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boyfriend cancelled on me on Christmas Eve

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letdownchristmas · 24/12/2023 17:53

I had plans to see my boyfriend tonight, he said he was cooking dinner and I'd bought nice breakfast stuff for Christmas morning and he has just cancelled on me saying that he has a had a busy day working and he still needs to have a shower and drive an hour to give his friend a lift to see his family as trains aren't running. I have turned down a family invite to spend time with him and I have expressed that I am unhappy with him and he is prioritising giving a grown adult man a lift who could sort out his own transport over seeing me. He just said well shit happens can't you just drive here in the morning? I said no as he lives 20 miles away and I'm not spending Christmas morning driving up and down the motorway as I'm having Christmas lunch with family. Am I being unreasonable to be furious with him?

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PineConeTea · 26/12/2023 18:00

oh wow, what a rubbish effort from him. I hope he gets coal in his stocking.

AnneValentine · 26/12/2023 19:35

Panaa · 26/12/2023 17:44

This 'level of drama' is hardly any drama. Like where is the drama exactly?

'Grown ups' get angry and upset too you know and have a rant after they split up with someone. It's all normal and not 'drama'.

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They don’t block people and play still games re keys.

Panaa · 26/12/2023 20:00

AnneValentine · 26/12/2023 19:35

They don’t block people and play still games re keys.

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They absolutely do block people.

And what 'silly games' are being played with keys? None

Catandsquirrel · 26/12/2023 20:25

I genuinely would block this man. Not stirring.

Point being that he could have resolved this and done both (helped friend and seen OP) with a bit of extra effort and he choose not to. That says far too much about his interest level to bother keeping lines of communication open when he has been dismissive to her. It wasn't just any old day, it was their Christmas eve together that someone keen would have been looking forward to.

I'm not getting the 'high drama' points at all. Just a good candidate for clearing the decks for the new year and not leaving things hanging. He can send a written apology or something if it's all been a terrible misunderstanding. Sometimes a clean break is best for moving on.

GothConversionTherapy · 26/12/2023 20:31

StephanieLampshade · 26/12/2023 16:50

Goodness. What a drama and what spectacular self sabotage egged on by some posters here.

He's a good friend. How could his friend have rented a car at the last minute on Christmas Eve? You seriously would rather this chap missed seeing his family at Christmas and that your BF prioritised a girlfriend of six months over a friend he has for years?

Blocking someone on Christmas Eve is destructive, cruel and made any compromise impossible (you'd blocked him early on Christmas Eve evening thus preventing and duscussion).

You seem determined to be right and to get your way rather than on working as a team with a partner to resolve differences and come up with solutions.

I feel sorry for your ex boyfriend.

I suspect you'll feel differently about this in time.

😂😂😂

AnneValentine · 26/12/2023 20:42

Panaa · 26/12/2023 20:00

They absolutely do block people.

And what 'silly games' are being played with keys? None

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I don’t know anyone over the age of 18 who blocks people they’re supposed to be in a relationship with.

FiddleLeaf · 26/12/2023 20:43

AnneValentine · 26/12/2023 20:42

I don’t know anyone over the age of 18 who blocks people they’re supposed to be in a relationship with.

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Perhaps they don’t share because of your judgmental manner?

SamW98 · 26/12/2023 20:45

Panaa · 26/12/2023 20:00

They absolutely do block people.

And what 'silly games' are being played with keys? None

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Absolutely. I totally understand why should blocked him to stop him disturbing her peace over Christmas. The way he let her down, he doesn’t deserve access to her.

And as for wanting her keys back being drama - it’s common sense imo.

Panaa · 26/12/2023 20:48

AnneValentine · 26/12/2023 20:42

I don’t know anyone over the age of 18 who blocks people they’re supposed to be in a relationship with.

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She said she's finished with him, that's why she blocked and wants her keys back.

burntbagel · 26/12/2023 22:26

I sort of agree with @AnneValentine here it seems quite extreme and leaves no room for dialogue at all
I have never blocked anyone

SamW98 · 26/12/2023 22:29

burntbagel · 26/12/2023 22:26

I sort of agree with @AnneValentine here it seems quite extreme and leaves no room for dialogue at all
I have never blocked anyone

The OP didn’t want any dialogue with him over Christmas and blocked him for a few days for her own piece of mind. She wanted a peaceful Christmas without him messaging or calling with shoddy excuses.

1982mommaof4 · 28/12/2023 00:53

I skin read your post because YANBU I'd be furious

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