I'm a single mother with two children divorced 2 years, separated longer. I work part time and earn an average wage with some financial support from the children's dad. He is very involved, co parent well. I'm not well off but we manage, kids have hobbies, I can cope with careful budgeting.
I was not actively looking to meet anyone. Ive been happy and content with being single. But very recently, I met someone quite randomly and got chatting about a similar interest. We have a lot of shares interests. From what I know so far, he seems kind, respectable, intelligent and I enjoy talking to him. We've been for a few dates now and he's keen to do more things together.
The problem is, he seems to have a bigger disposable income than me. His children are grown up and not as dependant. He enjoys a different lifestyle, in terms of eating out, holidays, concerts etc. It's just not what I'm used to. We've had a few casual dates where I've suggested walks, as I'm used to doing free and outdoor activities with the kids, but now he wants to go for more meals out and things, I just don't know what to do. I'm considering just telling him that I can't see him due to the fact we are at different stages and have different lifestyle expectations?? Just because it seems so awkward to say to him, I can't afford this!
Before I had kids, I was career driven but now I don't have a huge interest in earning money and I'd much rather be at home as much as possible with them and avoid childcare costs. It was my plan to go back to work full time once they were up a little bit.
Would you be honest and say this as a way to explain? I really enjoy talking to him but I don't want him or anyone to think I'm hanging on expecting a free ticket to lots of places.
Dating is complicated and why I've stayed away so long!