Do I sleep with him?

[fancycat56473]

I (F47) have 3 beautiful children whose father I am amicably divorced from for about 3 years. I recently attended a party and met a lovely gentleman who I will call Paul (fake name) we enjoyed a kiss at the end of the night and he has expressed an interest in seeing me again.....

He seems unwilling to want to go out somewhere e.g a bar or restaurant, and wants me to go over to his house instead. This feels rather forward and he has insinuated that we would have sex. While he is a lovely guy, he is significantly younger than me (24) 😱. From our conversations he does seem to want to be involved in my kids life though - he is not looking to have any of his own.

Please advise. thanks.

By all means have casual sex with him if that's what you want, but be aware that's all it's likely to be. And yes you might well be a dare. Young men can be very shallow and cruel.

He only said that about your kids to reel you in. Either that or you showed him photos of your hot teen daughters (or sons!) and he's using you to get to them.

OP, this forum is notoriously sex-negative and the responses reflect that.

In response to the poster who mentioned a PUA “assignment” - I dated a “professional PUA” years ago, very cringe. I think this guy would have a bit more game if that was the case, than just asking for sex.

Tbh not many responses are sex negative. Most people (myself included) have said if she's happy with NSA fun then she should go for it.

However, it's OP that sounds like she's looking for more (the fact shes considering whether he'd be willing to be involved with her DC; factoring in whether he wants dc of his own into her decision). If she was happy with casual sex none of this would be a factor in her decision making

What are you on about? People are telling the OP to shag the guy if she wants, but not to be naive enough to think that he’s looking for a relationship with a woman who’s twice his age and has three kids. What’s “sex negative” about that?

NO

he sounds crazy
red flags after one meeting!

Coincidentally, just today I learned the phrase "sex-positive" from a Guardian article about the Killing Kittens community. I am more than passingly intrigued!

He wants to be involved in your kid's lives but not met you out of the house? How does that work?

No, the responses reflect the weirdness of what this guy has said. He won’t even go to a bar/restaurant. He wants to be involved with her kids. These statements after an initial snog are not appropriate so she should steer clear.

Well played OP

Especially the "he does seem to want to be involved in my kids life though".

🤣👏👏

So basically, this man doesn't want to be seen with you in public and wants you to come to him so that he can have sex and then he'll send you away again?

Do you really think so little of yourself? He can't even be bothered leaving the house!

If you want no strings then rock on.

My personal and I completely understand it is my boundaries are if I could have birthed it i ain't shagging it .

Apart from anything else if l were you l'd be concerned about anyone saying they wanted to be involved in my kids lives...l mean, why? That's odd!
OP, if you fancy him and want to have sex with him go ahead, but keep him as a fwb as that's all he is likely to be. He obviously isn't interested in dating you if your first meet up is at his house.

Everything about this sounds awful. Can't you find anyone more appropriate?

You kissed him once and he wants to be involved with your kids?
I've never said this IN MY LIFE but I'm getting pedo vibes! Steer tf clear 😂😂😂

So you want to be an easy shag for a milf hunter, who is also possibly a nonce? Yeah what could possibly go wrong

Why is he wanting to be involved in your kids life ?

Why would your kids even be discussed ?

He sees you as MILF

He’s 24 of course he wants sex!

Apparently - according to flurry of articles I have read recently, younger men looking for older women for a FWB type situation is a bit of a thing atm. So he may just genuinely want that without anything more sinister - doubt he wants to be involved in your kids lives though!

I can’t imagine sleeping with someone with that age gap tbh - they’d be a similar age to my kids. Boak.

The age issue is one thing, gives me the ick personally but you're both adults.

However, he's snogged you once, doesn't want to be seen out with you, clearly no interest in dating you, but wants to be involved with your kids?

What the fuck?

No

OP, you cannot be THAT desperate for male attention, surely? Seriously?

Please have some self respect

This is so ridiculous that its laughable.

If you fancy him and want fun sex why not? But I wouldn't assume anything else.