Partner took everything he got me

[lostxlonely]

So in a fight a few months ago my partner took all the gifts he brought me because I lost something of his he said he brought me things with the intention I would take care of his things and since I haven’t he took it all back months later he still hasn’t gave me anything back. The only thing left is a perfume he got me and he keeps saying where is it and he wants it since I don’t use it and his running low. I mean it’s not about the gifts it’s the fact that I’ve never met anyone like this? I’ve never taken back gifts or had them taken but these must not be gifts if that’s the intent he got them with? I thought we buy things for people with love? Don’t want to accept anything from him going forward.. What do you all think?
we are a family with a 1 year old.

Just saw your other thread, not sure what you’re looking for. The only solution is to dump your worthless, pointless fella. Ensure you’ve done courses on self esteem and raised your standards before even considering dating anyone again.

Ok, well the police should have been called then. Abusers have a boring script they all follow, ‘threatening’ suicide is part of it. This violent male should not be around your kid.

www.womensaid.org.uk/

www.freedomprogramme.co.uk/online.php

https://outofthefog.website/

I called 999 and was in the process of giving them the address until he got his fist in my face and I cut off out of fear

Honestly, I think he’s sold the lot . His ‘lost’ necklace included.

but luckily, you have accepted it’s all your fault. Probably still apologising for it . bet he thinks he’s it

ick ick ick get rid 🤮🤮

Call the police and get him sectioned for being crazy/suicidal. If its fake he will stip if its real he needs the help. Either way he us not safe around your 1year old.

The police would do a subscriber check on the call and still come.

It depends whether she's actually got through to them.

He sounds really horrible. I bet he lost that, too, and is gaslighting you.

OP do you have somewhere safe you can go? This man is an abuser and for the sake of you and your children please consider putting an action plan in place to put some distance between you. Some useful links on this thread. Wishing you lots of love

Your partner is dangerous and you have a one year old. You need to get rid of this man for your and your child's safety.

Please seek help OP. This is only going to escalate. You need to get yourself and child to safety. Womens Aid is an excellent place to start.

Follow up on this sometime when he's not around.

He's an abusive, manipulative shit.

Leave before he kills you.

Keep reading this. It’s so unhealthy:

This is about control not the gifts.

This is horrendous. For you and your baby I hope you reach out to friends or family in real life, or women's aid, for support and leave him.

Get rid. This is not a functioning relationship.

Blimey woman, get yourself out of that relationship asap. He’s violent, controlling and brings nothing to the table. Find yourself someone who loves you and treats you well…..and isn’t a threat to you and your child’s safety.

Ah fuck that, bin him, you will be better of without him, he is an abusive fuck!

He's actually costing you money, as you wouldn't pay full council tax if you lived alone.

You are in a horrible, unsafe, unhealthy set up. Please make plans to get him out. You are not responsible for his actions when he leaves. Imagine how calm and safe your home will be for your child with just you two.

Best of luck.

Woah....the gifts are the least of your problems

Please read your last post back to yourself out loud. What would you say if your daughter said this to you?

Please leave him, it's the best xmas gift you can give yourself.

@lostxlonely i was with someone like this many years ago. Accusations of infidelity, taking back gifts, actual physical abuse. This is what you are experiencing he is dangerous very dangerous. Phone 999 again get him removed or remove yourself with the aid of police. He thinks he is hurting you by taking his “love gifts”.
If you do not end this , it WILL get worse.
If he decides to give you the “gifts” back sell or throw especially the perfume.
I loathe with a passion men like this.

I think you have enough in him to call the police and have him removed and charged if you want that. He is, from what you’ve said, controlling, abusive, gaslighting and violent.
Make a list of every abusive, controlling thing he’s done and report to the police.
Refarding his lost necklace. Why should you think you’re responsible? You have no memory of losing it and it’s probably as likely down to him as it is you.
I hope you have a better 2024 without him.

You're not a 'family'. he's 100% in it for himself and you have no legal protection when you do finally see the light about his abusive, twattish behaviour and tell him to get to fuck.

Do it sooner rather than later so your baby doesn't remember living with him.

Wow, I’d pay the council to take him to the nearest dump. There’s no way I’d want my child to be around such an abusive wankstain.