswim. Maybe its time to let the solicitors deal with him. He cant mess with their heads and i doubt very much if miss nipple tassles will be bombarding them with nasty text messages. It might also help snap him out of it. But if it doesnt it can only help you to greive for what you have lost and then be able to move on and be happy. It's what we all want for you is just for you to be happy xx

Thanks sugar. You could be right. We're going round in circles so I guess the solicitor will have it done and dusted in no time and even though it's not the way forward I wanted, at least there will be a way forward then.
IYSWIM!

What man in their right mind would throw all this away for a teenage slapper?!

God I have no idea what she has that I don't! Maybe I should be asking her for advice?!

p.s. glad you got the shoes sugar!!

And I meant ask her advice on how to keep a man. Because I obviously can't!

Baffy - she cant keep a man really, and look at how long you did. Remember that because you have done nothing wrong and your h is going to see that soon.

Even if the solicitors start the ball rolling it does not have to be the end if things change in the future. It may cost you a bit more money but i have to say the money i spent on my solicitor (and it was actually quite a lot of money) was money well spent as it gave me the control i needed at the time. I will never again be frightened to take that step if it is the right one to take. Hey and even if it is the 'wrong' thing to do just think of all the wrong things h has done over the past months. You cant do the right thing all the time .

Thinking of you, as i know it is a scary step to take. I know too that a part of you still wants your h to just 'come back' and realise what a twat he has been.