Do I sleep with him?

[fancycat56473]

I (F47) have 3 beautiful children whose father I am amicably divorced from for about 3 years. I recently attended a party and met a lovely gentleman who I will call Paul (fake name) we enjoyed a kiss at the end of the night and he has expressed an interest in seeing me again.....

He seems unwilling to want to go out somewhere e.g a bar or restaurant, and wants me to go over to his house instead. This feels rather forward and he has insinuated that we would have sex. While he is a lovely guy, he is significantly younger than me (24) 😱. From our conversations he does seem to want to be involved in my kids life though - he is not looking to have any of his own.

Please advise. thanks.

At 47 no way !!!!

What do you mean by this?

Who said romance was dead.

So a man half your age has decided he wants sex with you without putting in any effort to date you first?

Who said romance is dead?

It’s up to you OP you’re a grown up but it sounds pretty clear he wants zero effort no strings sex with an older woman. I think the chances of him being involved with your kids afterwards is pretty slim.

If you are happy to be a booty call or for a FWB situation, crack on. If you’re looking for something more serious, keep looking. Paul isn’t your guy.

Reminds me of Paul the Wine Guy from Friends: “Of course it was a line!”

Well it's up to you isn't it.

Sleep with him if you want to.

I wouldn't pin any hopes on this being anything other than one shag though. And, I'm sorry to say it, but it might well be for a dare/similar so check your skin is thick enough first to deal with that.

He does not want to go out with you because being seen with a 47 year old woman will ruin his street cred.

For him, you are a quick shag or two. That's it.

He doesn’t want to go out with you but wants to have a shag! For me that’s showing no effort at all.

hes young enough to be your son!

not a chance.

Do what you want but a man who doesn’t want to take you out is only after one thing. He hasn’t even had the decency to say that he’ll come to you…!

I’d throw Paul back into the sea.

I would not.

he doesn’t want a relationship and is going to say anything to get you in the sack. If you want that then go for it.

Someone who’s interested in having a relationship or at least getting to know someone, doesn’t ask you to go round for sex without a date or any effort.

It’s a booty call and as the PP said it’s a line, sorry OP.

Don't be a mug, he doesn't want a relationship with you.

Oh god, 24, you are going to have to have a thick skin if you go ahead with this. He’s so young, he might see you once, or a few times and not contact you again. Would you be ok with that? I don’t think you’ll find many people on here that would sleep with a 24 year old in their late 40’s, very different generational gap

Eeww no

He wants to be involved in your kids life but is also only interested in an easy shag??

If he can't make the effort to take you on a single date, he's not going to make the effort to be involved with 3 dc!!!

As an aside, not many 24 yr olds would want a long term relationship with someone double their age and 3 dc. The fact he is would make me wary!

Likely he's only looking for nsa fun. If you're up for that, go for it! However the fact he's already leading you on that it would be more is a massive red flag

Hes just after sex

So you snogged once, but he's already expressed an interest in being in your kids lives. What the actual fuck op. I hope you've worded it badly. How old are your kids?

No! And as for telling you - the first time you spoke - that he'd take your kids on?!

Please don't expose your kids to this.

he does seem to want to be involved in my kids life

Jeez OP! You've had one kiss, no dates, he's what 20 years younger and you're taking about his future with your kids.

If this is real and you are really this naive, I think you need to grasp reality pronto!

OP you’re a 47 year old mother of 3 - you can’t seriously be that naive. This man child can’t even buy you a few drinks or dinner, he has pretty much unilaterally decided you’re having sex at his place and you really think he’s planning a future as step daddy? Oh come on

You kissed once and hed like to be involved in your children's lives? 😂

Sounds like he's put you in the desperate section

It could be the homework for his PUA class - they often do a series of „assignments” where they’re supposed to „pull” women from various age groups and then the class discusses what strategies worked or didn’t. Or he just wants to have sex and is telling you what he thinks you want to hear.

Have sex with him if you genuinely want to, for the sake of the actual sex. Otherwise why on earth would you?

A “gentleman “ who only wants sex? He’s no gentleman.
Being very cynical, I’d be worried something would end up on social media!